strikingamatch
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This is my first post to these forums. A few words about myself. My interest in bdsm has evolved from being subliminal at puberty towards a conscious awarenes in my late teens. I have been actively involved in the lifestyle to some degree for about ten years.
I am still searching for that elusive perfect relationship. Part of that search requires that I articulate what it is I am looking for. To that end, I have spoken to numerous people involved in the bdsm lifestyle. I have attempted to listen to them and understand the psychological underpinnings of their drives. This essay is the product of those discussions.
I must note, that my focus has always been only female submissives, and thus pretentious though I may be (and I beg those here to indulge my pretentions), I lay no claim however on how this series of classifications pertains to male submissives, if at all.
I think all submissives can be classified under a series of seven classifications. This is not to say, that any particular submissive fits precisely into one of these classes, rather, that any one or possibly all of these classes combine to comprise her submissive personality. Thus, a submissive may be 100% class 1, or 20% class one, 30% class 4 and 50% class 5. For those who dislike being pigeon-holed, I suggest that this essay be viewed in terms of what makes a submissive what she is, and not in terms of classifying the submissive.
I would be very grateful for any feedback: Specifically, whether or not it is possible to classify submissives in this manner and further whether this series of classifications is correct.
Class 1:
A pain slut. This woman is not a submissive at all, but simply enjoys sensation play.
Class 2:
The abused woman. This woman associates pain (emotional or physical) with those closest to her. Thus, when a dom hurts her, she feels loved and secure.
Class 3:
The deprived woman. This woman is one who was raised without the love and support she deserved. She wishes to regress back to childhood and relive it positively. Discipline, punishment, structure and heaps of love are what this woman is looking for.
Class 4:
The desperate woman. This is a woman who is desperately needy of a stable relationship. For one reason or another she has not managed to create such a relationship. She then believes, that if she will give a man her all, she will find the relationship she craves. This woman is not a submissive at all. She is simply doing the math. If the relationship works out, she will be happy. However, if the relationship collapses, she will be furious at what her dom did to her. Not only was she hurt in all sorts of ways, but she also did not get her just returns. She may claim that she was manipulated into the relationship, and from her point of view, that will indeed be the truth.
Class 5:
The overwhelmed woman. This is a woman who finds that life's demands are too much for her and is looking for someone she can rely on. Frequently, women who are in demanding jobs in the corporate world seek to be submissive at home. They find it extremely difficult to be constantly on the go and long to come home to an environment where someone else is responsible for their happiness and success.
Class 6:
The troublemaker: This is a woman who finds that she cannot control her life. Whether, it is trouble with her diet, her job, her friends or anything else, she finds that she frequently acts in a manner that brings her grief. Thus, she desires a dom who will keep her in place, discipline her when he has to, punish her when she deserves, and reward her when she has been good. Sometimes, she needs a dom in order to be able to safely express her rebellious streak, as she knows that if noone is watching her, she may take things too far. This sort of woman, has a tendency to test her limits just to see how much it is she can get away with and still be safe.
Class 7:
The giver: This is a woman who finds that her truest expression of self is by giving to others. She finds pleasure by putting other people's needs before her own. She seeks to submit so as to be able to be true to her intrinsic nature.
I think that if one evaluates a potential submissive on the basis of these classifications, one can also decide whether submission is the path that will bring her fulfilment. Perhaps therapy or similar is the ideal way of ensuring her happiness. Further, a potential dom should ask himself, can he provide the needs of this specific submissive? For examply, if his submissive is a class 6, can he be an effective policeman? Or, if his submissive is a class 3, can he give her the masses of love she needs?
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