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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 9:08:28 AM

salilus

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I sleep on the floor on a foam mattress pad.

Of course, if I could choose a bed, my choice would be to have two or three inches of memory foam on a table top as a bed. I like a very, very firm bed so the floor is really comfortable for me. Unfortunately, since I've actually slept on the floor on and off since childhood for this reason, it doesn't give me that feeling of humiliation or of being 'less than' my owner.

Being invited into the bed actually tends to make me feel humiliated. I'm not exactly sure why, but it might have something to do with being given permission to do something I used to take for granted.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 9:29:47 AM

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Fast reply -

I don't sleep in the same bed with my slave because I sleep in the same bed with my husband. As to floor or not...I don't really have a want to make him sleep on the floor. I would be very uncomfy if I had to sleep on the floor and would have trouble sleeping thus my days would be less productive. So for me...it makes sense that my slave sleep comfortably at night so his days are more productive.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 9:42:02 AM

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I believe that every healthy adult needs some privacy.

Fox has his own bedroom in our house -- it is not big, maybe the size of a dorm room in college -- plus he has the downstairs bathroom.

Ideally in the future I'd love for each of us to have our own private space that isn't just our bedroom.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 9:58:53 AM

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I am not an easy person to sleep with, so hence the Dominant must have a bit of a masochistic side to do so.But yes I would prefer to sleep together , just would need time to adjust to another in bed with me, and he may need to try to adjust to one who tosses and turns frequently, throws covers off and on, the occasional snore.

...and a potty break or two as well. And ok I admit it....an occasional knee jab as well.....Tempting

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 10:00:33 AM

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When W/we are together overnight i sleep where-ever Master says i sleep, which is usually in bed beside Him, there is something to be said for that intimate cuddling/snuggling up time after a hard nights use.

Funnily enough though He was teasing me on the phone this morning saying i would be on the floor next time.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 10:22:16 AM

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i sleep next to my Dom when I spend the night, why because we both like the comfort in having someone next to each other or I guess i should say that He likes having the comfort of having me next to Him, someone to put an arm around, a breast to play with and torture. Having someone there next to Him to do whatever He wants with. I may hate being woken up via a pinch to a nipple but it's His choice and when I know that He's there next to me I sleep better than I had slept prior. I've only slept on the floor twice and both times it's because there was a "guest" over the first time was another sub and I had an air mattress but I was so exausted from the stress of packing bags, driving two hours to the airport and then flying plus staying up really late that I didn't care, the second time He had a guest over no play involved but I had drank a little to much and just wanted to sleep it off, I remember Him covering me up and putting a pillow under me but that was it. I woke up the next morning when she was in the bathroom and said hey you got your wish, and He was like what....I was like so much for me never sleeping on the floor. ....He just laughed and said well you were sleeping so well, i didn't want to wake you up....haha. somehow He always manages to get his way..lol..

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 10:45:20 AM

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For me sleeping on the floor is punishment. It has nothing to do with the discomfort or lack of sleep. Its the fact ive displeased enough that he doesnt want me by His side.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 11:13:35 AM

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I prefer that Mine sleep either on the floor or in the guest bedroom. It's a personal preference for Me because I really enjoy having the bed to Myself (and the puppy). It's one of those things that lets Me have My own space, which I thoroughly enjoy. I'm not a clingy person, as such I'd prefer not to be clung to in the middle of the night. Plus, I toss and turn a lot.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 12:50:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lateralist1

I give up lol.
Everytime I think that I have understood what's going on in the 'lifestyle' someone else says something that confuses me.
I have never thought that TPE necessarily means a lack of emotion in the relationship.
My fem sub/slave gave me almost total power but it didn't mean that I didn't care for her. Still do in fact and she obviously cares for me.
We slept together most of the time but if I was restless or nicked all the covers off her she would end up on the floor. I don't think you can or should take power from someone they give it willingly or they don't. But that's just my view. It's right for me.

You're right TPE does mean a lack of emotion in a relationship. This was the only BDSM lifestyle relationship I had, where there was not a deep romantic interest. All this means is you can have relationships with different degrees of emotional involvement. Also, our arrangement upfront was not of an emotionally involved relationship. Nor was it intended to be a long term for life relationship as well. She was a friend who was a masterless slave showing up all the time at my house. We started off playing together, then moved it into a 24/7 live in arrangement with TPE. I was not romantically involved with anybody at the time, so why not? It allowed me to experience TPE and gave her a sense of stability and purpose in life.

