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ORIGINAL: viperess

Greetings SIr,
i am not sure i can answer all Your questions. After reading Your profile i will admit it seems to be one of the more honest ones i have read in a while,. I say honest because You admit to being inexperienced but also they You know what You are and are willing to work at learning the rest. It is also good that You are polite in Your dealings with others and not one of the funny "down on your knees bitxx" people who think that impresses anyone. i can tell You from years of experience as a slave that perfect matches do not happen over night. At the same time do not be quick to grab up the first person that You think well they are kind of what i am looking for. If You do not mind a couple suggestions from an old slave...i would google and find some lifestyle events in Your area...munches, workshops (which would be wonderful as You can learn many things there), just different gatherings. Find an experienced Master in Your area and see if He would mentor You and help You in YOur learning. Deciding to live as many of us have is to me wonderful. One thing i see to often is someone who is not experienced try to come off as they are...this is how many end up being harmed as they try things they have no idea how to do. That is why i suggest workshops , i used to stand in for a wonderful friend when he did ddemos and it was exciting watching Masters learn new skills. As i have said many times i may be old but i hope i never stop learning. i wish You the best of luck in Your search.
respectfully,

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster
...Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me?...

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...I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me...

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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

i would chance to guess that the fact that you are seeking someone into poly would be the primary reason...theres a whole message board full of the woe's of finding a third for your poly family...its just hard and doesn't happen overnight...
my 1 cent, cause i'm saving one to come back later
chelle
House Infernus

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster
...Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me?...

 
if you expect that all submissives are identical and consider  them as a collective "they", whose behaviors and tendencies can be generically explained to the opposite collective Dominant/Master "us", then yes, perhaps their might be something unrealistic with your way of thinking.
 

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...Why is age so important for many?...

 
why is physical appearance/financial status/abililty to bear offspring/etc., etc., important for many?
 

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...I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me...

there is no One True Way/One Size Fits All...if this is a game you are playing, you would have to negotiate your "rules" with whomever consents to engage in your "game".

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ORIGINAL: sublimelysensual

I normally ignore threads like this, but for some reason, here I am, so here goes..from looking at your profile, it's hard to tell whether you want an s-type into poly, whether you would be the only one domming her, etc. I don't speak for everyone, but my thought would be there are probably more people here looking for one-on-one than poly, though I could be wrong..so any girl not interested in poly, is probably not going to contact you, or respond to contact you may make.  I'll also tell you that some people who've been around any length of time have automatic turn-offs to anyone labelling themselves master..lord..oh great and mighty dom, etc etc in their screenname.
 
"Why is age so important for many? Why do people say that since I’m 22 I cant be called a Master. Like a 45 year old who has never done this before can say they have been doing this for 20+ years and automatically they are called a master and never questioned about it. "
 
I don't know that age is as important as maturity level. I don't say that to criticize or demean you in any way, the simple fact remains, that in most cases, older people have more life experience, which usually (though not always) results in greater maturity. And yes, anyone can say anything they want about amount of experience, etc etc, but that does not mean everyone is going to automatically believe them or trust them..actions speak louder than words, though from what I've seen in posters here, it's not too hard to pick up on who's full of hot air and who isn't. Last but not least, I would let your fiance's profile speak for itself, maybe simply refer people to it..a lot of folks don't understand financial domination or the motivation, and would automatically avoid any referral to it like the plague. On the other hand, if you want to come off like a player who's decided it's fun to tie a girl up and flog her a little, and have a convenient male s-type handy to use for your own personal financial gains, leave everything alone.
 
  Now after all that..you seem like a normal 22 yr old male, there's nothing wrong with that, just know that not everyone is looking for "a normal 22 yr old male". Just my take..
 
-a

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster
...Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me?...

 
if you expect that all submissives are identical and consider  them as a collective "they", whose behaviors and tendencies can be generically explained to the opposite collective Dominant/Master "us", then yes, perhaps their might be something unrealistic with your way of thinking.
 

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...Why is age so important for many?...

 
why is physical appearance/financial status/abililty to bear offspring/etc., etc., important for many?
 

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...I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me...

there is no One True Way/One Size Fits All...if this is a game you are playing, you would have to negotiate your "rules" with whomever consents to engage in your "game".

Thank you for your input even though it really wasn’t much help. I can see it was you attempt to roast a new Master, congratulations! Also, “…kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules…” is a figure of speech. Kind of like “The game of love” and whatnot.

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster


I have some questions that I just need answering because I really want to know. I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.(Long Story) My inbox has been relatively empty unless I initiate the contact. What is it about female submissives? Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me? I try and be as polite as possible when writing my profile, I use pictures, and if I make contact I am very polite and do nit use form letters.
Why is age so important for many? Why do people say that since I’m 22 I cant be called a Master. Like a 45 year old who has never done this before can say they have been doing this for 20+ years and automatically they are called a master and never questioned about it. Again, I’m really sore on the subjects at hand. I don’t want instant gratification by finding a slave “right the instant.” I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me.

