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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:26:06 AM

RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: puella

Here we go again.

I realize that you view yourself as a dominant and perhaps to you, that means that every woman who is submissive owes you something, even if they do not know you.

They do not. No one owes you anything. Not respect, not courtesy, not time.

If you are so banged out of shape that some young chick you never met before is not interested in reading your emails, you might need to reconsider how capable you are of controlling another person.

Learn to control yourself first.

(Man, am I a grouch today or what?)

Thats grouchy? It is far kinder than I often am. OP, tip from the D side... read the above, learn from it. Sort your attitude as unless and until they submit they owe you ZILCH, not even the time of day and certainly not an explination. There could be 101 reasons why she deleted your mail (Many pull up the profile before deciding wether to read... she maybe not liked what she saw.... or she may have just found someone she wanted to concentrate her effors on so deleted the rest.... etc.)

Wake-up, smell the coffee and take your head outta your ass, the little 'dom' lable you pinned to your chest doesn't ENTITLE you to any special treatment.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:35:51 AM

AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: MasterC70

I don't know if this is an old topic or not, but it's one that I feel needs addressing. Inconsistancy. Today I wrote an e-mail to a young slave (newly joined yesterday) and the only result I got was having it deleted by her unread. What gives? She was inconsistant in what she was looking for (mentioned poly one place, a Master or Mistress to train her in another), has almost none of her profile filled out (aside from a few vital stats), and then just deletes without even bothering to read it. It's not the first time I've noted such behaviour from some here either. I imagine some is from having settings that send some e-mails to bulk, but for the sake of courtesy shouldn't they have some guidelines visible as to which e-mails they will and won't accept? I mean if you aren't looking for anyone over 30 say, is it really that hard to write that in the profile rather than just setting the mail to send over 30's to bulk for later delete? I am not a mind reader, so can't know what others are seeking if they don't state it in their profile. Why is it that people fail to fill out their profile properly, then when someone contacts them, they just delete it without a thought? To me that seems very rude. I know it probably won't do any good to vent, (some will probably accuse me of whining) but I think I have a good point. I think that even a stranger deserves that little bit of respect that comes with not being deleted out of hand without even a look.

Why are you offended by this? Why do you care?

To echo what has already been said: Nobody owes you anything.

And - for that matter (because this double standard annoys me) it's not just subs that rude. Dominant and masters who refuse to read the bloody profiles that some us do spend all the time detailing all those things you are complaining about. Yesterday Valyraen and I hit our one and half year mark. He's in my bloody profile picture! I still get e-mails wanting to know if I'm collared.

My point is that it really doesn't matter what we put in our profiles, so you might be better off if you stop complaining and trying to change the behavior of subs you don't own.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 5/15/2007 11:40:21 AM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:37:42 AM

AquaticSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Why do so many doms get worked up about subs they've already decided aren't good matches?

And the sense of entitlement and blame does get old after awhile (awhile being years ago).

Not to mention this is strikingly different from the attitude you held two months ago when you posted this:
I had one slave (a while back) express interest then send me a "dear john letter" a few weeks later saying she decided not to follow the lifestyle (though oddly she is still on site). Still I chalk it up to being her loss (not that I'm God's gift to women or anything). After all if a sub/slave treats the other person like that early on should you care to want to be with him/her? he/she obviously wasn't the right one anyway as not everyone is compatible with everyone else. I think there is someone for everyone. It's just a matter of finding the right one, and life is rarely simple enough to give you a detailed map.

So basically no matter what we as submisisves do in response to attentions from dominants we either never did or no longer desire, we will be considered rude?

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:38:05 AM

Aileen68

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Hey people...they're gonna start talking about you all down in the "mean" thread.
Just a warning.

Edited to add the

< Message edited by Aileen68 -- 5/15/2007 11:39:10 AM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:39:21 AM

puella

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Hehe, sounds deliciously notorious!

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:49:06 AM

MstrssPassion

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterC70

I don't know if this is an old topic or not, but it's one that I feel needs addressing. Inconsistancy. Today I wrote an e-mail to a young slave (newly joined yesterday) and the only result I got was having it deleted by her unread. What gives?
<snip>
To me that seems very rude. I know it probably won't do any good to vent, (some will probably accuse me of whining) but I think I have a good point. I think that even a stranger deserves that little bit of respect that comes with not being deleted out of hand without even a look.

What gives? I'll tell you what gives... the new female members are attacked in a manner that can only be described as throwing fresh meat in the midst of hungry sharks. What gives?... she probably got sick & tired of every rude, disgusting, suggestive, inflammatory, belittling, pleading, demanding email she had opened thus far & decided to do a massive flush on her in box.

If you don't believe me... set up a female account & see what happens.

For goodness sake... you think your the only guy on here looking & contacting these women?

Get over yourself & stop playing the "you're fake" card on every person who doesn't fulfill your expectations of how they should respond.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 11:49:26 AM

KatyLied

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For god's sake don't open that other link, we were downright mean to his whining ass that day.

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clueless and presumptuous masters - 5/15/2007 12:19:51 PM

stef

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I thought I should change the subject to better match the content of the thread.

~stef

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 12:49:35 PM

Lordskitten

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine
"on ur neez bi@tch" Or some such thing.

