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LaTigresse -> RE: Online Personalities vs. Real Life (6/17/2007 6:50:01 AM)
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Interesting topic. I think that more of who a person really is tends to peek thru for those that are really paying attention.
Aileen, I have seen alot of quiet vulerability in you among many things that I won't list because I am not sure you want them being seen (not that they are bad mind you). But then I have also trolled your photo site and a persons art tells alot about them also.
As for myself, I think that the one major thing that probably does not come across is how quiet and withdrawn I can be. The only way someone could possibly know was to see me reading threads and not commenting, which I do quite alot. Just as in real life I often tend to just sit and watch from the sidelines quietly.
Alot of my regular life struggles remain unknown to anyone here. Not for any reason other than, why take up net space whining about shit no one but me might care about. Anyone else that would give a damn certainly isn't on here anyway.
How I am in personal relationships is certainly not put out here for the world to see. Small flashes of it perhaps but only a minute amount. In life I am just probably......more. More loving, more cold, more of a bitch, more quiet, more confusing, more confused, more happy or sad, more alone, more frazzled..........and all of the other hundreds of things that make up life.
I think that we all filter ourselves to a degree.......not necessarily in a secretive way but moreso "a need to know" or even in my case a "want to know". I am pretty sure that no one on here cares that I was standing in front of a full length mirror trying on dresses this morning and bitching and moaning about how I need to loose 30# and probably will not be doing it in the 3 weeks I have until I need to wear one of those dresses. Or that I am squabbling with my adult daughter, or that I am going to a 3 yo's birthday party today and will enjoy it immensely (unless my adult daughter feels the need to try and resolve our issue, in which case I will have to drag her ass behind the proverbial wood shed and "explain" why not now). All of that kind of boring life stuff no one on here generally reads about, not because of any secrecy on my part but because it just hasn't got a flipping thing to do with anything here.
Probably the most person shit I have posted was a few words about a recent death that really rocked my bedrock. I mentioned it only because it was a D/s relationship that was developing from a long time friendship and it was affecting me in ways that certainly affected how I communicated with people. Granted I wasn't going to go into the details of my grief but acknowledged its existance. I was pretty much angry with the world and it was more of a "tred if you dare" kinda thing.
And that is more than anyone here probably cared to read about my shit.
Anyway, I think that after we all spend enough time reading someone's posts we can get a general idea of the person behind the words but as in any net relationship, your just not going to know a person until you spend some face to face time with them. Some more than others.....then again some not at all. It also depends on how badly you WANT to know the other person. I think we can all safely say that we have family members we have known our whole lives and they are really pretty clueless about us and us them. Some of our net friends may know us better.
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