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MsStryker -> RE: why do MISTRESSES ask for tributes ? (6/25/2007 5:03:01 AM)
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Cool another grumpy, what about me and my needs submissive. As if there arent enough of them already.
I turned pro because I would go to work all day and earn my living doing what I love, then come home for a quick bite, shower and hello to those I reside with change my clothes and go to a party where I "played" (more like worked) from 9pm till 2am with a line of submissives waiting for their turn at the Dom Machine; A Generous Woman who loved play and enjoyed being in the community. I brought the toys, I wore the clothes, I created the scene. I had fun, but.. I got burned out.
On that particular night I got offered a drink of water and some sweet thoughtful subby whom I had just played on for at least an hour offered me a neck rub. oohhh!! Why do we need to think of everything??!!
The next party I decided to stay home and take a bath and tuck into bed early. My phone had 7 texts and 4 missed calls with the line of subbies waiting to be serviced, wanted me to get out of the bath and come play with them. I know we are allowed to ask for a drink, to demand a rub or *gasp* to say no. Everyone must remember sometimes we get carried away and we are so intent on taking care of our submissive, that we forget to, at times, take care of ourselves. It is supposed to be a 2 way street! When we have carried our weight and that of everyone else we have played with for long enough we have the option of deciding what makes it feel fair for us. Sometimes its gifts, could be help with chores, or sometimes cash so we can pay for a professional massage or ohh have enough to get that new corset yumm or those boots mmm. I would also like to have things offered, I do not like asking for things from people unless its a part of a scene. I am proud and strong, I can take care of myself! I do not need you or your gifts or your money! I want the respect that is due to a Person who has spent years enjoying learning the ropes, honing Her craft. Let alone wanting the respect due me for just being alive and kicking in the world, going at it every day like everyone else, and heaven forbid that I might expect respect for simply being a Dominant Woman!!
I want generous souls near me as I am a generous soul. I give without thinking am a good friend and I offer alot to those near me.. But to those subbies who say they are there to be in service.. think about what kind of service you can actually be! I play with people I trust and like in exchange for mutual fun and caring of each other.
I decided to take a break from the pro work shortly after I was effectively called a whore from a boy who didnt want to pay for online Domination, (but it was ethically ok to be adulterously involved with a slut for free??!! good grief!) I set my boundaries and offered: my friendship, conversation, to answer questions, to be a real person.. but he wanted me to "just" hold his key and thinking that was no big deal, to me it is! I explained my feelings on keyholding, what I felt it demanded. He kept pushing at my boundaries and asking what I wanted him to do and how long I thought he should wear his device and did I want to see it etc. I was firm and reminded him that if he wanted that from me I would require a tribute as that was work to me, others pay for play, for my time. I even offered that perhaps he could send me a gift and keep it on a more friendly thing than just a professional basis since we were saying we were friends. He had continued to say he wanted my friendship and was not looking to ask anything of me I did not want to give. So heres where the messing with a Doms heart goes into play, do you understand yet or are you hard hearted and callus?! Taking on the responsibility of someones sexuality and their health is an important thing if you have respect for the process.
I am just getting irritated... where's that gag??!! I know there are good subbies out there I know it! I have met a few but really all I can say is subbie boy who started this thread, thanks for the opportunity to vent publically and tell a part of my story. (I hope you learned something, even if its only to keep your mouth shut cause otherwise its too much trouble.. or perhaps you're basking in the negative attention.. so long as you know yourself and can keep growing thats all that really counts good luck in your search- I actually mean that)
Good grief thats a long rant. I'm posting it anyhow......
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