The number one rule to entering a BDSM relationship together is coming to the terms/agreement for WTF is going on.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 1:04:52 PM

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I sleep where he tells me to sleep. Sometimes it is next to him, sometimes on the bed at his feet (most typical) and sometimes on the floor. I'm just happy to be near him, for goodness sake. Where I sleep has nothing to do with a lack of respect or emotions. In fact, it only enhances that he cares enough about me to treat me as I need to be treated. The last time I was sleeping at his feet, he nailed me in the head a couple of times in his sleep, so I grabbed a pillow and a light blanket and slipped on down to the floor beside the bed. He enjoys me there because he can reach down and grab me when he wants. It's always quite lovely to wake up with his hand on my head.

Since we don't live together, the above applies to the times I see him. Otherwise I am asleep on my bed, with the light on, with a cam aiming at me so he can peek in on his girl during the night.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 3:12:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei

My choice of where a submissive will sleep depends on the relationship I have with that person. Presently, I am not involved in a 24/7 D/s relationship. In the past, with one submissive... I loved chaining him to the floor along the floor boards while I slept in the bed above him. When we were together, he always slept on the floor. Our relationship was a rather intense, harsh one which lacked sexual/sensual contact... so having him chained to the floor felt right to me.

In another relationship with a submissive, we shared a bed whenever we were together. Our relationship was very sensual and loving...and the one time I had him sleep on the floor as punishment, he cried all night keeping me awake. Chaining him to the floor would not have been appropriate with him and I had no desire to do so.

I enjoyed each male differently, and in the future, it will be nice if I find a male who I will want a combination of the above scenarios.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 3:28:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile
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You're right TPE does mean a lack of emotion in a relationship. ...

I meant this...
"You're right TPE does not mean a lack of emotion in a relationship. ..."
Just wanted to make it clear...

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 3:37:32 PM

ownedgirlie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile
..
You're right TPE does mean a lack of emotion in a relationship. ...

I meant this...
"You're right TPE does not mean a lack of emotion in a relationship. ..."
Just wanted to make it clear...

I assumed you meant that, but sleeping on the floor doesn't mean lack of emotion, either.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 5:53:15 PM

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Dear DominaSmartass, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my salad days in the lifestyle, it was common practice that slaves slept at the foot of the bed. It was seen more like a honor to sleep at a Master's feet/bed as it would be an honor to kneel at a Master's feet where he sat or stood.

Youth has an ability to enable those who wish to sleep on the floor with their Owner/Master to rebound. Those with bad backs find a firm floor better on their backs than a soft mattress without support.
Some Masters as I have provided air mattress, mats and other cushions to put some space between the floor and them. Even raising the bed and put a box living quarters under the bed has been used, where slaves slept under the Master's bed. I included a night light for my slave and had room where he could sleep on his side, on a mat with pillows and blankets. He was a craftsman with wood so this project was lovely.

As time passed and slaves aged, I've had them sleep on a bed in a different room and an intercom system serves well.

In my mind's eyes I see, each Master/Mistress/Dominant/Trainer and or Owner must put the health of their slave forefront of any practice. Even in my salad days, older slaves were gently cared for--instead of kneeling, as their knees with arthritis was an issue, they stood with bowed head as to make their presentation. As a Dominant, I too am getting older and arthritis is bothering me also. Those who were sick or injured slept in beds and helped in anyway I could, so they would get better.

What is wonderful, is to have a slave who serves with a slave heart no matter the age and or abilities. It is not the quantity of service that impresses me--it is the quality of service.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 6:37:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VeryMercurial

You are indeed a "goodpet", it sounds like you and your Sir have an ideal arrangement.
I love the sleeping bag that you can slide under the bed during the day, and the fact that you ASK permission to get into bed with your Sir.
Thank you for sharing, I plan to use your ideas.
Tell your Sir, I like his methods.

Thank for comments and i will pass on to Sir you message.

