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SirDominic -> RE: Blocked for no good reason? (5/30/2007 8:06:59 AM)
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ORIGINAL: puella
Personally, I do not even think it is an issue of walking in someone else's shoes (let alone believing that 'what we go through' in terms of not getting a response back from a stranger who owes us nothing amounts to more than a mosquito bite on the ass of an elephant)... If SOMEONE are so thin skinned that SOMEONE can not take the smallest of all rejections in not getting a response from a person SOMEONE have never met before on an online site, than perhaps SOMEONE are not emotionally mature enough to enter into any relationship, let alone one with power exchange properties.
Beyond that, I think that if SOMEONE are working with any kind of intelligence and comprehension, SOMEONE can fathom the idea that it would be a mild tweak to be dismissed without being given any reason as to why (but again, SOMEONE should be smart enough to understand that SOMEONE are not entitled to a damn thing, either way) and/or that there is quite a bit of 'sub flooding' here on this site and also the very good possibility that the person has filtered SOMEONE out of the time they have to spend here for their own reasons (for which you are not entitled to an explanation unless they decide to give it to SOMEONE).
Recently you have grown more hostile in your posts for whatever reason, so maybe you used "you" in your post to mean the generic "you", or maybe it was a subtle dig at me personally. As I can no longer determine your meaning, I thought it would be helpful to alter your response to indicate which version I expect you meant.
As for me, I have never complained about women not responding to me. I know how the system works, which is why I took pains to try and explain the difficulties both sexes have with these sites, and how their experiences differed. I DO believe that it is a good quality to try to understand the issue from the other side of the argument; an ability that has become sorely lacking in modern day society, which has led to the extreme polarization we see in the world today.
My suggestion was not meant as a tool to defraud anyone. But since it has served to completely subvert my meaning, let's just drop the whole idea of false identity profiles.
My intent from the beginning was to express that most men and women do not have any understanding of what the experience is like from the opposite sexes point of view. To try to get back on track, here is my original post, reworded to emphasize the intent I thought was important:
Honestly I am always amused at the men who complain about being rejected out of hand AS WELL AS all the women who tell men to suck it up and get over it. Most men don't have a clue what it is like to be a woman on this site, and most women don't have a clue what a guy goes through either. Each side seems to see the issue only from thier own perspective.
If women were to imagine what a guy has to go through to try to get a response. Here is a typical guy's experience: contacting people day after day, month after month, never getting an answer. How long do you think it would take to get to the level of frustration a lot of guys on this site feel.
If men were to understand how inundated many women's inboxes become, especially if they are new to the site, they might be able to have some sympathy for her problem. Can you can really take the time to answer them all with a polite "no thanks", especially considering the kind of responses she gets back. Not to mention the sheer volume of time she would waste in her day.
A little understanding of the situation each sex has dealing with trying to find a partner would not be a bad thing.
Namaste, Sir Dominic
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