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Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/17/2007 9:26:11 AM

pixelslave

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This is a two part question for all of the submissives and slaves out there in honor of Akasha and the ladies who posted in her recent thread. I hope the Mistresses will find the responses interesting and will share their thoughts on them as well.

1. What things have you gone out of your way to learn in order to better serve your Mistress?

2. What things have you learned from your present or former Mistress that you feel have made you a better submissive?

An example for an answer to question #1 is that I learned Reflexology in order to better serve a former Mistress and all of those I've served since have benefitted as well. Ditto for taking classes and learning more about Therapeutic Massage, which initially started as self massage to meet my own needs as a cyclist and later moved into something to serve the needs of the woman in my life. I could say the same about classes and I've taken in investments and options trading; along with the additional follow-up research, not to forget the active trading I've done since then.

As for #2, examples would be that I learned the proper way to do a pedicure and manicure from a former Mistress. Another example would be that I am learning to fully accept my deepest submissive desires without any guilt or shame about them from my new Mistress. She has released things in me which I was unsure of that I've taken to like a duck takes to water! As part of the process, she has been teaching me to be proud that they are an innate part of me, that I can share them with her as her pet/slut, and that doing so serves her desires/needs to be the dominant in our relationship.

I'll post more of my thoughts and responses to my questions later in the thread after others have had the opportunity to reply to them.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/17/2007 7:29:52 PM

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Interesting thread pixal. I look forward to reading the responses.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/18/2007 1:23:10 PM

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1. What things have you gone out of your way to learn in order to better serve your Mistress?

Mistress is finishing Her MBA program. She was in a statistical analysis class. I have no knowledge or training in this area, but I am very good with numbers, math, etc. and was useful in this way to Her. I self taught to learn the terminology, and understand Her assignments. How did this turn out? Today She just told me, She got an A in the class. ^5 for the "A" team!!

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2. What things have you learned from your present or former Mistress that you feel have made you a better submissive?

Mistress is teaching me how to effectively multitask. She has a keen eye for detail, and is upgrading my own keen eye. She also is a perfect guide in a new world for me, so I fear relatively few or small missteps in the lifestyle.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/18/2007 7:09:57 PM

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Thank you for the ideas, Pixal. I'll keep checking this thread for more things to learn.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/18/2007 11:22:45 PM

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Pixie slave, that's a really good question to post. I've often heard that being a male submissive the competition is fierce, that apparently it's extremely difficult to find a Domainant Woman. However, speaking from the woman's point of view I have to say that it's REALLY difficult finding a submissive or slave of quality. When subs or slaves have told me that they are having problems finding someone to serve I learned from a friend to ask them what they have to offer. I'm not accussing them but I am asking them what they have as a skill set. People do things like do their hair, work out, buy expensive things...but one can also take cooking classes, learn massage, learn how to give manicures and pedicures...etc. The subs that I know that are owned by others seem to have a really good skill set. Most dominants that I know that own happy and healthy slaves also seem to have a large skill set. It works both ways in my opinion.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/19/2007 5:26:41 AM

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Like you, Pixelslave, i was required to learn reflexology and how to give a decent pedicure. i was also required to learn about my former Mistress's home town (Seattle, though She was living in the UK when i served Her).

Mistress Herself taught me a great deal, including how to properly appreciate food and what constitutes a healthy diet (She actually changed my diet and made me write down everything i had to eat and drink for a month or so She could monitor how i was doing). She also made me more "environmentally friendly"!

i took it upon myself to learn more about Burlesque theatre (as Mistress was and is a Burlesque performer).

She always said She liked to leave Her slaves better then She found them and that certainly applies to me.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 9:09:10 AM

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I hate this thread seemed to have died out. Come on subs and slaves....enlighten the dominants....

I learned from my dom when I was collared so long ago...how to tie the rope the right way so it's not a tangled mess in the toy bag. Hm...seems I should be able to come up with something else.....*S* but he really was very easy going.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 10:35:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple
I hate this thread seemed to have died out. Come on subs and slaves....enlighten the dominants....

Died out? I've been waiting for it to really get started before I posted again! Plus, I've also been very busy with Mistress all weekend until just a short time ago.

Like you, there's much I've hoped to learn from the others and more I'd like to share of my own journy into submission and what I've learned along the way. Perhaps I'll have time to do some of that in a couple days.

