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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 2:56:49 PM

Lashra

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/claps

Very well said and very true. Just because your a Dominant doesn't mean anyone owes you a damn thing.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:05:51 PM

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Wow, and they say only the girls in here are mean. How about that Mean Boys Clique?

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:20:00 PM

slaverosebeauty

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When I was looking on here for a Master I was VERY specific, I had all sorts of specifics listed not only on my page {age perferance, height perferance, location, limits, hobbies, type of relationship desired, etc}, but in my journal as well, and I STILL got a bunch of people who would email me and be so far in left field from what I was looking for I got frusturated and cynical, hense why I decided to date vanilla men; its easier to turn a man down who doesn't think that they have any right to 'control' you or to dominate your time and how things work.

Have I deleted emails unread, countless times. Soemtimes from people I knew, others from people that I had heard of from friends or those who after looking at their profile, I had a decent idea I was gonna be bitched at or spoken down too, so, I saved myself the trouble, and deleted those emails, unread. No guilt. None.

Note, BULK settings only do so much good, you can't tell much about a person by what goes into bulk. You just know what you have set your bulk settings to screen for. Plenty of friend's emails have and go into bulk, just because of how I have my settings. Do their emails get deleted unread, nope.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:26:13 PM

Politesub53

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SoCalAB

That happens on both sides of the street. I got the same treatment from a local Dominant after sending her three mesages of introduction. We had some interests in common and simply wanted to discuss them with her. No response and then an unread deleted.

This is very RUDE if you ask me and a fine how do you do for a new member in this community.

No Disrespect meant but why send three messages. The lady in question may have,
A) Been too busy to answer
B) Been getting so many replies She couldnt answer them all
C) Not been online for a little while
D) Not thought you may be what She was looking for

I fully agree with you that it seems harsh to newcomers not getting a reply, and im new myself. Sometimes though there is a perfectly good reason for a lack of response.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:28:58 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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*shakes head* you (as in other doms like you who start whine threads like this) never seem to learn. that's all i have to say since puella and others said it better than i would have.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:41:20 PM

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OMG Faramir you crack me up! lol

This poor bastard...

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:43:40 PM

puella

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

No Disrespect meant but why send three messages. The lady in question may have,
A) Been too busy to answer
B) Been getting so many replies She couldnt answer them all
C) Not been online for a little while
D) Not thought you may be what She was looking for

I fully agree with you that it seems harsh to newcomers not getting a reply, and im new myself. Sometimes though there is a perfectly good reason for a lack of response.

E) Thought your adult-male superman underoos a bit OTT and put your ass on block....

< Message edited by puella -- 5/15/2007 3:49:38 PM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:43:41 PM

FelinePersuasion

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Yes. It's a topic that has been done to death, and will continue to be done far far far beyond death. It's pointless to start a new thread about it, non of the other threads ever did any good yours w*on't either.

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterC70

I don't know if this is an old topic or not,

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:48:59 PM

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you need a nap

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/15/2007 3:49:38 PM

whisperedsighs

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Why is it that Dom's are so bent out of shape when the "fresh meat", delete their emails and don't respond. The fact she had just joined the day before would dictate that she probably got hundreds of emails right off the bat, and didn't have time to vex her profile to perfection.

NEW RULE....give the newbies time to breath before bombarding them.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 5:27:23 AM

MasterC70

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It wasn't a matter of liking or disliking a profile or expecting a reply. Even no reply is a reply. What I was talking about was that she didn't have much detail in her profile to say "this is what I am looking for" and just deleted without reading. I know that not everyone matches what everyone is looking for and no puella I don't expect subs who don't know me to do anything. I do admit I was a bit put off by just being deleted without a thought, but there is a difference between being unread or unresponded to and just being deleted without reading. Especially when the profile is incomplete or contradictory within itself. I never said that I expected anything from the person in question either. It would have been a bit politer if she had either read and not responded or some other thing rather than just delete like it was junk mail. Frankly I think it goes both ways. I wouldn't want a sub who shows such lack of courtesy anyway. You might also note that neither in this post or the 1st one have I said anything deliberly unkind or rude about the sub in question or anyone else. Yet others judge me to be the one who needs to learn control etc. I even noted several reasons in my original post why I might have ended up deleted, showing that I understand that there are often reasons why it happens. But everyone jumps on me, and seems to feel the right to judge me for being a bit hurt. Most of my original post was a question more than venting. I probably ended up in her bulk folder and deleted because of how she set up for what she is looking for, but she wasn't clear what she was looking for. In fact part of my e-mail to her was on that very subject. If a sub is looking for someone why not be clear what you are looking for in terms of age, distance, etc. and save everyone some time? It doesn't take long to type that into your profile.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 5:30:32 AM

