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RE: Multiple Questions for Slaves and Submissives - 6/13/2007 4:14:01 PM

thegirlincharge

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You're here 10 days and you want things to be "easier"? Sounds like need for instant gratification to me. Calm down, don't be in such a rush...things will happen, just keep looking around. You learn those kinds of things when you're around 40 some odd years ;)

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RE: Multiple Questions for Slaves and Submissives - 6/13/2007 5:13:24 PM

GeekyGirl

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I didn't read all this but here's my answer to your original question:

Age: As I said on the other thread in Gen. Chat:
1)I'm not attracted to young men.
2)They are less likely to be financially stable
3)They have less life experience usually than an older person, and if someone is controlling my life, I want them wise and experienced in the world.
4)Older dom usually = more time in the lifestyle aka better lover, better top, more safety knowledge, more skill and expertise.
5)Older doms are more knowledgeable about handling submissives in a general manner, ie their emotional issues, etc.
6)I like daddy doms and it doesn't feel right to call a young guy daddy.

Now as for contacting doms, I will contact them if they seem to be what I want. In the 4yrs or so that I've been playing around on here, I've only read a handful of profiles that were both local and of people I might be interested in. In other words, I would contact more dominants if more of them seemed to be comptabile...but usually their profiles don't interest me.

Now, about you specifically, IF you were local to me, I would still not contact you because
A) You admit that most of your experience is in the bedroom as opposed to lifestyle BDSM
B) You are poly
C) You are a military guy (don't flame me but I've learned that I don't click well with military people.)
D) You want well kept feet and I'm a barefoot country girl.
E) You refer to yourself as "Master Casey" at the end of your profile..referring to YOURSELF as master just comes across as obnoxious to me.

Etc. You get the point. There are lots of specifics in your profile which will limit your responses.

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RE: Multiple Questions for Slaves and Submissives - 6/13/2007 6:36:52 PM

WillowRain

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ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster

I have some questions that I just need answering because I really want to know. I don’t mean to sound “whinny” or making a “hissy fit” as some already told me I do.(Long Story) My inbox has been relatively empty unless I initiate the contact. What is it about female submissives? Do they message anybody at all first? Or do they just sit back and expect us to go “catch” them? Is there something wrong with me? I try and be as polite as possible when writing my profile, I use pictures, and if I make contact I am very polite and do nit use form letters.
Why is age so important for many? Why do people say that since I’m 22 I cant be called a Master. Like a 45 year old who has never done this before can say they have been doing this for 20+ years and automatically they are called a master and never questioned about it. Again, I’m really sore on the subjects at hand. I don’t want instant gratification by finding a slave “right the instant.” I guess I just want to know what kind of game I’m playing, to know the rules if you will so it will be relatively easier for me.

Probably, you will have more luck if you at least consider simply labeling yourself as a Dominant. It may be hard to understand at 22, but you haven't really lived long enough yet to be all that acomplished at anything yet. That is NOT an insult. You may be starting into this lifestyle with a great spirit, willingness to learn, and a natural ability. The best thing I can offer to you is to get involved in your local community. Meet folks and find some folks that are living the kind of life that you would like to have. Talk to them and perhaps ask one to mentor you. If you and I were introduced at some event and you were introduced to me as a very sincere and genuine young Dominant, I would be very nice to you and take you seriously. If you used the M word... well... no offense but I would probably disengage from the conversation as fast as humanly possible, because at your age, I would consider labeling oneself that a huge sign of immaturity, ignorance and potential dangerous activity in the scene. Consider being humble, don't exagerate, be real, and keep learning.

This is as sincere and honest an opinion as I can give you. Good luck in your search.

p.s. Have I ever initiated a "hello", yes, but very very rarely. It's not my way. A very dear friend of mine had been talking about my Sir and telling me that he thought we might make a fine match for several weeks. It took me a while before I managed to type a very simple, hello and tiny introduction. He invited me to play with he and a lady friend at a local club and..... so on and so on...

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RE: Multiple Questions for Slaves and Submissives - 6/14/2007 11:56:06 PM

DragonNphoenix

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Okay... i understand that many have posted regarding this, but here are my 2 cents.

1) My Master and i looked for 3 years, yes 3 YEARS, to find our wildflower. It was not easy. Was it worth it, very much so. BTW~ we met her here. We have been working on the relationship with her for about 6 months, during that time we have not had sex at all. It has been about adjusting to havin a third and building the trust and security that comes with a long-term M/s relationship. We love our wildflower and would not release her for the world.

2) Poly... that is a cuss word for some sub/slaves out there. I know many that are looking for a Master, but they want to be the only female. Being a sub/slave does not mean that you share well, some do, some dont. Please dont hold it against someone that they are not Poly... you might be losing out on a great friend. Try and make sure that those you contact are interested or accepting of a Poly triad, it will make your job much easier.

3) Contact... those of us that have been in the lifestyle for awhile or have had formal training might think that it IS your place to start the contact. I know that i was taught that a slave DOES NOT start conversation with a Master that she does not already know. I was taught that it is the Master/Dom's place to intiate the conversation. You know... the be seen but not heard rule...

4) Get involved. My Master had years of training and more time spent with a Mentor after that. If you are finding that your age is an issue, sometimes that can be helped if you have a Mentor that is guiding you. Also, you might want to strike up conversation with some the Master/Doms on this site.. they might be able to give you some more insight.

I sincerly hope that I have not offended you, this is just my 2 cents.

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RE: Multiple Questions for Slaves and Submissives - 6/15/2007 12:15:43 AM

DragonNphoenix

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tenderfootmaster

I guess I’m just not aloud to ask any questions on this site. It appears the young people are not taken seriously… I’m just suppose to sit back and become part of the scenery or something… It's ok, I'll probably get insulted about this to, but I really don't care what people think at this point in time.

No, that is not true. I have friends on this site that are 'young' (though I dont think of 35 as old...) and they have valid thoughts and questions. I think that you are just being a bit sensitive about it.

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