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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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He has me walk on the inside when we're on a sidewalk.

So few know this...VERY old standard.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

You show how you want to show.  Even if you had NO rules for behavior in public, you'd still be slave and master. Even if they acted and looked and behaved exactly as if they would if they were single, it would still be who they are. 

But, as others have said, you can have a heck of a lot of rules and rituals in place if you want and no one will really care as long as it's not loud.

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ORIGINAL: MstrJOHN

I had a boy for 3 yrs and when we were out in public I am sure people tried to figure out what was up. I should note the boy is a wheelchair user due to spina bifida, he would open doors for me, get Me refills of drinks, and once we met up with my brother and sister in law ( I knew they are both kink friendly, but boy didn't know just yet) I had boy collared. My sister in law did a double take in the car then smiled.

A rather fun outing happen at a steak house. boy had been ordered not to speak to anyone, our server was this young twink in his 20's,  it didn't take long for him to catch on, so thru out dinner, the server stop even trying to ask boy, and would ask me " would he like more tea". This kid was so curious he kept inventing reasons to come back to our table, boy said to me ( he was allowed to speak only to Me when no one was near) " You know Sir, You are missing with that kid's head" I just answered back with an evil grin" I know". The real fun came when it was time for the check, our server first started to hand the check to Me, but must have thought, why should Master have to pay, then started to hand it to boy, but stopped, probally because boy hadn't been allowed to do anything all night, then started back towards Me, then finally put the check down exactly between us. Our server watched us leave and I saw a bit of a smile as he looked at Me, I'm sure he enjoyed replaying the night in his bedroom later that night.

As for punishment, if I needed to be discreet, I had developed a look that as my boy put it, put the fear of god into him, it was my, we will discuss this later look, he knew he was in for it and I wouldn't even have to say a word.

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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

there has never been anyone i've ever been with, in my entire life, except for a couple of weirdo's that i met from this site(and it was the first meeting, mind you), that has tried and/or suggested exercising control in a public setting; why? because one who is truly in control doesn't need that kind of re-affirmation 100% of the time...

and some of the examples given in this thread, such as ordering their food for them, is not exercising control, it's doing the gentlemanly thing by my standards.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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He has me walk on the inside when we're on a sidewalk.

So few know this...VERY old standard.

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ORIGINAL: motoki

The M/s dynamic is *always* there when Master and i are "out and about" (actually, it's always there no matter where we are). The degree to which it is expressed externally varies, but it's always there. 

In various situations, the dynamic may be more apparent to the surrounding public, but kinky/sexual aspects of it are never flagrantly pushed into the public's personal space (which we consider nonconsensual involvement of others).  At times i'm bound (under my clothes), or given orders to follow Him in a certain way (shadowing), or He'll order food for me at restaurants (almost always).  When going through doorways or similar entryways, i'm not permitted to open the door or lead through the doorway unless He instructs me to do so.  i am never permitted to go to the toilet without permission, nor to sit when in His presence without permission, and so when we are in public, seeking His permission for these things can be .... interesting at times , but it's always possible in some way.  In public, i address Him as Sir or Master depending on the circumstances, and He addresses me using any number of terms, including slave, girl, and so on, again, depending on the circumstances.

There have been occasions when, while at a bigger store, He's told me to "stay" in a certain spot, then gone off on His own for awhile.  Other times, He's assigned me one section where i'm allowed to browse, but only in that section, then He goes off and does His thing.  At all times, whether He's been watching me from afar or not, i am acutely aware that i am His, i am slave, and regardless of the fact that others in that store don't know that i'm not physically leashed to Him at that moment, there is a long, solid, invisible chain going from Him to me that is securing me to Him very securely.  And that chain *feels* very real to me; i sometimes think to myself jokingly that its surprising that others don't notice the chain and trip over it when Master and i are out shopping and separated by a short (or longer) distance (!!), that's how real it feels to me - LOL.

Without doubt, i enjoy the public aspects of the expression of our M/s dynamic.  It adds creativity to it, and it's affirming to me (and, i believe, also to Master).  It also adds a certain "richness" or "extra element" to whatever it is we are doing in a public venue.  For example, we recently went to see a theatrical reenactment of "Crime and Punishment" by Dostoyevsky, and Master had me bound in a rope harness with a new "toy" inserted in one of my openings.  Without going into details, suffice it to say that my attention was distracted from the actors during the play (and while walking to the play, and in the lobby amongst the crowd of people, etc, etc) more than a few times as Master kept nudging the rope harness through my skirt, thereby indirectly nudging His new toy as it did its deed within me.  LOL - i do remember that it was a good play, though, and did enjoy it ... and wearing Master's toy and feeling Him constantly reminding me of its presence throughout the evening only added to the whole experience of watching the play, rather than taking away from it!!). 