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster

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ORIGINAL: sublimelysensual

I normally ignore threads like this, but for some reason, here I am, so here goes..from looking at your profile, it's hard to tell whether you want an s-type into poly, whether you would be the only one domming her, etc. I don't speak for everyone, but my thought would be there are probably more people here looking for one-on-one than poly, though I could be wrong..so any girl not interested in poly, is probably not going to contact you, or respond to contact you may make.  I'll also tell you that some people who've been around any length of time have automatic turn-offs to anyone labelling themselves master..lord..oh great and mighty dom, etc etc in their screenname.
 
"Why is age so important for many? Why do people say that since I’m 22 I cant be called a Master. Like a 45 year old who has never done this before can say they have been doing this for 20+ years and automatically they are called a master and never questioned about it. "
 
I don't know that age is as important as maturity level. I don't say that to criticize or demean you in any way, the simple fact remains, that in most cases, older people have more life experience, which usually (though not always) results in greater maturity. And yes, anyone can say anything they want about amount of experience, etc etc, but that does not mean everyone is going to automatically believe them or trust them..actions speak louder than words, though from what I've seen in posters here, it's not too hard to pick up on who's full of hot air and who isn't. Last but not least, I would let your fiance's profile speak for itself, maybe simply refer people to it..a lot of folks don't understand financial domination or the motivation, and would automatically avoid any referral to it like the plague. On the other hand, if you want to come off like a player who's decided it's fun to tie a girl up and flog her a little, and have a convenient male s-type handy to use for your own personal financial gains, leave everything alone.
 
  Now after all that..you seem like a normal 22 yr old male, there's nothing wrong with that, just know that not everyone is looking for "a normal 22 yr old male". Just my take..
 
-a

Well then how would I be able to stand out among my peers? My girl is the one who wants the male Financial Slave, to tell you the truth I want nothing to do with men at all!

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster
...Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me?...

 
if you expect that all submissives are identical and consider  them as a collective "they", whose behaviors and tendencies can be generically explained to the opposite collective Dominant/Master "us", then yes, perhaps their might be something unrealistic with your way of thinking.
 

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...Why is age so important for many?...

 
why is physical appearance/financial status/abililty to bear offspring/etc., etc., important for many?
 

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...I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me...

there is no One True Way/One Size Fits All...if this is a game you are playing, you would have to negotiate your "rules" with whomever consents to engage in your "game".

Thank you for your input even though it really wasn’t much help. I can see it was you attempt to roast a new Master, congratulations! Also, “…kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules…” is a figure of speech. Kind of like “The game of love” and whatnot.

and again, your false assumptions have led you to conclude that this slave's opinion on the futility of referring to all slaves and submissives as "they" and expecting "them" to all behave the same way, was an attempt to "roast a new Master"... instead of a genuine attempt at helping you recognize an unrealistic expectation which might be at the source of your frustration...rather than your blaming an entire group of folks based on their identity or relationship orientation for your frustrations.

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Thank you for your input even though it really wasn’t much help. I can see it was you attempt to roast a new Master, congratulations! Also, “…kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules…” is a figure of speech. Kind of like “The game of love” and whatnot.

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I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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Thank you for your input even though it really wasn’t much help. I can see it was you attempt to roast a new Master, congratulations! Also, “…kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules…” is a figure of speech. Kind of like “The game of love” and whatnot.

beth is so sensitive she has difficulty "roasting" meat. If she intimidates you into feeling attacked you need to reevaluate your perception.

Perhaps you should come back and try this again when you've acquired some confidence. One trait necessary for a "new master" is the ability to appreciate what he/she doesn't know, admit it to himself, and be confident enough to admit it to others. Seeking advice isn't productive if any given is perceived as being "roasting".

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I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.

Maybe others know you better than you know yourself?

Good luck.

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tenderfootmaster

I have some questions that I just need answering because I really want to know. I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.(Long Story) My inbox has been relatively empty unless I initiate the contact. What is it about female submissives? Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me? 

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tenderfootmaster

Why is age so important for many? Why do people say that since I’m 22 I cant be called a Master. Like a 45 year old who has never done this before can say they have been doing this for 20+ years and automatically they are called a master and never questioned about it. Again, I’m really sore on the subjects at hand. I don’t want instant gratification by finding a slave “right the instant.” I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me.

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster


I have some questions that I just need answering because I really want to know. I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.(Long Story) My inbox has been relatively empty unless I initiate the contact. What is it about female submissives?

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 Do they message anybody at all first?

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 Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them?

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 Is there something wrong with me? I try and be as polite as possible when writing my profile, I use pictures, and if I make contact I am very polite and do nit use form letters.

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Again, I’m really sore on the subjects at hand. I don’t want instant gratification by finding a slave “right the instant.” I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me.

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster

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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

i would chance to guess that the fact that you are seeking someone into poly would be the primary reason...theres a whole message board full of the woe's of finding a third for your poly family...its just hard and doesn't happen overnight...
my 1 cent, cause i'm saving one to come back later
chelle
House Infernus

I guess I didn’t realize that a lot of slaves and submissives were against being in a poly relationship.