slaveluci
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This thread as well as your statement above got me thinking. Last night, there was a thread started on these forums about when is "enough enough." During the course of the posts there, a real battle of words started because mistoferin stated her personal feelings about some of the things she sees divulged here. She was basically told that she had no right to say that anything was "bad" or "negative" as long as whomever is engaging in it is cool with it and accepting of all it brings. "Don't insult my kink or anyone else's" seems to be the prevailing attitude and that's great. Apparently, anything that anyone says they do is never wrong as long as they say someone is consenting to it (and this seems to be regardless of said person's mental competence). Most people tend to accept this.
However......this thread and others like it show me something very different. Anytime a thread involves someone being involved with a married partner (whose spouse is unaware), the insults begin flying and there's very little dissent. It's as if the worst thing one can be is an adulterer. Anything else anyone chooses to do (no matter how unacceptable, gross, immoral, etc. others may find it) is totally fine. God forbid you insult what they like to do. Yet, whenever someone does something as common (because yes it happens over and over everyday) as cheating on his/her spouse or cheating with someone who is married, any and all put-downs, finger-wagging, and tongue lashings are A-OK.
I am not weighing in on the specifics of this thread. I'm not going to go into what I think should be done or if this relationship should or should not have occurred. It just once again became glaringly obvious to me that there seems to be a different set of standards anytime adultery is involved. There's nothing I can list here that someone won't defend as totally fine between consenting adults....unless perhaps it happens to be "cheating" and then the low-down, dirty dog, pond scum sunzabitches need to be schooled on just how to act . Why is that and just what is it about cheating that makes people so angry and self-righteous when none of the other acts discussed here seem to have the same effect?
And.....disclaimer.....please don't respond with something like "it's because it involves lying." That sounds like a sensible enough answer and it is valid but it simply does not explain the rabid reaction that most people have to threads about cheating. Yes, it involves lying but we don't know the "injured" spouse and certainly all the anger and indignation doesn't come from that. Also, there are people who lie everyday in many situations and discussion of that doesn't bring forth the rancor that cheaters do either. So please, I'm very serious here and not trying to insult anyone. I am simply very curious as to why the topic of cheaters brings forth such a fervor when every other thing that adults do together is supposed to be cool?
luci
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........... you go girl. nothing wrong with knowing yourself. 
. Seriously, I hope no one gets angry and indignant about this. I'm not asking anyone to defend their feelings. I am simply asking someone to explain them to me..........luci
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