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Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 12:57:12 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Have any male submissives made an approach to a Lady, who thougt thought was Domme. I dont mean at a munch, more in a Cafe say or at the mall. If so how was your approach recieved.

For the Mistress`s, if you recieved such an approach how would you react to it ? Would you welcome it or find it intrusive ?
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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 12:59:35 PM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		Would depend on the approach.  If it was friendly and polite, always open to that.  If it was submissive, kinky or sexual, that's not appropriate from a stranger and I would walk away from the interaction.  

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 1:06:44 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Status: offline 		The other thing to keep in mind also is WHO the Domme is with .  For example, it's not appropriate to throw yourself at the feet of the Lovely Goddess Mistress Grand Poobah of All Things that you saw on collarme and happen to run into at the mall and address her as such.....in front of her aging mother.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 5/16/2007 1:07:18 PM >

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 1:14:25 PM   
MamaDomme


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Status: offline 		I have been approached by complete strangers out in the vanilla world---  my demeanor is such that just draws submissive people toward me, I suppose.

I am always polite and if there is a spark to possibly ignite something later, I try to make friends.  If they present themselves in a proper manner (politely, not stupidly) I make every effort to not offend anyone.

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 2:09:22 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the replies. I was trying to work out what would and wouldnt be acceptable in public.

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 3:44:25 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I would not like to be approached at all.  I am easy to find and if someone recognized me I'd more appreciate going through proper channels.  If I am at a cafe or the mall I am there for a reason and would not like to be hit on for any reason.  This would be especially true if I was with anyone.  While I am out to most people, you just never know.

If I was at a more adult location, such as in a bar where being hit on was something to be expected it would entirely depend on how someone did it.  If it was overtly sexual or in any way demeaning or offensive, I would not appreciate it.  I polite hello, buy you a drink and over the course of conversation something came up...fine.

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 4:25:39 PM   
MistressLorelei


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Status: offline 		I don't recommend approaching a woman in the vanilla world and asking if  she is Dominant, but approaching her if the time/place seems reasonable and initiating a vanilla conversation or paying her a polite compliment can't hurt.... what have you got to lose?  

Fairly recently, I was approached by a male who turned out to be very submissive, though he has never experienced the kinky side of bdsm.  He very nervously approached me and said I had beautiful nails...  "submissive" instantly popped into my head as I said thank you. A week later, I was studying in the same cafe, and he approached me again, and we began talking about vanilla 'stuff', which led to a coffee meeting, then dinner where he learned many shocking details of My relationship ideals.   I was preparing to re-locate out of state when we met,  but we remain close.  

Complimenting her shoes, her pedicure, or a small detail that the typical male might not bother to notice; acting with gentleman qualities, etc. might send a signal to a Dominant woman that you just might be submissive.  

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/16/2007 4:29:04 PM   
MamaDomme


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Status: offline 		I must say here that my most memorable approach was at a supermarket one day, I was examining the ginger root.........  the gentleman came up to me and we exchanged a deep eye-to-eye contact that lasted a few seconds longer than it should.  I smiled and he asked what my plans were for the ginger.  I told him that I was thinking of peeling away part of the peel and seeing if someone would enjoy that.  I winked when I said it.

We wound up exchanging phone numbers and hooking up later.  He sure did enjoy that ginger root!!! 


~~Smiles

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/17/2007 9:57:06 AM   
lovetokissnylons


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ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei


Complimenting her shoes, her pedicure, or a small detail that the typical male might not bother to notice; acting with gentleman qualities, etc. might send a signal to a Dominant woman that you just might be submissive.  


Mistress Lorelei, in your opinion would other Dominas appreciate compliments on their shoes ?  I've often wanted to do this, but thought that it might simply indicate to a woman that the one who gave the compliment was gay (because fashion-conscious) rather than the intended message of being submissive.   Would welcome opinions from others reading this, too.  Thank you.

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 2:17:56 PM   
lovetokissnylons


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Status: offline 		One more reply to try to get the question revived (after I've stolen the thread, then caused it to wilt, truly am sorry, OP):
would you as a Domme appreciate and respond to a comment from someone who they didn't knowi n a vanilla location , who walked up to her  (let's say the Domme was not accompanied by anyone else) and complimented the Domme on  her choice of shoes ?  I've often wanted to do this, but believed that the Domme would simply believe that the complimenter was gay (because fashion-conscious) rather than the message that was intended -- that the complimenter was submissive.  Thanks.

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 2:20:35 PM   
MsKatHouston


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Status: offline 		I would assume the person liked my shoes.  Fashion conscious to me does not equal gay.  But if that's all that was said I would not think submissive, either.

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 2:29:56 PM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		I believe the correct procedure when approaching Dommes, is for the sub to sound the horn and to then steer hard to port.

Same applies at sea, apparently.

E

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 2:32:42 PM   
LaTigresse


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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 2:40:29 PM   
LadyEllen


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Lady E............I love you!


I know

But I'd have such a problem with the approach procedure, you know!?

E

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 2:52:07 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		The funny part was that I was so tempted to actually make the sound of a foghorn just for fun. The guys here at work would have been...........confused.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 3:33:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

I believe the correct procedure when approaching Dommes, is for the sub to sound the horn and to then steer hard to port.

Same applies at sea, apparently.

E


Is the ship's captain trying to avoid an iceberg here or what?

(I know, I know...I should learn to be more sensitive!)




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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 3:37:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I thought you were suppose to whistle dixie ???
*scratches head*

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 3:44:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HarleyKitty69

I thought you were suppose to whistle dixie ???
*scratches head*


Maybe in your neck-of-the woods, hun.


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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 3:47:01 PM   
HarleyKitty69


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ORIGINAL: addicted2it

quote:

ORIGINAL: HarleyKitty69

I thought you were suppose to whistle dixie ???
*scratches head*


Maybe in your neck-of-the woods, hun.



*giggles*    I live in Kansas Ma'am.....  
what woods ????     there are a few trees around here but NO woods
and it is flat here .... it's sooooo flat here .. you can see on friday who's coming to supper sunday .......

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RE: Approaching Dommes ? - 5/21/2007 3:49:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Have any male submissives made an approach to a Lady, who thougt thought was Domme. I dont mean at a munch, more in a Cafe say or at the mall. If so how was your approach recieved.


I am neither a Dom or a Lady, but I would suspect that you would probably never be able to recognize one at other than a BDSM event.  Unless, of course, she drops something in front of you and says, "Pick it up, bitch!"


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