IrishMist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterC70

It wasn't a matter of liking or disliking a profile or expecting a reply. Even no reply is a reply. What I was talking about was that she didn't have much detail in her profile to say "this is what I am looking for" and just deleted without reading. I know that not everyone matches what everyone is looking for and no puella I don't expect subs who don't know me to do anything. I do admit I was a bit put off by just being deleted without a thought, but there is a difference between being unread or unresponded to and just being deleted without reading. Especially when the profile is incomplete or contradictory within itself. I never said that I expected anything from the person in question either. It would have been a bit politer if she had either read and not responded or some other thing rather than just delete like it was junk mail. Frankly I think it goes both ways. I wouldn't want a sub who shows such lack of courtesy anyway. You might also note that neither in this post or the 1st one have I said anything deliberly unkind or rude about the sub in question or anyone else. Yet others judge me to be the one who needs to learn control etc. I even noted several reasons in my original post why I might have ended up deleted, showing that I understand that there are often reasons why it happens. But everyone jumps on me, and seems to feel the right to judge me for being a bit hurt. Most of my original post was a question more than venting. I probably ended up in her bulk folder and deleted because of how she set up for what she is looking for, but she wasn't clear what she was looking for. In fact part of my e-mail to her was on that very subject. If a sub is looking for someone why not be clear what you are looking for in terms of age, distance, etc. and save everyone some time? It doesn't take long to type that into your profile.

Perhaps she actually DID read it. You are aware, are you not, that you can download and save all messages to an alternate email address, and read them without the person on CM ever knowing that the message was read?

Personally, I find it amusing that you can not find anything else to complain about than some person you have never met in real life ignoring you.

/shakes head at the stupidity of such actions

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 5:40:53 AM

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Edited because i changed my mind.....

< Message edited by imthatacheyouhav -- 5/16/2007 5:41:36 AM >

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 5:48:30 AM

KatyLied

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quote:

If a sub is looking for someone why not be clear what you are looking for in terms of age, distance, etc. and save everyone some time? It doesn't take long to type that into your profile.

Now you expect subs to write their profile to your specifications? And you would send them messages to that effect? That is not going to get you very far in winning the adoration of subs.

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 5:55:08 AM

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WE always make an effort to answer all mail even if its a fuck off buddy,I expecially find it hard for a kind word to all those poor wankers that have been told several time no THANKS..bounty

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 6:02:52 AM

justplainjava

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Greetings Irish Mist,
may this one start by saying how much she like your name, i think it has to do with this one being a sotch-irish,( and please excuse you would think of one from such an ansetory, she would know how to spell, but at times old age robs us of our capablites to appear smart or at least well educated)
Second i have to agree with you why would someone complain over someone they never meet or will probley ever meet, but i at times i guess others just need something to complain like the weather over their morning coffee or tea
take care and be safe
java

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 6:03:02 AM

MstrssPassion

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

If a sub is looking for someone why not be clear what you are looking for in terms of age, distance, etc. and save everyone some time? It doesn't take long to type that into your profile.

Now you expect subs to write their profile to your specifications? And you would send them messages to that effect? That is not going to get you very far in winning the adoration of subs.

I agree...

Should we just kick dirt over on him while he keeps diggin in deeper or wait until he hits water & have a pool party?

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 6:04:22 AM

KatyLied

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I've already been branded as a board meanie, so let's start kicking the dirt!

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 6:26:11 AM

sambamanslilgirl

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need to add that to the "how to be a twue submissive" list - always specify to what you're looking for according to the Dom in question specifications.

sheeeeeesh

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves - 5/16/2007 6:37:08 AM

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RE: inconsistant and rude subs/slaves

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