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RE: To love or be loved... - 6/3/2007 4:53:58 AM

pinkieisowned

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I think it is better to love.... To show that you can love... Easier to be loved.

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RE: To love or be loved... - 6/3/2007 5:23:56 AM

lateralist1

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I have never flamed anyone in my life and I'm not going to start now so I will let the last comment go unanswered. My control really is superb lol.
There are so many kinds of love but I assume that we are talking about romantic love that hopefully lasts. Not infatuation/lust. The two can not always be told apart even by the person feeling it.
I dislike being the object of someone's lust/attraction/need if it isn't reciprocated by me. It can last forever but invariably doesn't. Rose coloured spectacles comes to mind. Been there felt it so many times. It's nice. I like feeling like that for a while but if it doesn't deepen into something real then it dies quickly and so it should.A lot of submissives feel like this I think. They might like it so much that they keep it going on purpose.
Now lets talk about the real thing.
The kind you have to work at but you can't do it on your own. Deep respect, understanding and a commitment that surpasses anything else in life.The sort of love that you should have for your self. Positively critical and absolutely honest on both sides. Very few couples achieve it because it takes real guts. I think it might be more achievable with BDSM people than vanilla people because in general we are more open about our need for it. Well some of us are anyway. Some never get there.The longer we stay in the lifestyle the easier it is for us to spot the fakers. Still lots of selfish people here just like in the vanilla world. Love is not selfish but neither is it blind.

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RE: To love or be loved... - 6/3/2007 12:14:38 PM

aldompdx

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stella40, simplyeli, Faramir, great posts!

Love at a deeper level is neither given nor taken. It is shared, like telling a story. It arises in the only place you have ever felt it, your own heart. In the process of sharing your experience of your own love, telling your story, you can inspire another person to feel it arise within their own heart.

To believe that love is a commodity to be given or taken, bargained, source dependent, is to impute American capitalist values to a social experience.

< Message edited by aldompdx -- 6/3/2007 12:19:17 PM >

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