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lighthearted -> RE: Submission & Romanticizing (5/17/2007 7:37:42 AM)
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ORIGINAL: themischievous1
Your post kind of cracks me up, as in amuses me in a wry sort of way, and that's a good thing. I can use a little amusement after what I've been through. I'm not trying to offend either; I think your post is fitting and certainly accurate, at least in my particular situation.
I very recently changed my ID to "switch" because of what you've written here (though I detest the labeling of everyone that goes on):
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I have romanticized being a submissive in my mind many times in the past, as much as I know that the reality of belonging to someone means it can be smelly, tiresome, sweaty (in a bad way) and unpleasant...is it just human nature to forget the unpleasant realities when they aren't right in front of our faces?
For me, the unpleasant realities were that he didn't bathe, (try once a week), he wouldn't work, he had anger issues (as in was abusive), completely avoided communication, calling everything I said and thought "bitching," and smelly was putting it lightly since he soon began to chain smoke. Add that to the not bathing and I think you get the picture. Needless to say, I bailed.
Naw..there was nothing romantic about being a submissive whatsoever and it succeeded in turning me off to submission so thoroughly that I'm not sure I'll desire to experience that state of being again for quite some time.
I'm not one for labels either, but despite any unpleasant experiences, I'm still a submissive, from head to toe. its the very same "reality" that you describe, that sometimes just makes me tired just thinking about it. granted, not to the same extent as you've experienced, and you know, I'm guilty of being not so fresh as a daisy at times too...we're all human...
so that leads me to another thought, is my "romantic" attitude also linked to a positive attitude? is the fact that I'm feeling so dang cranky the impetus behind my loss of romantic illusion today?
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