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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 8:04:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: addicted2it
Emoticons are fine, but they don't have one for every single human emotion.

To further add to the point about partial information conveyed by text, emoticons are not always used, as is the case with me. I use emoticons mostly to convey playfulness ( ;-) ) or good will ( :) ).

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 8:28:28 AM

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OOOF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ya shyt ing us? :::rolleyes::: she smell a rotten egg when she sees one. women got that sixth sense mens cant understnsd pluse theres much you can tell in e-mails adn u aint got to be a detective.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 11:18:18 AM

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I know I'd have trouble reconciling "friends only" with, "I told him in a nice way, that I was not interested in a casual relationship."

I can certainly understand the idea that "friends only" might indicate acceptance of casual to some people, however I have a different take on it. I see friendship as very serious business. I may have many associates in life, but I am selective about who I choose to be My friends. I sometimes get confused when I see people getting to know each other with an eye to finding an intimate or romantic partner from the start, seeming to skip friendship totally.

I, Myself do sometimes accept someone for casual interaction - be it a scene, partner in a shared hobby, escort for the symphony, etc... It's amazing how I say "would you like to accompany Me to the symphony" (we have a wonderful local one that gives concerts at no cost) and they hear "would you like to move in, chain yourself to My ankle and father My children?"

Sometimes, rather than go off the handle at the first sign of provocation, a sub/slave could ask what the Mistress means when She says She doesn't do casual.....? Novel idea, but it just might work.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 11:44:28 AM

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MzMia, any intelligent, genuine sub man is going to see you as a Woman who possesses tact, class and intelligence. If he fails to see this, he's not too bright. Anyone with a brain and some common sense can tell you're a decent Woman who gives respect to others and has a pleasant demenour. G*nite sweets.

Thank you sweetheart. A Mistress as sweet as she is beautiful.
Sweets to the sweet!
I peeked at your new webpage, it is wonderful and I can't wait until June 16th!

Takes one to know one! ;P

(Did you receive an email from me yesterday? Check your bulk...)

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 11:57:12 AM

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MzMia, any intelligent, genuine sub man is going to see you as a Woman who possesses tact, class and intelligence. If he fails to see this, he's not too bright. Anyone with a brain and some common sense can tell you're a decent Woman who gives respect to others and has a pleasant demenour. G*nite sweets.

Initially, I thought I would click on your link to your myspace page.

Then I realized how stupid that would be.

Thank God.

lol

"Initially"? lol, okaay. Tell me, how many clicks did it really take you before you finally got a clue? You're better off sticking to fantasies that represent a reality more within your league. I mean, why torture yourself with something so far out of your realm? But, fret not gooddogjoy, you're not the only one who clicked on that link more than once. I understand your frustration. :) Don't worry - you're not as stupid as you are impulsive. You couldn't control yourself. We both know you're a slave to your Y chromosome impulses. Hey, don't blame Me, blame your father. :)

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 12:23:46 PM

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"Initially"? lol, okaay. Tell me, how many clicks did it really take you before you finally got a clue? You're better off sticking to fantasies that represent a reality more within your league. I mean, why torture yourself with something so far out of your realm? But, fret not gooddogjoy, you're not the only one who clicked on that link more than once. I understand your frustration. :) Don't worry - you're not as stupid as you are impulsive. You couldn't control yourself. We both know you're a slave to your Y chromosome impulses. Hey, don't blame Me, blame your father. :)

No hun, no one is blaming you.

And no, I said I didn't click your link. That part of your post is your fantasy.

Details matter. Pay attention.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 12:31:52 PM

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I think that maybe my main problem when communicating with anyone in this lifestyle.
What do I call the person.
I use submissive lover because I think it best expresses the kind of relationship that I am looking for.
I do not express my sexuality with friends no matter how close we are.
Neither do I express it in a casual relationship.
I only express my sexuality in a reasonably committed relationship with a man who I admire and respect who I could love and who I think could love me.
It's not necessarily going to last forever. Very few relationships do. If it does then absolutely great.
I could play with anyone but why would I want to?
I have done in the past until I realised just how much it meant to me emotionally.
I can't and won't do it anymore.
You get a feel for what someone is wanting after a while and if it's not what you want then it's best to say so upfront.
What I'm always afraid of is that I am going to be used to provide someone with experience.
If that's the deal and each person accepts it then that's ok.
I have hurt someone badly by not being clear about what my intentions are.
I never want to do that again.
Neither do I want anyone to hurt me in the same way.
Relationships are risky. But we all have to risk ourselves at times.
Sometimes we seek to be hurt emotionally.
Strange but true.
I constantly seek friends in the lifestyle.
I can't be friends with vanilla people they won't let me be.
Friends are open with one another about who they are.
I have tried with several women who I thought could be non-judgemental
and keep things to themselves. They just don't have the capacity.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 12:37:39 PM

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Dear MzMia, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Frankly, I think a lot of us have become jaded as far as people communicating in text form and miss-match meanings of words and often jumping to an assumption.

But, I also have to say, that people who seek often feel that they are to be instantly successful. Its like McDommes/McDoms and or Slaves R Us out in this forum and or site as is any other forum and site out there. It is everywhere!