Not to steal the thread but the mat was easy to make. Slumber sleeping bag, turn inside out so the soft cotton is on the outside. For the padding i took a bed topper, the kind with squares cut half way down (not the egg crate kind), and double it. then safeypined the end shut. i had to trim it a couple of times until i got the measurments right.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 7:39:35 PM

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the vast majority of the time, i sleep with my Master in his bed. why? because we are not just Master and slave, we are also Father and daughter, as well as soulmates, and we just like being together. there have been times where as part of a punishment i had to sleep elsewhere, like on the kitchen floor or in the closet. but Daddy has been toying with the idea of us having separate bedrooms one day, say if he ever builds a home for us. it would be similar to the old Victorian style, of two main bedrooms joined by a short hallway, except my bedroom would be very small, basically a large closet, with only some bedding on the floor. that way he could snuggle to his heart's content, then when it was actually time for sleep place me in the other room. i like the idea very much and hope we can make it happen.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 8:20:52 PM

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My Master has me sleep with him, the only time I haven't slept beside him is when he made me sleep at the foot of the bed one night and I don't think he liked that much, as he has never told me to sleep there again. I prefer to be in bed beside him as I won't be able to sleep unless he is there or unless I am so exhausted I just fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 8:31:47 PM

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My M wants me sleeping with him. He loves kissing me on the back of the neck, then falling alseep with his arm wrapped around me. I have to say from my point of view, this is for sure the way I prefer it also.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/27/2007 11:36:03 PM

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Thanks for all the great replies so far. I really have enjoyed hearing all the different arrangements and reasons behind them. My current partner is everything to me and we both wouldn't have it any other way than sleeping in the same bed. Plus, ever since the first night we spent together, I have found that I enjoy groping him throughout the night if I happen to wake up or turn over. After all, he agrees, his cock is there for my enjoyment and mine to use whenever and however I want. So while the idea of sending a slave somewhere else to sleep is appealing to me, I don't think I could ever do it to him unless I were just *that* pissed off and I hope to never be. We do currently have a 2 bedroom place so that we can have our personal space (much like LA mentioned) but we have yet to sleep apart because I agree with Focus on this one (that might be a first, lol.) Of course, we are also primarily long distance since my job keeps me halfway across the country. This is coming to an end very soon and for the first time in 10 months we will be together consistently.

I thought of this thread when thinking back to a femdom friend of mine's advice regarding how to treat my boyfriend when he came to stay with me (before we lived together.) She told me to make him sleep on my couch. I couldn't even begin to consider that. I mean what a waste, especially when we only had a few days together. But she told me that if I didn't make him sleep on the couch or floor he would lose respect for me as a dom. Well, turns out, when we discussed it, he would have been very upset if I told him to sleep away from me in any way and would have thought he had done something wrong and I was angry. I'm glad I didn't follow her advince in that case. But I do understand the mindset that some subs have of needing to sleep wherever and however the dom wants them to.

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RE: Sleeping on the floor - 5/28/2007 1:15:38 AM

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my place is beside Master in what was originally my bed, that's what He wants, and coincidentally, it's what i am physically capable of! my days of sleeping on hard floors even with a mattress are limited, not so much from comfort issues once i'm down there (the firmness can be good for my back) but more from the difficulty of getting down there ... or worse still, getting up again! Don't think my knees would cope too well. Sleeping at His feet just wouldn't be an option, He is 6'4" so He would spend the whole night paranoid about kicking me in the head and knocking me out LOL! Neither of U/us would rest.

IF My Domme side finds a slave *sighs* then We are making it very clear to prospectives that they would be sleeping alone in a guest room, in bed or on the floor as negotiated according to their preference AND Our decision. 3-in-a-bed isn't an option for Us as Master and I fill a queen bed and both get up in the night for bathroom breaks, and as We are the primary couple and the romantic pairing, having the slave sleep in his/her own room also adds necessary distance. I also believe everyone needs some private space, so someone who was to become permanent 24/7 would probably have their own "granny flat" in a liveable shed in the garden with an intercom between that and the main house. As part of the granny flat would include a Dungeon, the possibility of having a cage for sleeping would also be feasible with a kitty litter tray ;-) Of course, slave's first job of the day would be dealing with the kitty litter ... theirs and the real cat's!

But I have enjoyed reading the variety of responses, just showing there is "no one true way" ... thank goodness for that!
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