Mmmmmm ... that was a delicious memory ....
-motoki-

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ORIGINAL: MstrJOHN

I had a boy for 3 yrs and when we were out in public I am sure people tried to figure out what was up. I should note the boy is a wheelchair user due to spina bifida, he would open doors for me, get Me refills of drinks, and once we met up with my brother and sister in law ( I knew they are both kink friendly, but boy didn't know just yet) I had boy collared. My sister in law did a double take in the car then smiled.

A rather fun outing happen at a steak house. boy had been ordered not to speak to anyone, our server was this young twink in his 20's,  it didn't take long for him to catch on, so thru out dinner, the server stop even trying to ask boy, and would ask me " would he like more tea". This kid was so curious he kept inventing reasons to come back to our table, boy said to me ( he was allowed to speak only to Me when no one was near) " You know Sir, You are missing with that kid's head" I just answered back with an evil grin" I know". The real fun came when it was time for the check, our server first started to hand the check to Me, but must have thought, why should Master have to pay, then started to hand it to boy, but stopped, probally because boy hadn't been allowed to do anything all night, then started back towards Me, then finally put the check down exactly between us. Our server watched us leave and I saw a bit of a smile as he looked at Me, I'm sure he enjoyed replaying the night in his bedroom later that night.

As for punishment, if I needed to be discreet, I had developed a look that as my boy put it, put the fear of god into him, it was my, we will discuss this later look, he knew he was in for it and I wouldn't even have to say a word.

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

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ORIGINAL: MstrJOHN

I had a boy for 3 yrs and when we were out in public I am sure people tried to figure out what was up. I should note the boy is a wheelchair user due to spina bifida, he would open doors for me, get Me refills of drinks, and once we met up with my brother and sister in law ( I knew they are both kink friendly, but boy didn't know just yet) I had boy collared. My sister in law did a double take in the car then smiled.

A rather fun outing happen at a steak house. boy had been ordered not to speak to anyone, our server was this young twink in his 20's,  it didn't take long for him to catch on, so thru out dinner, the server stop even trying to ask boy, and would ask me " would he like more tea". This kid was so curious he kept inventing reasons to come back to our table, boy said to me ( he was allowed to speak only to Me when no one was near) " You know Sir, You are missing with that kid's head" I just answered back with an evil grin" I know". The real fun came when it was time for the check, our server first started to hand the check to Me, but must have thought, why should Master have to pay, then started to hand it to boy, but stopped, probally because boy hadn't been allowed to do anything all night, then started back towards Me, then finally put the check down exactly between us. Our server watched us leave and I saw a bit of a smile as he looked at Me, I'm sure he enjoyed replaying the night in his bedroom later that night.

As for punishment, if I needed to be discreet, I had developed a look that as my boy put it, put the fear of god into him, it was my, we will discuss this later look, he knew he was in for it and I wouldn't even have to say a word.

I was on board with reading this story until you declared what wondeful bedroom fodder you made...now I simply think you are an over the top poser searching for attention from strangers.

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ORIGINAL: womanworshipper

Discreet, but always clear who is in charge. "Gentlemanly" behaviour is the key. Opening doors for Her, taking Her coat, seating Her first, waiting for Her to start eating first, looking to Her to order, carrying her bags, waiting patiently for Her in shops, paying the cashier when required...

With my former Mistress, who was semi-Pro, i kissed Her hand upon greeting and departing when in public. i don't do this with my current Owner, who is totally lifestyle, though generally i would say She is even more openly dominant with me than my former Mistress. i don't recall my former Mistress ordering me about or publically berating or denigrating me like my current Owner. She has also had more opportunity to do so in front of people i'm closer to such as colleagues, friends and relatives.  

Practically everyone at work (We/we used to work together) used to talk about how i used to let Her boss me about so clearly it was very noticeable.

i've noted before how when We/we are out, She will treat me like a small, difficult child, or a servant. We/we will call each other by Our/our first names, but i always defer to Her.

In another relationship this might be abusive but i would stress that it is strictly consensual and We/we both enjoy it.