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Most healthy couples I've seen aren't glued to each other's side 24/7 and have some time apart where they persue their own interests.

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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper

If the subject matter intrigues you, the words flow.  When My Muse is with me, I can write novelas that keep her on the edge of her seat wanting more.  When she isn't, I find myself sniffing the teddy bear that carries her scent for the motivation to move my fingers.

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ORIGINAL: salilus

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Most healthy couples I've seen aren't glued to each other's side 24/7 and have some time apart where they persue their own interests.

And most healthy couples I've seen, are not glued to the computer all day, either.

If you have the time, then you do. I don't mean any offense to you, personally, or anyone else who can balance lots of time online with everything else they do.  The fact that it makes me wary of people when they are online a lot and claim to be 'Grand and Mighty' in BDSMville, has nothing whatsoever to do with you, personally. I promise!

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ORIGINAL: salilus

I've never understood this phenomenon either. I can't ever understand how a person can say they do this, that, and the other thing with and for their owner/top/daddy/mistress/etc and they're so heavy in the local bdsm community and yet they're online for what seems to be all day long at times.

It doesn't click in my head.
Or perhaps it's just that I wish I could sit on the computer all day long and shirk my Daddy and all of my responsibilities while I yammered on about my opinion for hours on end.

Wait.

No I don't. ;)

Like other people have said - it's pretty easy. I'm here for a few hours a day and more on weekends while gaming on my laptop. I'm involoved with a local group that meets once a month. I go to classes several hours and day, go to karate a few hours a week and game for a bunch of hours. Considering your average week has 168 hours and most BDSM groups seem to meet once a week at the most, that leaves plenty of time.

Indeed. If one is single there is lots of time in one's week.
But I completely understand when couples work opposite shifts and things there is a need to 'pass time'  sometimes.
What I don't get is how people, in relationships, can work, be in a relationship, attend munches, parties, talks, and events, sometimes even be poly and still have enough time to play around on the computer from morning till night. The math doesn't add up - something is awry, I say.

And that is all I'm saying. :)

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And most healthy couples I've seen, are not glued to the computer all day, either.

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ORIGINAL: salilus

I've never understood this phenomenon either. I can't ever understand how a person can say they do this, that, and the other thing with and for their owner/top/daddy/mistress/etc and they're so heavy in the local bdsm community and yet they're online for what seems to be all day long at times.

It doesn't click in my head.

Like other people have said - it's pretty easy. I'm here for a few hours a day and more on weekends while gaming on my laptop. I'm involoved with a local group that meets once a month. Considering your average week has 168 hours and most BDSM groups seem to meet once a week at the most, that leaves plenty of time.

Indeed. If one is single there is lots of time in one's week.
But I completely understand when couples work opposite shifts and things there is a need to 'pass time'  sometimes.
What I don't get is how people, in relationships, can work, be in a relationship, attend munches, parties, talks, and events, sometimes even be poly and still have enough time to play around on the computer from morning till night. The math doesn't add up - something is awry, I say.

And that is all I'm saying. :)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I know it isn't personal because I've never claimed to be the "grand and mighty" of anything. I'm just saying that it's very possible to have a bunch of posts and have a life.

Being glued to a computer is hardly an issue in this relationship since we are both, in Valyraen's words, "hardcore uber gamers". We play over team style over a network and we both consider it "couple time".

Like others have said, and people seem to keep missing, it doesn't take a long time to post. If you go into the "random stupidity" and start joking around, you can get a 100 very quickly. 

Some people paint for hours and hours a day. Some people garden. Some people game. Some people go on forums. Just as one person's kink is no better then another, neither are hobbies.

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ORIGINAL: earthycouple

Life is evolving.... 5 years ago I was fully involved in my local BDSM community; 2 years ago I gave birth and since my local real time interaction has abated some; this year I am becoming more active again.  Did it ever occur to you salilus that as we as people evolve as do our lives.  Can't people use their resources from all of their life to give good insight into their posts?  Who are you to judge if people who post frequently are "shirking their responsibilties?"

and methinks you doth protest too much...simply will not fly here.  My view is a simple big picture view vs. you viewing the negatives.

Oh...hey...I like that....."I view the big pictures while others view the negatives"  That will be my new quote!

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You are young and apparently not employed full-time, if at all. I'd be curious to see your perception of "time" when you have to assume the full responsibilities of life.

And "team network gaming" is "couple time"? I must be old: I still prefer physical contact, eye contact, conversation... you know, the things I prefer to do with my girl, as opposed to the things I can do with some random stranger who may not even be on the same continent, much less in my home. If that makes me unusual, I'll own.

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You are young and apparently not employed full-time, if at all. I'd be curious to see your perception of "time" when you have to assume the full responsibilities of life.

And "team network gaming" is "couple time"? I must be old: I still prefer physical contact, eye contact, conversation... you know, the things I prefer to do with my girl, as opposed to the things I can do with some random stranger who may not even be on the same continent, much less in my home. If that makes me unusual, I'll own.

I'm sorry, I must have been under the mistaken impression that "couple time" meant doing things that, as a couple, you both enjoy doing. I'll be sure to tell my owner that we must conform to your ideas.

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

You know Aqua, it is just like you to upstage me on my own thread and make it all about YOU

(stalks off and sulks in the corner)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

You know Aqua, it is just like you to upstage me on my own thread and make it all about YOU

(stalks off and sulks in the corner)

Awww... I swear I didn't mean to!

Everybody - start talking about Julia again!

(By the way, how many posts do you think we'll get on this one? )

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Aquatic, if you don't mind Me saying so, I completely understand it.  When there was a time when My husband and I were literally on different continents for a period of time, We used to play Magic the Gathering on-line together.  (It was a few years back, but it still applies.)  It was an activity We could still do together, that We both enjoyed, and allowed Us to chat, have play time, and just have fun.
 
Julia, I'm glad your Daddy won't let you change the name.  There are still a few Orwell fans amongst the population.

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ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Less than an hour at night before bed or early in the morning when the house is quiet--will do it, however it CAN be addciting for some and sadly for some, this is the only real life they have---and don't be mislead and think those with a lot of postings know it all or those with few know little.