slavegirljoy -> RE: There's on such thing as a "true master" or "true slave" (6/23/2007 10:39:32 PM)
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i was thinking the same thing, velvetears. The opinions of strangers are completely irrelevant to my self-esteem, whether they use the word "true" or not. i know who i am and what i am and i don't base my sense of identity on the criteria that others set. To say that someone else isn't a "true slave" is no different, to me, than it is for someone to tell another that they aren't a slave. And, how can a stranger make that determination? Simply putting the word "true" in front of slave doesn't make the statement any different, any more powerful, or any more significant. Is there any difference in saying, "She isn't a true cook or a true slut or a true gardener" than in saying, "She isn't a cook or a slut or a gardener"? If there's a difference between those statements, maybe someone could help me to see it. They each say the same thing to me, that someone doesn't like someone else's cooking, sluttishness, or gardening. People get really hung-up on the word "true" being used in front of the word "slave" (or Dom/Master, etc.) but, it doesn't mean anything, unless you consider it to mean something. You decide who you truly are and what you truly believe and truly care about. Just be true to yourself and the negative remarks of others will not mean anything. At least, that's how i look at it. ____________ slave joy Owned property of Master David "..and those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music." -- F. Nietzsche quote:
ORIGINAL: velvetears How can you let the words of others you do not know personally and have no connection to affect you negatively? If you were walking down the sidewalk and a street bum came up to you and called you a worthles skanky bitch would you take offense or walk away shaking your head. This bum doesn't know you from adam, you wouldn't even think twice about his words, they would have no effect on you at all. Why let words from strangers on a message board be any different? As for true - i can set my own standards as to what i feel is "true" but as long as i don't impose that on any other dynamic i can't see that as a bad thing. We all need to judge what is in our own best interest so we set standards and judge whether others stand up to those standards or not. We don't have to be rude and say - You're not "true" get out of here - just a simple no i don't think we would make a good match will suffice. People who have to shove "true" in other peoples faces, imo are insecure people.
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