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LadyEllen -> RE: BBW's, Is this something as a society that we should encourage? (5/12/2007 5:33:28 AM)
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Almost every female in my ex's family has a "weight problem". This could be due to some sort of family over feeding or lack of exercise, but given they dont all live together and havent since childhood, this is unlikely I feel. Additionally, the "weight problem" only begins in the mid twenties/early thirties for them, before which they are of pretty "normal" size. This tells me that it must be something genetic that causes it - some trigger within them that causes them to put on weight in adulthood.
Some of them have been to gyms and tried all sorts to reduce their sizes. Of those that have done this and persevered, yes they have lost weight and reduced size, but even the most committed has never realised a "normal" size. There seems to be a limit, beyond which their bodies are not meant to go and will not go, regardless of diet and exercise. Again, this points for me to some genetic trait that makes their larger size, normal for them.
Then there are people like me in the world. I can eat whatever I want, and these days at least I take little exercise. By "common sense" thinking, I ought to be 300lbs in weight. But I'm not - my system just seems to refuse to put on weight. Even in my weight training days, when I ate thousands of calories a day to try to get bigger, it made no difference whatever. It would seem then, that my genetics will not allow me to be anything other than the size which is right for me.
So having established that some are simply not genetically built to be anything size 12 or under, we have to look into the psychological effects of this in a society where size 12 or over is considered a terrible thing. The effects I have seen are that these women, all of whom are attractive women and generally nice people, all have incredibly bad self image. And this only seems to make their "problem" worse, in that they give up and get on with confirming to themselves and others that they are fat and convince themselves that they are unattractive, despite husbands et al confirming the contrary.
Yes, there likely are some (GUYS and gals) who overeat and dont exercise enough, but some people are born to be of a certain size, and the judgements of others about them and their size are not helpful. If one doesnt like it, then thats one's opinion, but it does no good whatever to keep going on about it, and in fact only does harm.
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