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BIllCT -> DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:06:54 AM)
Do all submissives prefer to meet Doms a distance from them? Why is it it seems when you do find someone to chat with that you like or have something in common with on Collar Me or Bondage.com or another chat program they are always hundreds of miles away. Or if you do run into someone you like and they happen to be in your area, they are collared, taken, or scared to meet because they are new to the lifestyle? Ever notice this at all ladies?

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:09:56 AM)
Last I looked, CT had a very active scene. Particularly with your inexperience, you may want to start going to local munches and educational type stuff - it's a better way to meet people and a better way to learn than on your own. Good luck to you.

earthycouple -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:23:56 AM)
No. The word "all" is completely inclusive and absolute. When you find something that is absolute, let me know. I found my slave in Pennsylvania (I am in Illinios) but it wasn't because I was trying to find someone outside of a 200 mile radius. Life takes us in directions...we can choose to follow them or create a new path... the choice is yours. I suggest quit your complaining about distances on websites and get your ass out into the local community if you want to meet someone local.

igor2003 -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:34:11 AM)
In the vanilla world how many potential partners do you have to meet before you find someone that is really compatible with you? Sometimes dozens? Perhaps hundreds? And, aren't the "good ones" already married? Or aren't they just getting out of a relationship and not wanting to jump right back in? Always something. It's the same thing in kink, only probably even harder. You not only have to try to find someone that is pretty much a match in their vanilla lifestyle, but now they need to match your kink lifestyle as well. And since in most areas there are fewer kinksters than there are vanilla people it is only likely that you will be looking farther and farther away to find someone that is compatible. So i don't think there is any "preferance" to meet someone farther away...it is just the nature of the beast.

darkinshadows -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:40:47 AM)
No. Not really. Finding someone compatable is a different thing - but not for the reasons you asked. Peace

windchymes -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:53:28 AM)
Do submissives "prefer" to meet Doms hundreds of miles away? Hell no. We'd love to meet the Dom of our dreams in our own hometown, too. It just doesn't happen that way much of the time. We all must persevere.

dawntreader -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 5:57:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: earthycouple No. The word "all" is completely inclusive and absolute. When you find something that is absolute, let me know. Ditto! One could say the same for all Masters...i look at it as an opportunity to travel somewhere[:)]

YourShyPet -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 6:01:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT Do all submissives prefer to meet Doms a distance from them? Why is it it seems when you do find someone to chat with that you like or have something in common with on Collar Me or Bondage.com or another chat program they are always hundreds of miles away. Or if you do run into someone you like and they happen to be in your area, they are collared, taken, or scared to meet because they are new to the lifestyle? Ever notice this at all ladies? I know if I hadn't met my Daddy inperson first... that we hadn't been friends for years... and he didn't live 45 mins from me I would have never even attempted to try submission... For me any considerable distance would never work. kittin

viperess -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 6:24:58 AM)
Greetings, Well i for one would have liked to have found what i was looking for much closer to home so i would be closer to my UM's but instead i flew from tex to cal to be with the One i serve. i was not looking to go 2000 miles just to meet someone but i will say i would do it again in a heartbeat in order to serve my Master. Guess it just all depends on what you want and what you are willing to do to get it. Respectfully,

CrazyC -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 8:03:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT Do all submissives prefer to meet Doms a distance from them? Nope... Why is it it seems when you do find someone to chat with that you like or have something in common with on Collar Me or Bondage.com or another chat program they are always hundreds of miles away. Not always true..... Or if you do run into someone you like and they happen to be in your area, they are collared, taken, or scared to meet because they are new to the lifestyle? Again not always true.... Ever notice this at all ladies? Nope.... Grass is always greener in the other field where they aren't close enough to see all thier flaws. You might ask yourself why you keep looking at subs so far away.

slaverosebeauty -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 9:37:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Do all submissives prefer to meet Doms a distance from them? It seems to work out that way. They are 90 min away or 3 hours or 6 hours away or in another state. 3 hours in Cali is not bad, I can do that, its basically a day trip of sorts. Most of the men I have been interested in in the past have been out of my immediate area, or in another state. My current partner lives 3 hours south of me, we are making it work though. quote: Why is it it seems when you do find someone to chat with that you like or have something in common with on Collar Me or Bondage.com or another chat program they are always hundreds of miles away. Murphys law. It makes yuo have to WORK for that relationship, in the end you hope and have faith it was all worth it, I do. quote: Or if you do run into someone you like and they happen to be in your area, they are collared, taken, or scared to meet because they are new to the lifestyle? You make a new friend instead of a partner. No prob. Friends are ALWAYS good to have.

