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RE: Big Sigh - 6/12/2005 12:35:32 AM

Jennsen

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

That was clever, but it might be in the category of pearls before swine. It takes almost as much talent to appreciate wit as it does to display it.

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ORIGINAL: Jennsen

I answered an email yesterday exactly as Emerald suggests and today I got a reply back that said " if your not serious get the fuck off this website, what the hell are you doing here anyway I'm not here to play games" I sent him back only the little smiley waving the little white flag, LOL! Cant wait to see what he says about that......

Yes I know...and I should have just ignored it and left it alone...the art of being wise is the art of knowing what to over look.....but I just couldnt help myself

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RE: Big Sigh - 6/12/2005 5:05:24 AM

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o gee whiz "get the f**k off this site"? what a revealing thing to say; you received email from a vanilla man who honestly believes that all submissives are "easy" and will have sex on command from any man entitling himself "Master" or something similar. you belong here because you choose to be here. i'm sorry you were spoken to so rudely; the same way i'd be sorry if someone stepped on your toes..it's a trifling matter but it does hurt for a moment.

one thing i am absolutely convinced of is that real Doms and Masters have good manners at all times. so if a man is rude, you can feel free to end the conversation; he's a fake. i wish you well in your search...fillepink

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RE: Big Sigh - 6/12/2005 4:00:58 PM

Jennsen

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Hi fillepink,

Thank you for being so thoughtful! As for the rude emailer...his response today was " your intentions are 0". I agree with you, he is a fake and it's time to just ignore him

J

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RE: Big Sigh - 6/12/2005 11:16:30 PM

asissyforher

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hands smilezz a rose... here ..from me, just because.

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RE: Big Sigh - 6/13/2005 8:30:29 AM

subcheryl

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It is frustrating isn't it, when you are being honest and sincerely looking for someone who can be compatible with you, and then you get those type of emails, one can't help take offense at them, you try to be couteous in response to them, answer their questions, or even direct them to your profile because obviously they missed something or misread it, then wham bam you are labeled the loser, the time waster, and goodness me YOU are not for real. Why because you have set of desires that you are trying to match up with someone, yes with the knowledge some things can be adjusted a tad, that you won't put up with rudeness toward yourself, that you won't be treated as a peice of meat, and last but not least you want someone willing to take the time to get to know each other, what they think, what they feel, how they look at life,( oh woe is me, or hey world look out here I come) It just goes to show you that is what that person is all about, and I learned to look at it like they did me a favor for dropping me, it saved me time and effort, it doesn't matter what they think of me, cause I think I pretty neat, and I don't want someone like them in my life dragging me down anyway and why waste time with something like that, cause even if they manage to swallow it and try to be civilized it would come out later, the true nature of them anyway. Just keep your standards as they are, I don't see anything wrong with them, and look at it this way if the emailer is that rude in email what is he like in real life, is he someone you want to even give the time of day to, you seem like a sweet type of lady and I am sure you will or even have caught the eye of some worthy Dom and he will one day appear out of the blue and all will be history. Have a great day and enjoy the HUNT! ! ! !

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RE: Big Sigh - 6/13/2005 8:19:28 PM

slatyb

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ORIGINAL: fillepink
I am told real Doms have good manners at all times, and this seems rude;
to ask a woman You have just met to cyber.

It is rude. I don't know how to tell a 'Real' dom from a fake, but there's no excuse for rudeness.

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On the other hand, i am also told that D/s is not like vanilla,

Don't believe everything you are told. And what is true for someone else may not be true for you. I think the main difference is that for D/s people, sexual compatibility is extremely important, so we put it right out there.

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and here, it is important to find out whether O/our kinks match first.

I suppose that's true to some extent but relationships are complicated. They won't work just because you both checked the same boxes, and a relationship might work even if you didn't check ALL the same boxes. There are a lot of things I find erotic but I would be insane to restrict myself to women who are ready and willing to do them all today.

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...so how do i ever turn the conversation to what i care about -- His character? integrity, confidence, compassion, kindness, faithful, not bigoted, votes, self-control, financally responsible (whether pauper or prince), loving, and so forth?

I think that someone worthy of the least bit of your time would be happy to discuss those things long before trying to be your Dom.

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...in addition, i feel strongly that a real life meeting -- actually a series of them -- is the only way to really know a Man.

and rightly so.

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i am amazed so many people wrote so quickly; i guess this is a "hot button" issue for many people. i am not only sighing because of the inappropriate people who have written me; but also because i think in all the time i have been here, i have probably spoken to only a few real Doms and i wonder what i am doing wrong; how should i change my profile; i genuinely do want a collar; i am not here to hurt A/anyone by playing a game; i wish i knew the magic words to entice real Doms to contact me. Many Blessings on all who added to the thread.

I don't there's a great pool of 'Real doms' out there -- most of the people our age who have their lives in order are already settled. Unfortunately there are a great many men who think they can live in a porn movie.

We all wish there were some magic we could cast to make the perfect partner appear.

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RE: Big Sigh - 6/14/2005 7:55:00 PM

gretchen

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I feel like I have saved the day.

Recently, a new "Dom" (HNG) sent me a few messages, where, you can really tell he had 0% intentions of reading my profile (mostly questions concerning my...uhm...anatomy). It was a perfect chewing toy for me. So we started a dialogue (I was quite polite, not a bitch), wich ended when he finally closed his account.