- pixel

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 11:16:59 AM

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Well, pixel, I'll try to help out.

It seems like a very basic thing, but I always want My boys learning about the lifestyle itself. I want them reading different things and hearing opinions other than My own. If they are brand new, I'll have them read for an hour a day, either from books or sites that are related. It isn't necessarily a new skill, but it is something I want them to learn.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 12:14:53 PM

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I'm having the boy do research about different sorts of play (he's fairly new to the lifestyle). His ex taught him to give great footrubs. I'm expanding on that by taking him to get pedicures so that he can give them to me. We have a ladies tea group here that does trainings twice a year for servers and he has been informed that he will be attending that. He's slowly being put on food and exercise requirements to make him healthier. I plan on having him start writing in a journal to improve his writing skills and to become more adept as to thinking about why he feels certain ways about things. I love formal service type things so I plan on having him learn/read about the proper way to set a formal table as well as how to get things REALLY clean. I'm also trying to get him more organized since he tends to be a bit forgetful and a procrastinator, so I put time requirements on his tasks, he must make lists and write them down when I inform him of tasks or things to pick up or do...

Wow, writing it all down it seems like a lot.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 2:57:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Well, pixel, I'll try to help out.

It seems like a very basic thing, but I always want My boys learning about the lifestyle itself. I want them reading different things and hearing opinions other than My own. If they are brand new, I'll have them read for an hour a day, either from books or sites that are related. It isn't necessarily a new skill, but it is something I want them to learn.

VERY smart, LadyPact. Robert now has work to do!

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 7:08:04 PM

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Wow, I'm liking the ideas here. I am also seeing some of the things I can do and never thought about it as a skill. I used to date a number of men who were always trying to impress me with this or that. My favorite response was: 'If you want to impress me, set the table!' You'd be surprized how many set a table incorrectly.

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/20/2007 9:01:57 PM

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*S* I would venture to guess I'd set it wrong too, once we got further than the knives go on the right..... But if it matters to you, it is certainally worth the sub knowing how...

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/23/2007 5:24:41 PM

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I said I'd post back in a couple days with more of my thoughts. First, thanks to the ladies who've jumped-in to discuss what they've assigned their subs to learn. I found that very enlightening.

As I've recently begun a new relationship with a Mistress I met here on CM, I've been learning a great deal from her both about myself and my submission. She recently asked me if she was meeting my needs and at the time I really didn't quite know what to say because of a number of other things going on outside my control that often seem to get in the way of other things. In short, I've been in an extended legal battle with a former Mistress over custody/vistitation with my unmentionables that has been very difficult and draining both emotionally & financially.

Last weekend, Mistress gave me a wonderful gift that told me I had needs I hadn't realized or even had a clue just how strongly they needed filled. It was the most incredibly loving & erotic scene I can think of, yet it was still filled with as strong a D/s dynamic as any I've experienced.

Mistress had me stand, initially with my hands cuffed & held behind my head; unable to touch her while she carressed & touched me with her hands, fingers & nails. She softly ran floggers over me, kissed me in various places, rubbed her face & body against me, and did a number of other very erotic things both front and back that were both very arousing and also incredibly relaxing at times. Mistress was totally in control of what was happening to her pet as she likes to refer to me. Yet, she was focusing her energies on making me feel all kinds of relaxing and pleasurable sensations that were being given with love. It was as if I was the center of her world and she was showing me how much she appreciated the fact I was a part of her life. I truly felt loved and appreciated (plus relaxed and eventually weak-kneed) when she had me lay down afterward.

I had intended to talk about other things I've learned, but Mistress showed me how valued and appreciated I am by her, and I needed to take the opportunity to share a bit of that with others here and thank her publicly for that. She's a wonderful Mistress and I'm very grateful to have her in my life.

Thank you Mistress!

- pixel

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/24/2007 11:51:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

I said I'd post back in a couple days with more of my thoughts. First, thanks to the ladies who've jumped-in to discuss what they've assigned their subs to learn. I found that very enlightening.

As I've recently begun a new relationship with a Mistress I met here on CM, I've been learning a great deal from her both about myself and my submission. She recently asked me if she was meeting my needs and at the time I really didn't quite know what to say because of a number of other things going on outside my control that often seem to get in the way of other things. In short, I've been in an extended legal battle with a former Mistress over custody/vistitation with my unmentionables that has been very difficult and draining both emotionally & financially.

