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HeavansKeeper -> RE: Daschunds or Gaurd Dogs? (6/19/2007 4:40:19 PM)
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I could write books and books on how I meant to ask this question, but the truth is that I got lazy. I know that people run the gamit (as well as dogs) and that there are exceptions to every rule. Perhaps if I ramble more, my mind will be displayed more accurately.
A few clarifications that may make my question more tolerable...
The mention of the two sorts of dogs was related to their stereotypical nature. It had nothing to do with how they really act.
By pathetic, I meant it as an extension of being less than someone else.
I'm not sure, but it seems like I was asking Dommes more about the extremes, instead of the middle-grounds. Most people fall within the extremes, so most people were excluded from mention in the metaphor.
I wanted to ask which Dommes preffered "Strong" submissives, but what does that say for the other? That they are weak because they didn't require training, or aren't physically powerful? That's certainly not what I meant. This is a very tricky question to pose without sounding like an ignorant douchebag. I gave it a shot, try to find the merit in approaching such a delicate topic. I apologize to you, littlesarbonn, I didn't mean to sound harsh in my description, but I also didn't want to see "tldr."
Perhaps you, the reader, can lend me your eloquent nature. If you can see into my rather twisted mind and grasp what I'm trying to ask, please help me. Does anyone get what I'm trying desperately to ask? I don't want anyone offended, and I'm not telling anyone what I like, or what I think is 'right.'
I know I've had a sexist upbringing, but it's not only my small world where men are told to be strong, competent, and honorable. I have seen Dommes that prefer their male counterpart to be far beneath them, in every way. I've seen Dommes that desire their submissives to be superior than they are in certain fields, this way they can control a person who is better than they are at something, making them better than they were alone, by proxy.
My mind is pulsing trying to get the words out correctly, but that's the way it is with the un-meditated mind. I am not saying a submissive male is incompetent, or that they are weak, or pathetic, or less valuable than their Domme.
Most male submissives would say that they put their Domme first, that's just the nature of being submissive. I'm talking about the "I'm not worthy!" sort of submissive, and how Dommes feel about it.
Does this sound better: "Do you prefer your submissive to maintain an 'I'm not worthy!' attitude or an attitude that is respectful, but powerful?"
I'm frustrated that I can't voice my question as clearly as it flows in my mind. It seems like there is a Heisenberg uncertainty principle at work. The more I grasp what I want to ask, the less I can voice said thoughts. If you'd like to answer, please just take my words with a warning. I am not stupid, and my understanding of people is not as minimalist as I've presented it to be. I'm having a very hard time getting my thoughts out today. Sigh.
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