texancutie -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 9:39:23 AM)
I actually have a 50 mile radius rule, within reason. If I can't meet someone regularly, I don't see the point in continuing.

fyreredsub -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 10:32:40 AM)
i dunno about all that. i'ld be tickled to meet a man in the south (that did it for me) instead of the small fortune i paid in the last year or so going to Co. gratefully i didnt have to buy all the tickets cause the sitters for uhms and someone to tend the pets was outagreous too

shyinini -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 11:12:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT Do *all* submissives *prefer* to meet Doms a distance from them? Possibly some. I would have moved, in a heart beat to the southern States, to be with my then Dom Somewhere along the way he forgot to tell me the agenda had changed. Why is it it seems when you do find someone to chat with that you like or have something in common with on Collar Me or Bondage.com or another chat program they are always hundreds of miles away. This kind a is a strange phenomonem. Going to one of the 3 munches in my area was like going to a church pot luck supper and all the usuall's were there, all very boring and all very bad cooks. I opened myself up to a web site just about every one abhores and hit gold. The gods were lookin out for me. Or if you do run into someone you like and they happen to be in your area, they are collared, taken, or scared to meet because they are new to the lifestyle? Unfortunately this is true as well, generally, at times. Or allthe Doms you think are great are taken? Ever notice this at all ladies? I could have several options ~~ I could be sitting here lost, wanting what I want, feeling sorry for myself..... I could be learning to get to know the thoughts of those closer to me via message boards on the different sites.... I could be making friendships of a platonic nature from a BDSM site, close to me.... I could work on my own character..... I could spend time with co-workers......family...... I could join a boating club, a bicycle club, etc......... I was truly blessed. I was on a journey....the path is still ahead and both of us are not young, but both of us want each other and live our lives, have families we love and freinds who believe in us. Your question? So all submissives................? My Sir told me the other day, there are some people who *cannot* live without another "love" interest in their life. They must always be attached, so they go from relationship to relationship. I dont need anyone....... Sir doesnt need anyone....... To make our lives worth living, enjoyable and complete. Sir said there are many who cannot and will not live this way. Alone means lonely; no one means unworthiness; quietness means deafening madness. 1000 miles taught me somethings that I needed to learn. 35 miles helped me focus on the important of who I am. Sir's secure slut

eyesopened -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 12:52:32 PM)
i would MUCH rather find someone nearby. But distance is also relative...i've talked to Doms in my own state who say "sadly you live too far away" and that might be a distance of 60 miles. The only reason it seems the 'perfect' one lives hundreds of miles away is that you haven't met them yet to determine if they are in fact 'perfect'. Maybe if you saw the same sub (or Dom) at a munch they wouldn't seem so darn 'perfect'. The sub you turned away from at your local munch is the subject of another Dom's lament that all the good ones are so far away...

Wildfleurs -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 1:17:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BIllCT Do all submissives prefer to meet Doms a distance from them? Why is it it seems when you do find someone to chat with that you like or have something in common with on Collar Me or Bondage.com or another chat program they are always hundreds of miles away. Or if you do run into someone you like and they happen to be in your area, they are collared, taken, or scared to meet because they are new to the lifestyle? Ever notice this at all ladies? If you want to find a woman in Connecticut... why not just go to events, munches, etc in Connecticut. I bet you won't find a woman from ButtfuckIdaho at a CT Event. C~

greeneyes1962 -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 2:25:47 PM)
No, it would have been much simpler to find a master that lives closer to me than He does. I have many tasks to complete before I am able to move closer to Him, things I wouldn't need to do if i was remaining in my area. I feel He is worth anything it takes to get me to the east coast. In the beginning, I wasn't looking for a relationship. I just lucked into it. If I had been looking, I would have looked closer to home.

Quivver -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 3:27:27 PM)
The way I see it is, my need to serve isnt as strong as my need for the ~right~ pairing so why limit the gene pool to an area I have no wish to stay in. Although I do agree with CrazyC and the greener grass it can hide flaws on either side. That's one reason I am following career and where it may take me rather then my submission right now.

MagiksSlave -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 7:03:58 PM)
EH I found Master in my own back yard... or he found me in his.. LOL something like that [:)] Magik's slave

LadyHeart -> RE: DO all Submissives.................... (6/8/2007 7:24:38 PM)
I met my Master (now husband) at a munch. If you look on line, you'll find someone on line - ie global If you look in your local area, you'll find someone local. It's not rocket science. :)) LH

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