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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee


Oddly, this smells less like asshole and more like troll...

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ORIGINAL: LarTric

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

Oddly, this smells less like asshole and more like troll... 

With all due respect, that was a pathetic response. If the subject doesn't interest you, just ignore it. 

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee


You missed my point:  I looked at your profile...it is almost nonexistent; I looked at your question and believe you to be more interested in topping from the bottom (getting to be nasty as often as possible) than looking for ways to actually BE submissive. 
 
As it happens, I do like such behavior; but like all things 'rote' the lack of spontaneity ruins it for me. Besides, I am the one to make the rules.
 
This is less about sincerity and willingness to please than it is about:  can I start a tread that will aid me in wanking today?
 
But...I'm quite sure you will ignore what it is I have to say...   LOL

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me.  If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: LarTric

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me.  If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood.

Akasha

Thank you for response (the only honest response so far). However, I don't understand the point of "manipulating" you. Considering you would be on the receiving end of something relaxing, something that feels good, something that asserts your dominance, etc, why wouldn't you want this in place? What is the downside?

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ORIGINAL: LarTric

As a submissive male, one of my strongest fantasies revolves around anal worship, using it as a reward, queening, etc.

I am thinking of suggesting to my girlfriend a "new house rule" where I would be expected to beg her each morning for the privilege of orally worshiping her anus soon after we woke up and would have to continue doing so until ordered to stop.

Is this something that would appeal to a Dominant female or would it be more of a nuisance?

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

oh lordy would I be grossed out for YEARS if I would get a wet tongue up my ass omfg
seriously..so my domme side would say it was a nuisance (im such a big bad domme *cough*)
but each to their own anyway i just couldn't ever kiss somebody that loved keeping their tongues up a persons butt..
and I wonder why she should adhere to your fetishes daily...unless she's into them too of course..I'd say your fetishes would be adhered to as a reward or use them in a nasty way but expecting it on a daily basis and (instructing)telling her to instruct you to do it??????????
me not understanding this
anyhow perhaps this's just me

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: LarTric

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha



It all really depends on whether or not your girlfriend is honestly interested in using your fetishes as a way to manipulate me.  If it were me, I'd find a way to use it as both a torture and a rewarding, depending on my mood.

Akasha

Thank you for response (the only honest response so far). However, I don't understand the point of "manipulating" you. Considering you would be on the receiving end of something relaxing, something that feels good, something that asserts your dominance, etc, why wouldn't you want this in place? What is the downside?

Even pussy worship or a back massage can be an unrewarding, unenjoyable experience for a woman when it is clear that the man is totally self indulgent or won't leave her alone about it.  Hell, even orgasms can get old when a guy won't shut up about it and just wants to keep giving them; dominance is about pleasure on the lady's terms.  It's clear you get off on anal worship.  It's so clear that for a woman it might be like you have a one track mind and won't leave her alone about it.

I've been with men that were like this with pussy worship.  They could not understand why on earth I would not be over the moon to be with a guy that had a one-track-pussy-mind. The truth is, it was so much about HIM all the time that he made that act even one sided.  If I was not in the mood to have him go down on me, he'd pout and be in a bad mood. I mean come on, seriously, how selfish is that? 

I will also add that the men who have been the most "focussed" on an act, whether it be foot massages or oral service, were more often BAD at the act than those that did it for my pleasure and could take it or leave it.  

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: LarTric


Keep in mind too that the idea would be to beg each morning... not to do the actual act. Whether I went through with it  (like everything else) would be up to her.

I honestly didn't think this would be met with such opposition.

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ORIGINAL: LarTric
Keep in mind too that the idea would be to beg each morning... not to do the actual act. Whether I went through with it  (like everything else) would be up to her.

I honestly didn't think this would be met with such opposition.

Welcome to the "Ask a Mistress" Forum LarTric, consider yourself as just having been "initiated".  

Anything you post will always likely be subject to controversy and opposing viepoints, some of which will be very different from your own.  After all, isn't that why you posted your question to begin with; to learn how others might feel if approached with a question such as yours?  There are many variations to this lifestyle and none will be in precise alignment with yours, mine, or the kinkster that lives next door.  That's a fact of life on any of the Forums here on CM and I suggest you try to get used to it, especially if you wish to post without being offended when you don't get the response or assistance that you expected would occur.

The most important thing to remember is that the relationship you and your girlfriend/Domme have will be unique to the two of you.  It's my opinion there's nothing wrong with that as long as it continues to work for the both of you.  No two relationships are the same and don't expect yours to fit some "ideal" of what a D/s relationship with a woman "should" be.  I suggest you pursue this through honest communication by openly discussing your desires and needs with her according to the dynamic to which the two of you have agreed.  In that manner, you've made your desires known and can allow the dynamic of your relationship to work things through as intended from there.

If you don't tell her of your desires, how will she ever know?  If they match hers and push her buttons too, so much the better and a happier couple you both may discover that you'll suddenly be.  If it doesn't resonate with her, then at least she'll know of your desires, and you'll know where she stands on the issue too!  In communicating your desires, I don't see where anything is lost from either side of the D/s coin.  Will your desires be met?  That's a question you'll never know the answer to until you discuss it with your Domme!