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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 12:25:44 AM

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Hello DominaSmartass. "If" you are talking about 24/7 D/s type relationships, on the whole these humans sleep in human beds. Most in the same bed, few separate. Hard floors make for hard limits, methinks! RL.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 12:30:01 AM

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If we are in a sexual relationship and he has been good, we share a bed. If he has been bad, then removing that intimacy by making him sleep on the couch is a punishment I use. I have had only one play partner who requested to sleep on the floor. He said that sleeping on the floor at the foot of my bed where he could be close to me was more satisfying than sleeping on the couch like a guest.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 12:36:56 AM

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In our relationship, me tucking her in each night is the highlight of the day. It would be an incredible punishment to make her sleep on the floor. I know most relationships aren't nearly that picky about the sleeping thing, but this one worked out that way. Not only letting her have bed space, but tucking her in each night silently says "I love you, and I'm proud to have you as My Pet. Thank you." Thus far, it hasn't lost any meaning or power.

If I was upset with her, I would cast her to the floor, but it would be a very heavy punishment.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 12:55:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

Just curious: How many doms require their subs to sleep on the floor? How many of you have a separate place for the sub to sleep? And how many of you cohabitate the same bed? I'm interested in not only yes/no answers but the reasoning behind it. From the dom side I'm going to assume that you do what you prefer but from the sub side, which do you prefer if given the choice - and why?

I sleep on the bed. He sleeps on the bed. Everyone is happy.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 2:48:08 AM

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She sleeps with me. Spent wayyyy too many lonely nights over the years not to appreciate having all those soft and curvy feminine bits at hand to grope at my leisure. Doubly so when we're talking about my personal property! The floor is for clothes (lol) and the spare bedroom is for guests....

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 3:03:41 AM

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to me it would only mean that my Dom did not care for me

I would seriously tell him he needed to find someone else.

And I am not joking either.

beanie

I agree with you beanie. I wouldn't be with anyone who even suggested such an idea. This relationship is based on mutual respect. (Although I often sneak out of bed and sleep in another room :)

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 4:53:12 AM

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I do make my boy sleep on the floor sometimes or in his cage but only as part of a weekend session or when he has been away from me a long time and I feel I need to inject some reminders. To be honest though I prefer him in my bed snuggled up to me because I sleep better and love waking upto him in my arms

He does love being told to sleep on the floor though. Apparently one of the most exciting things I told him once was " naughty whores don't need nice beds you can sleep on the floor tonight " lol bless him :)

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 5:12:12 AM

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Hey, I didn't say you couldn't have an air mattress! ;) Seriously, what I was going for was more the emotional/relationship stuff not so much matters of physical comfort. If I were in a relationship with someone who was strictly a slave to me and not involved romantically, it's very possible I would not want to share a bed. Especially if that person where with me while I am with my current boyfriend/"girl". Sure, I'd let him do whatever he needed to be comfy, like an airmattress or whatnot (except maybe sometimes just for the fun of it to be extra mean) but it's more about the separation, the "knowing one's place" kind of thing I guess. Do you have any feelings on that part of it?

This is more or less precisely what I did. When I had My (then) pet, when We met in hotels, he was permitted to sleep in the bed. However, when he had eventually earned the opportunity to be with Me in My home, the decision was made that he would not be permitted to sleep in the bed My husband and I regularly share. The solution? A pet pillow! It was not a bed of his own, per se, but rather a memory foam mattress, which We outfitted with sheets, pillows, and blanket for his use in Our home. It allowed him to sleep on the floor. Rather comfortably, too. I still have it, though now it is stored in another room, but a pet pillow is still what We call it to this day.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 5:28:58 AM

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I wouldn't sleep well on the floor. I can sleep decently on an air matress or pallet, however i really couldn't see myself with a partner who did not want me to sleep next to him, and i most assuredly could not see myself with a partner who felt i needed to "earn" the right to sleep with them. (i'm not knocking anyones dynamic, just stating what works/doesn't work for me)

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 5:29:00 AM

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I have to stay in bed with him. And this is a problem because both of us suffer from erratic sleeping habits. I absolutely hate lying there for hours tossing and turning. But if he's asleep and I leave the bed, he wakes up and comes looking for me. Hell, I get interrogated as to where I've been and for how long even if all I did was go to the bathroom.

But he threatens to make me sleep on the floor if I've stolen all the pillows or blankets during the night. Obviously a joke since I'm asleep when I do it.

Basically he thinks like Focus, I should be there to play with when he wants.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 5:57:41 AM

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My place is on the floor, next to his side of the bed. If he wants me, i am only a arm away.

I have a mat (sleeping bag turned inside out with a foam pad inside of it) that slides under the bed during the day. I just slide it out and it's right there. No sheets, just the sleeping bag cover but that is easy to remove and wash. I keep a blanket folded on it and have a pillow to use. So physically i have padding, warmth and reasonable comfort. I can sleep right on a carpeted floor but the little bit of padding really helps.

1- If Sir is not there i always sleep on the floor.

2 -If Sir is there, when he gets to bed (usually after i am on my mat) i have to ask permission to crawl into bed next to him. I usually get permission.

3- Sometimes, after some cuddle time, he kicks me out (literally pushes me over the edge with his foot) or the tell me to sleep at his feet, which means i sleep at the foot of the bed sideways.

Sleeping on the floor is not punishment at all., it is simply my place.
that is HIS bed - not mine. But my place is close to his side to be able to serve when he want me. i love it.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:00:03 AM

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Master and i always sleep in the bed together. W/we both prefer this arrangement though i wouldn't mind occasionally sleeping on the floor. W/we have talked about it and, though He kind of likes the idea, He just won't give up having me sleep right next to Him. He says, "Why would I punish Myself?"