LOL, i know this is a hijack but i loved this..I pride myself on being well versed in making fun of HNG speak..(well..ok, mostly with my sister for a good laugh anyway heh.) Another new one to add to my lingo, thanks Aine!

Edit...decided to add some insight and personal experiences...
My profile is not filled out to extremes because i'm mainly here for the boards, and i guess this deter's Dom's in my area because i very ...VERY rarely recive emails. And usually when i do its from people in other areas that most likely saw a post, or liked my nick or something like that. So i guess for me people DO read my profile..lucky i guess? *smiles*

< Message edited by Lordskitten -- 5/15/2007 1:08:37 PM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:01:09 PM

MistressNoName

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

I am proposing that CM put in a new feature that when someone feels that they have been wronged that once every six months you would be able to send a lethal shock to the person that offended you.

How I would LOVE that!!!

MNN

Edited to say: Although maybe lethal is taking it a bit too far...I just wanna hurt `em a little.

< Message edited by MistressNoName -- 5/15/2007 1:03:01 PM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:03:21 PM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

I am proposing that CM put in a new feature that when someone feels that they have been wronged that once every six months you would be able to send a lethal shock to the person that offended you.

How I would LOVE that!!!

MNN

Well, it would certainly make for an empty site, wouldn't it?

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:03:23 PM

darkinshadows

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She joined yesterday and you expect her to have filled out her profile fully?

She mentions poly - and then a Master Mistress to train somewhere else is not inconsistant.

Maybe she looked at your profile before reading and did not think you were compatable or her type or is attracted to you and doesnt bother wasting time.

You are owed nothing.

You have complained about this before and hence misrepresent yourself which shows an inconsistant and rude dominant.

Peace

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:09:18 PM

drawntothedark

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Think of it this way - at least she didn't tell you to take a flying leap off the nearest cliff.

Get over yourself. Seriously.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:22:12 PM

LadyPact

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Have to do it, even though it's already been mentioned.

The girl was pounced on with your email within a day of joining the site, and you're wondering why she deleted your mail? Maybe she's not new to the site. Maybe it's just a new handle and she's received mail from you before. I'm still confused as to why you wrote her in the first place, since you were so annoyed that she didn't fill out her profile. Oh yeah, I get it...... fresh meat.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:42:37 PM

earthycouple

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I just have to say....

I'd have deleted you unread too, were I her. you are new, she's brand new (we think, maybe)....that only makes for disaster. And the cruel hard facts....your picture sucks. I'm sure you are an attractive enough guy...but really, there is a better picture of you somewhere, yes? Find it. Post it. Maybe your responses will be better next time around.

Begin Tangent...why do people post fuzzy, poorly taken photos? I understand blurring one's face for privacy...hell I cut my head off! But really....aren't we trying to make good impressions? *and for those of you with self taken web cam photos...there is no such thing as a good one.* Find a friend, take a decent picture and post it. End Tangent.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:45:42 PM

OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple
I understand blurring one's face for privacy...hell I cut my head off! But really....aren't we trying to make good impressions?

Honey, with that pic, I'm not sure people would notice if you did have a head. It's a great photo with or without the head.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:58:39 PM

robertolapiedra

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Begin Tangent...why do people post fuzzy, poorly taken photos? I understand blurring one's face for privacy...hell I cut my head off! But really....aren't we trying to make good impressions? *and for those of you with self taken web cam photos...there is no such thing as a good one.* Find a friend, take a decent picture and post it. End Tangent.

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You cut your head off?........I didnt notice. huh...I bet it's nice too! You think it would work for old doms with potbellies? (I'm not saying I have one or not! so down ladies down!) RL.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 1:59:45 PM

SoCalAB

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That happens on both sides of the street. I got the same treatment from a local Dominant after sending her three mesages of introduction. We had some interests in common and simply wanted to discuss them with her. No response and then an unread deleted.

This is very RUDE if you ask me and a fine how do you do for a new member in this community.

< Message edited by SoCalAB -- 5/15/2007 2:01:08 PM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 2:07:37 PM

pauliestl

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first off you said she was young, how young? I know it's legal for you to hit on an 18 year old but come on, IMHO if there is more then a 10 year age difference you are on a one way train to creepy town.
second like others have said, maybe she looked at your profile, saw all the beginner levels on everything except role playing and movies and moved on.
third while I am not an adonis don't you have a better pic? Come on man, the velour shirt and the plastic rim us army RPG birth control glasses went out in the 70s.
finally just cause you call yourself a master doesn't make you one. NO ONE in this world owes you a thing. You want to be thought of as a master then act like one and don't come whining and crying to everyone just cause your feelings got hurt. Cause if you are asking me for sympathy all I'll offer you is some vagisil cause you are a pussy.

I'll say it for everyone else...
GROW A PAIR AND QUIT WHINING GET OVER YOURSELF.
Newbie overly important self appointed masters like you are the kind of guys that injure people permanantly and give the scene a bad name.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 2:55:02 PM

Faramir

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Well, it was certainly a good idea to skyline yourself as a whining, petulant cry-baby. I mean, that's sheer brilliance. I can only imagine the thought process:

Hmmmm. Chicks find me unnatractive, even with an incredible hunky name like MASTERC70. But maybe if I pout, publically, I'll get sympathy and pats on the head!

Let us know if you get any sympathy fucks, 'k?

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