kyraofMists
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Nice first post WickedWench; it highlights some of my own thoughts about the wording of this rule. For the first part the wording deals in absolutes and is just unrealistic for many of the reasons that you pointed out. Also, I have not abdicated my responsibility to self and I am required to protect my boundaries. These boundaries protect my well-being and it is my responsibility to not let people cross them.
In my relationship I am required to obey. One of my directives is to take care of his property. That encompasses many things including trying to keep myself from harm. To be in a relationship with him means that I will be pushed often and sometimes pushed hard. He pushes us to what he believes that we are capable of doing. Many times that is beyond what I want/like to do and sometimes it is beyond what even I think I am capable of. He can do this because he is sure in the knowledge that when I get to the point that I think I am going to be harmed by what is happening I will speak up. Sometimes he makes the decision to continue what is happening because he believes I am capable of it and other times he tries another way to get what he wants. If he thought that I would only blindly do whatever I am told without regard to my well-being then he could not push as hard as he wants and he would have to hold back on being who he is.
It is a balance and there have been times that we have walked that fine line between what is harmful and what is not. He trusts that I am going to protect my well-being and I trust that he does not want to intentionally harm me. It is not a dynamic that works for everyone; being presented with an ever increasing hurdle to jump can be rather frustrating and there are times that I have felt inadequate but it is highly rewarding for me in the end to keep meeting his expectations.
Knight's kyra
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"Passion... it lies in all of us. Sleeping, waiting, and though unbidden, it will stir, open its jaws, and howl. It speaks to us, guides us... passion rules us all. And we obey..." ~Angelus
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