People will see/hear what they want to hear. Those who are impatient will see/hear what they want to hear and overlook what they need to hear.

Being impatient and jumping the gun, only causes the person who makes a hasty choice to shoot themselves in their own foot.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 12:42:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

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"Initially"? lol, okaay. Tell me, how many clicks did it really take you before you finally got a clue? You're better off sticking to fantasies that represent a reality more within your league. I mean, why torture yourself with something so far out of your realm? But, fret not gooddogjoy, you're not the only one who clicked on that link more than once. I understand your frustration. :) Don't worry - you're not as stupid as you are impulsive. You couldn't control yourself. We both know you're a slave to your Y chromosome impulses. Hey, don't blame Me, blame your father. :)

No hun, no one is blaming you.

And no, I said I didn't click your link. That part of your post is your fantasy.

Details matter. Pay attention.

Sure you didn't.

That's hardly my fantasy. Nice try though.

Tell you what, make like a good little runt doggie, stand up on your hind legs and do a couple twirls, amuse with me with your performance - I'll consider adding you to the Waiting List. Just remind me every now and then that you're still there. Waiting.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 12:45:12 PM

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I agree with Calandra. But I do things the other way around. I check out if I could become romantically involved with someone first. If I can't I say so and then if I can I offer frienship. I need friends in the lifestyle but first and foremost I need someone to do this with. A partner has to be more necessary than a friend.
I have no idea why the miscommunication happened but it did.
It just seems a real shame that something that could have been right for both parties ended up in such hurt feelings on both sides.
We mess up, we learn, we go on. It's the only thing we can do.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 3:37:40 PM

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We mess up, we learn, we go on. It's the only thing we can do.

What about holding ourselves up in high esteem and just blaming it all on the other person?

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 4:06:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDolly

Sure you didn't.

That's hardly my fantasy. Nice try though.

Tell you what, make like a good little runt doggie, stand up on your hind legs and do a couple twirls, amuse with me with your performance - I'll consider adding you to the Waiting List. Just remind me every now and then that you're still there. Waiting.

I've got a better idea.

How about I do those twirls you like so much then finish off with using you like a fire hydrant?

You're into watersports aren't you?

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 5:25:55 PM

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Dear Goddess Dolly,

After glancing at your avatar, it occurs to me that any healthy sexually well adjusted male would immediately want to see and learn more about you.    I clicked on the link and I can assure you it was a pleasure to view your lovely photograph and I would be honored to learn more about the wonderful person that you obviously seem to be.   The  doggie is either a liar, blind or has issues   with his self-esteem and manhood. I guarnantee that 99% of men would immediately want more and more and more. It is a mystery to me how any submissive male would not desire to serve a Mistress as beautiful, alluring and intelligent as you.   I suppose it's easier to engage in generic insults and idiotic banter than it is to devote oneself and learn the proper way to serve a Dommina. It seems likely that his rude, uncalled for attack toward you stems from repressed feelings of inadequcy and his inability to interact on a meaningful level with strong, confident, creative beautiful Women. If I were you I would pay him no heed, you've graced him with more attention that he will ever deserve. Please don't get the impression that all male slaves are of his ilk. I find it profoundly frustrating that rude men who behave in such a juvenile manner as he has does can claim to represent themselves as submissives when clearly they have no understanding of what it means to show proper respect towards Women.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 5:32:02 PM

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Thanks for stepping in and saving the day.

You're such a manly man.

Now get back to your wanking little man.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 6:08:01 PM

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Thanks for stepping in and saving the day.

You're such a manly man.

Now get back to your wanking little man.

Be honest, you're just jealous because sugar wouldn't melt in his mouth & his nose is brown while your avatar's nose is black. Personally, I think your avatar would look rather odd with a brown nose instead of a black one. But hey, if you think it might work...

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 6:18:55 PM

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Just the facts. sorry if the truth offends you. Now hurry up and reply before your mommy makes you turn the computer off and go to bed, after all it is a school night .

just my thoughts

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 6:26:52 PM

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The truth? Dude I'm laughing at you.

You want the truth tough guy?

Guys like you are knuckleheads.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 6:37:36 PM

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Obnoxious poster. Nothing ever meaningful to say. Hide behind sarcasm. no wonder you loves to hate on womens like that. it just reminds you of whut a sour grape loser you is coz deep down in heart you knows well fully you couldnt never get a girl of substance. you and your ugly duckling boyfriend pixel both be rejects sucka. yay, the truth hurts. beauty hurts you becoz youll never be it AND youll neva get it, either, byotch. where the girls at?

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 6:40:14 PM

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Do you feel better now honey?

Get it all out.

(Oh, and thanks for noticing!)

Edited to add: I know a wonderful English teacher if you're ever interested in improving. She conducts some great ESL classes online so just let me know.

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RE: Simple Misunderstandings/Styles of Communicating - 5/23/2007 6:40:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

Thanks for stepping in and saving the day.

You're such a manly man.

Now get back to your wanking little man.

Be honest, you're just jealous because sugar wouldn't melt in his mouth & his nose is brown while your avatar's nose is black. Personally, I think your avatar would look rather odd with a brown nose instead of a black one. But hey, if you think it might work...

- pixel