Last weekend, Mistress gave me a wonderful gift that told me I had needs I hadn't realized or even had a clue just how strongly they needed filled. It was the most incredibly loving & erotic scene I can think of, yet it was still filled with as strong a D/s dynamic as any I've experienced.

Mistress had me stand, initially with my hands cuffed & held behind my head; unable to touch her while she carressed & touched me with her hands, fingers & nails. She softly ran floggers over me, kissed me in various places, rubbed her face & body against me, and did a number of other very erotic things both front and back that were both very arousing and also incredibly relaxing at times. Mistress was totally in control of what was happening to her pet as she likes to refer to me. Yet, she was focusing her energies on making me feel all kinds of relaxing and pleasurable sensations that were being given with love. It was as if I was the center of her world and she was showing me how much she appreciated the fact I was a part of her life. I truly felt loved and appreciated (plus relaxed and eventually weak-kneed) when she had me lay down afterward.

I had intended to talk about other things I've learned, but Mistress showed me how valued and appreciated I am by her, and I needed to take the opportunity to share a bit of that with others here and thank her publicly for that. She's a wonderful Mistress and I'm very grateful to have her in my life.

Thank you Mistress!

- pixel

It seemed we both needed what transpired that night. Not only was your needs filled but it filled MINE as well. So in my eyes it was a win win situation. Not all 'play' has to be of the rough sort.

As for what you have learned...it goes both ways. Both of us have opened up to new ideas and have learned a thing or two about ourselves in the process. Testing our limits has been a journey that will continue for as long as I want us to go down that path.

Thank you Pixal for your kind works. =]

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/24/2007 12:57:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Majik
It seemed we both needed what transpired that night. Not only was your needs filled but it filled MINE as well. So in my eyes it was a win win situation. Not all 'play' has to be of the rough sort.

As for what you have learned...it goes both ways. Both of us have opened up to new ideas and have learned a thing or two about ourselves in the process. Testing our limits has been a journey that will continue for as long as I want us to go down that path.

Thank you Pixel for your kind words. =]

Thank you Mistress for sharing your thoughts on the experience from your perspective with the readers of this forum. As usual, I'm humbled by them.

I'm very pleased you've decided it was time to step forward and publicly acknowledge our relationship to the members of CM.

You make such a difference every moment of each day of my life. I can't begin to imagine things reverting to what it was like before you entered into my world, changing it forever in ways that I'm still just beginning to recognize and comprehend! More than anything else, I know I'm growing & learning through your loving guidance and direction. I'm loving each and every moment that I experience it with you!

- pixel, sub to Majik

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/24/2007 2:55:06 PM

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what have i learned to do better for my mistress ? probable how to give her a better foot and leg massage after i have shaved her legs for her which i find a incredible sexy thing to do ..never knew i had a foot fetish but a ladys feet and toes and legs are sexy and to keep them soft and smooth to touch is a great way to pamper your mistress ...what has she taught me ? how to relax and trust her as she anally fists me ...amazing how much she loves doing this ...amazing now how much deeper she can go inside of me as i totally surrender to her while she is deep inside of me ...she is great at doing this and the sparkle in her eyes when she tells me that she wants to take my ass again when her fists get itchy

that really is a powerfull exchange of power when she does this to me and i trust her completely ...amazing to see her arm sticking out of my ass and the look on her face is priceless when she opens me up and cums inside of me that way ...love giving myself to her and her desires ..have fun mal

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/24/2007 7:46:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave
pixel, sub to Majik

I am glad to hear things are going well for you both :)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/24/2007 8:30:12 PM

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I am glad to hear things are going well for you both :)

Thank you for posting with that Sea. It's always very nice to read things from people like you on CM that I know are genuine and heartfelt.

If Mistress and I ever make it to Austin, perhaps WonderWoman will agree for all of us to meet.

- pixel

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RE: Learned for or from your Mistress? - 5/24/2007 8:34:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pixelslave

quote:

ORIGINAL: undergroundsea
I am glad to hear things are going well for you both :)

Thank you for posting with that Sea. It's always very nice to read things from people like you on CM that I know are genuine and heartfelt.

If Mistress and I ever make it to Austin, perhaps WonderWoman will agree for all of us to meet.

- pixel

I'll make sure I bring my phonebooth.

And I echo pixel...thank you and would love to meet up with you at sometime.=]

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