Before bed, i put on my ankle cuffs and my right ankle is chained with a thick, fairly heavy chain to the bottom corner of the bed frame. There's enough chain to move freely about the room but not to leave it. During the night if i need to use the bathroom, i simply touch Him and ask Him and He unlocks the chain with the key He wears around His neck always. Sometimes He takes me and sometimes He allows me to go alone. i come back, get the chain locked back on, and curl back up with Him. This is the way He wants it and, since it pleases Him, it makes me happy to do it this way..........slave luci

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:24:54 AM

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I do make my boy sleep on the floor sometimes or in his cage but only as part of a weekend session or when he has been away from me a long time and I feel I need to inject some reminders. To be honest though I prefer him in my bed snuggled up to me because I sleep better and love waking upto him in my arms He does love being told to sleep on the floor though. Apparently one of the most exciting things I told him once was " naughty whores don't need nice beds you can sleep on the floor tonight " lol bless him :)

I have my girls sleep on the floor or in their respective cages too. I'll unchain one and pull her into bed with me when I want the feel of her in the night. But being chained and on/in the floor/cage give them a feeling of both being wanted and of where their place is.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:27:11 AM

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My place is on the floor, next to his side of the bed. If he wants me, i am only a arm away.

I have a mat (sleeping bag turned inside out with a foam pad inside of it) that slides under the bed during the day. I just slide it out and it's right there. No sheets, just the sleeping bag cover but that is easy to remove and wash. I keep a blanket folded on it and have a pillow to use. So physically i have padding, warmth and reasonable comfort. I can sleep right on a carpeted floor but the little bit of padding really helps.

1- If Sir is not there i always sleep on the floor.

2 -If Sir is there, when he gets to bed (usually after i am on my mat) i have to ask permission to crawl into bed next to him. I usually get permission.

3- Sometimes, after some cuddle time, he kicks me out (literally pushes me over the edge with his foot) or the tell me to sleep at his feet, which means i sleep at the foot of the bed sideways.

Sleeping on the floor is not punishment at all., it is simply my place.
that is HIS bed - not mine. But my place is close to his side to be able to serve when he want me. i love it.

You are indeed a "goodpet", it sounds like you and your Sir have an ideal arrangement.
I love the sleeping bag that you can slide under the bed during the day, and the fact that you ASK permission
to get into bed with your Sir.
Thank you for sharing, I plan to use your ideas.
Tell your Sir, I like his methods.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:29:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: AnkleStraps54

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ORIGINAL: ennaozzie

to me it would only mean that my Dom did not care for me

I would seriously tell him he needed to find someone else.

And I am not joking either.

beanie

I agree with you beanie. I wouldn't be with anyone who even suggested such an idea. This relationship is based on mutual respect. (Although I often sneak out of bed and sleep in another room :)

shiaz

Having the sub/slave sleep on the floor has nothing to do with respect or lack there of.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:34:02 AM

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I give up lol.
Everytime I think that I have understood what's going on in the 'lifestyle' someone else says something that confuses me.
I have never thought that TPE necessarily means a lack of emotion in the relationship.
My fem sub/slave gave me almost total power but it didn't mean that I didn't care for her. Still do in fact and she obviously cares for me.
We slept together most of the time but if I was restless or nicked all the covers off her she would end up on the floor. I don't think you can or should take power from someone they give it willingly or they don't. But that's just my view. It's right for me.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:50:36 AM

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I can't imagine not being allowed to sleep in His bed. But it's still HIS bed. I would be sad if He told me to sleep on the floor, or anywhere else than in His bed, but I would accept it. Sharing bed is the best part of being in a relationship.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 8:10:07 AM

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Greetings

I will be honest; I actually dislike sleeping on a bed or anything soft. I enjoy the floor and it's much nicer to my back than a mattress is. When Master is home, he likes for me to sleep on the bed with him though sometimes, if I beg nicely, he will allow me to sleep on the floor instead.

I wish you well

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 8:14:43 AM

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greetings Mistress DominaSmartass;

sabba's Master has her sleep in bed with Him.

Before she was owned by Him, she was for all intent and purposes owned by a different Master. He would send her to bed, and the instructions started out with 15 minutes of "floor time". During that time, it's really hard not to focus on Him, why sabba was on the floor, and who she served. Over the months, it came to be a very comforting habit and ritual, He would send her to bed, the amount of time increased, and finally, sabba began to beg to be allowed to sleep there all night. Eventually, it was difficult for sabba to sleep without being on the floor, because she used it as sort of a meditation time, to reflect on pleasing and serving Him, and in most cases, it calmed her. The ritualistic aspect of it comforted sabba, and pleased Him. It was extremely hard to give this up.

When in person, the instructions would be the foot of the bed, chained to the post...or the floor, depending on His desire at the moment.

sabba isn't sure of His reasoning, but it really served to keep sabba in her place, make sure she knew who served who, and who determined her comfort.

well wishes,
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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 8:31:38 AM

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I do make my boy sleep on the floor sometimes or in his cage but only as part of a weekend session or when he has been away from me a long time and I feel I need to inject some reminders. To be honest though I prefer him in my bed snuggled up to me because I sleep better and love waking upto him in my arms He does love being told to sleep on the floor though. Apparently one of the most exciting things I told him once was " naughty whores don't need nice beds you can sleep on the floor tonight " lol bless him :)

God, how I wish there were more like you!

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