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DianeB269 -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 1:07:00 PM)

A photo is very important to me. I like to see who I'm chatting with.



Diane



VeryMercurial -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 4:05:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I prefer to talk a bit before a picture, I find that when people ask for a picture, its to eliminate ( not everyone is like that however, I find ALOT are)--to Me if the language, the approach, the intent, the conversatins flows, I dont need a pic for a while--after all we all eventually grow old and change, and that pretty boy look or that hot barbie look won't last. IMHO


I wait until we talk a bit first also.



MsKatHouston -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 4:07:15 PM)

I have no problem regarding talking a bit before a photo but it won't go on weeks and weeks without one.  Nor will I meet without one.



VeryMercurial -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 4:11:15 PM)

I agree, its just that if I sent everyone that emailed me a photo, I might as well
have one up.
I send my photo after a week or so, when it looks promising.
I do not respond to emails from submissives asking or demanding a picture, I send
it when I am ready and of course before planning to meet.



KaramelGoddess -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 4:15:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial

I agree, its just that if I sent everyone that emailed me a photo, I might as well
have one up.
I send my photo after a week or so, when it looks promising.
I do not respond to emails from submissives asking or demanding a picture, I send
it when I am ready and of course before planning to meet.


I totally agree here.  If getting to know someone I wait and see how the interchange goes for a while before sending a photo.
I would also never meet anyone from online without having first exchanged photos.
I don't have a photo up on My profile because of My job.  And I shall leave it at that! [:)]
With kind regard,
~Kara



SweetDommes -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 4:19:47 PM)

I have pictures of both Holly and myself up on the profile - we aren't totally open about our lifestyle, but we don't hide it either.  We expect a potential to either have a picture on his profile, or to send one within the first week or so.  We don't feel that is too much to ask.  They know what we look like, we want to know what they look like.



Misstoyou -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 5:47:34 PM)

I'm happy to receive them, but I don't ask for photos and I don't require a picture to have a cup of coffee with somebody who interests me. But then, I don't generally send face pictures to *virtual* strangers either. lol

Actually, the times a submissive's looks have disappointed have all been with submissives who had previously sent me a picture. On the other hand, I've also met a number of submissives whose looks far exceeded their picture as well.



joyinslavery -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 5:53:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Misstoyou

I'm happy to receive them, but I don't ask for photos and I don't require a picture to have a cup of coffee with somebody who interests me. But then, I don't generally send face pictures to *virtual* strangers either. lol

Actually, the times a submissive's looks have disappointed have all been with submissives who had previously sent me a picture. On the other hand, I've also met a number of submissives whose looks far exceeded their picture as well.



If only there were more like You.  [sm=smile.gif] 



MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 5:55:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I prefer to talk a bit before a picture, I find that when people ask for a picture, its to eliminate ( not everyone is like that however, I find ALOT are)--to Me if the language, the approach, the intent, the conversatins flows, I dont need a pic for a while--after all we all eventually grow old and change, and that pretty boy look or that hot barbie look won't last. IMHO


WB Hathor!  Martini?

When it comes to swapping pics - it's only important to me if it's someone that I might meet (by then, it would be mandatory).  Likewise, I won't send a photo to someone who first contacts me and demands one before speaking further.

And when I say pic...I mean a vanilla face shot, NOT a genital shot or other sexually explicit one.

Most people have digital cameras these days - if the individual doesn't, surely one of their buddies does and will do them the favor of taking a pic and giving it to them.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 6:20:33 PM)

Demanding a web cam introduction is excessive. However, I am not 100% comfortable meeting someone in a public place if I do not have at least an idea of whom I am looking for. I dont want to see a body, I dont care about the rest of them, but if I cant recognize a face then I cant really say I am ok with meeting. I have never turned down a meeting with someone becasue they werent atractive enough.
And I dont care what anyone says, it is not that hard to go to anywhere that does photo finishing and have a few pictures scanned to a CD even if you dont have a digital camera. I know for a fact that it costs about 3 bucks to have up to 24 pictures put onto a CD at my store... and if you do that, you can email them to anyone who wants them.

DV



SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 6:49:03 PM)

In these days of online meetings going to r/t meetings I just can't see someone not having a photo available to at least email someone that's interested in meeting you. Even if it's a photo you need to take to the local Kinko's and have them crop and save to a CD for you.

I did meet someone once without a photo. Walked into the coffeeshop and noticed someone of the same physical description wearing the right colored shirt who seemed to be watching for someone to arrive. We sat down and began chatting after the initial "Hello, how are you's". We talked for about 5 minutes before I asked him to expand on a comment he had made during a chat about Female Led relationships. The strangest look came over his face and he blinked a couple times; he did quite a lovely goldfish imitation as he struggled for the words to say in reply. Finally he said, "Your name isn't Megan is it?". Ummm No, it isn't. Yep, completely the wrong person. We had a good laugh and each went our separate ways. Turned out we both ended up being stood up for our meets and he finally wandered back over and asked about FLR's. Not his cup of tea, but it taught me to never ever meet someone without a face photo first. Lesson learned.



Texy -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 7:05:18 PM)

To The OP,

For me a photo does a whole lot in letting me know something. 1) they've taken the time to take photo and send it OR 2) steal one and send it.

I don't expect to meet someone online. I go to muches and private parties for that. In real life there's no mistake about who I am and what I am.

Those that insist on webcams, I blow em off, much better to have real life than a 3 sec webcam pic. If I did "click" with someone online and they wanted a webcam....I'd get one in a New York second!

I don't mess with the click!!! ;-)

gayle



kc692 -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 9:05:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

tell me this... do you pay any attention to the profile of the dominant that shows no picture?

