RE: Constructive Ideas Needed

Velvet, I do understand your concept, I just do not believe it works, nor that is any different from what the witch hunts are doing.

I agree with Dauric and lead by example.

There isn't a need to bring awareness to any given situation because people can see bullies for themselves. Being a part of a clique or following bullies around and agreeing with them isn't the only form of bullying. Picking out someone specifically, or cliques is a form of witch hunt in itself - just by another individual or clique. That makes one no better than that which you are trying to make others aware of. Respect and trust that others are open and aware regardless.

Humans are violent and animalistic.

They are also beautiful and sentient.

And in general, they can see past hate.

Trust others, as you can trust yourself.

The OP did ask a genuine question of course(IMO). And although the intention is not to become a bully - the bullying does occur. Other cliques form who then attack the cliques they do not agree with and the cycle is perpetuated.

TOS explains that naming names thread is not allowed - agreed?

A thread like this is naming names, without naming them specifically. There is no difference.

(Obviously, that was not the OPs original intention as I believe the motive behind it was pure and genuine)

But it happens. People fall out. People lose perspective. Feel cornered. And some begin to herd.

Defense mechanics.

When I mentioned the mods, I did so because it is their site and it is up to them. If a person feels so strongly - offer to become a moderator - not part of the problem.

But are you then assuming that the awareness is not already there?

Change is within you only. You cannot possibly hope to change other people.

You are just true to yourself. The rest is indeed - history.

Unfortunately people hate. I know not everyone cares for me, but that doesn't matter. I still care for them.

I wouldnt hate them. Or feel sorry.

I believe the most wonderous thing is disagreeing with someone, yet loving them unconditionally.

And when I fail, I am reminded that I am imperfect.

And even imperfect, Darcy still loves me.

How groovy is that?

TOS explains that naming names thread is not allowed - agreed?

quote:

Well i am glad you brought that up. In one of the clique following threads 4 specific names were mentioned in a post, and those were not even a part of the drama thread being presented. They were just used as a sounding board for someone to throw a snarky comment about. They didn't even have the opportunity to defend themselves. i guess the mods missed it - like Dauric said they can't be everywhere. So much for leaving it up to the mods to handle.

Then assist the moderators and help them. Show them the post.

Your not being a snitch, or a baby or running to 'tell' - and this isnt a school ground. Youre assisting some very busy people, who hold down jobs as well as moderating a forum that is restricted to certain laws and has to be careful on copyright issues.

Don't become part of the problem - be the solution.

(Geez I sound like a politician[;)])

Like I suggested - offer your time to become a moderator if you feel that strongly and not perpetuate the hate. But be aware you must be unbiased and unaffected by drama yourself. And if the moderators disappoint you that much, why come here when there are boards elsewhere that may be more in tune with what you want? I know I certainly do not hang around when a group/munch/club is not to my taste.