I'm sure you make it a point to look for all the pretty ladies & email them first & those without a profile will most likely be contacted when all else fails.


Wonderful point and one I don't see the OP answering.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Photos please (5/21/2007 9:11:44 PM)

Iv chatted and had wonderful conversations with boys with no pictures on their profiles. I dont mind that, some are just to shy to post it for the world to see. But theres a difference, too, in not wanting to have something out EVERYONE can see, and not having access to something to send someone you are interested in.  Angel had pictures up from day one, and originaly had a very wordy and interesting profile.  Truitt still has none, and no profile text either. They made their impressions in email, and before we met face to face Truitt did find a few pictures to send me, even though he has very few of himself.
I am still waiting on the OPs response to anything said. I dont remember seeing anything after the original.
What gets our attention for us to make first contact and what keeps our attention after contact is made might be different, but I stil think pictures only fair. After all, if I am already interested enoug to meet, do you really think what you look like is going to change my mind if you have the invite before i have the pic?

DV



LadyPact -> RE: Photos please (5/22/2007 5:08:37 AM)

I have to agree.  Minimum, I like a face shot, just so I can see who I'm chatting with or considering meeting.  I do prefer cam, to eliminate those situations of using older (10 years ago) pictures, and to see that they really look like the picture they have posted or sent.  I'm always curious to see what the person on the other side of the screen looks like anyway. 



LaMistressa -> RE: Photos please (5/22/2007 5:33:49 AM)

I get amused when a person writes and specifically compliments me on my picture, and then won't share one of themselves. I like to see who I'm talking to, so that's why I want a picture. It's not rocket science. 



Copulo -> RE: Photos please (5/22/2007 6:02:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kittiekatt

People demanding a webcam/digital cam is excessive if u ask me.. but i mean.. you need to have pictures.. :-/


Because more often than not the picture is either old or not even them. At least on a web cam you can see them as they really are.

A friend of mine chatted for a few weeks to a woman on another site. He had seen her picture, a young voluptuous size 12. He had talked on the phone and she had sounded kind of nice. They arranged to meet in this bar and he says whilst he was standing at the bar this huge woman walked in and straight up to him and introduced herself as this the lady that had been chatting to her. Being polite he bought her a drink but he says she was so big she couldn’t even fit into the bar chair. He asked her why she had lied about her weight and not shown her own pictures to him and she answered, ‘well if I had you wouldn’t of met me would you?’
I don’t take a great deal of notice of a picture. I want to see the real McCoy



Copulo -> RE: Photos please (5/22/2007 6:06:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

In these days of online meetings going to r/t meetings I just can't see someone not having a photo available to at least email someone that's interested in meeting you. Even if it's a photo you need to take to the local Kinko's and have them crop and save to a CD for you.

I did meet someone once without a photo. Walked into the coffeeshop and noticed someone of the same physical description wearing the right colored shirt who seemed to be watching for someone to arrive. We sat down and began chatting after the initial "Hello, how are you's". We talked for about 5 minutes before I asked him to expand on a comment he had made during a chat about Female Led relationships. The strangest look came over his face and he blinked a couple times; he did quite a lovely goldfish imitation as he struggled for the words to say in reply. Finally he said, "Your name isn't Megan is it?". Ummm No, it isn't. Yep, completely the wrong person. We had a good laugh and each went our separate ways. Turned out we both ended up being stood up for our meets and he finally wandered back over and asked about FLR's. Not his cup of tea, but it taught me to never ever meet someone without a face photo first. Lesson learned.


That is just so hilarious. I can just imagine your face when you realized it was not him!!!



subfever -> RE: Photos please (5/22/2007 1:23:56 PM)

It's okay to value your privacy. However, I think photo requests are more than fair, especially after e-mails have been exchanged. IMO... after the first e-mail exchange, the woman has a right to know who she's investing her time with.  

What I don't agree with are those "photo must accompany your initial message" demands, along with threats of deleting your message without even reading it... if you don't comply. 

A responder to a profile may have a legitimate reason to determine whether or not correspondence should progress beyond the initial e-mail exchange. In other words, after a simple basic question or two, it may become obvious to both parties that future correspondence is pointless.

A relocation question is a common example. I like to find out right away if a woman who states that she's willing to relocate, is willing to relocate to Chicago for a suitable match... especially if she currently lives in a more ideal climate! If she isn't willing, why waste any more of her time, or compromise my privacy values by sending photos?

Another example might be where I'm writing to a profile who's owner lives in a city I'm planning to visit. If her profile doesn't specify, I might want to know if she would consider a suitable partner on a one-time or very limited basis.   

In all fairness, most "upfront photo demanders" have responded to my photoless initial inquiries, when accompanied by polite and logical explanations.

And the one's who didn't respond, well, I figured that the lack of photos was their problem... not mine. They're probably not the kind of women I want to invest my time in anyway.   



Mistrix -> RE: Photos please (5/23/2007 5:03:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ebonyslave2u

I think collarme is a wonderful site. I do hope to meet a Mistress here. But is a photo always neccessary? To talk after an initial contact, then meet will tell you more about a person then any photo. But I find it quite difficult to meet  a Mistress without one. It is frustrating. I know there must be a lot of fakes and wankers, but it does make it excessively hard for the serious. I just wanted to put that out there for feed back. Thank you for your time. 


Of course it's necessary to put up a photo.  It's fine for you to look at ours and when we mention it in our profile that that is what we require, heck it's the first start on following a RULE.  It seems that many just send Me a message and expect a reply and didn't even take 2 seconds to read My profile.  That gets Me heated.  How hard is it to get a picture to put up or have ready.  It's respect, decency and etiquette.
Just My two cents.



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