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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/5/2007 9:18:12 AM

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If the only way to achieve a goal is out of fear then you are doing something seriously wrong...It has no value.

You can love without total respect.....love works ...respect is groovy but not mandatory.

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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/5/2007 8:02:38 PM

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That is a very keen insight and I think you are right, julia.

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It is more important for me to demonstrate love and respect for others than it is for them to feel it for me. I find that if i love and respect myself, those that do not respect and love me tend to not stay around. The key to getting a thing is to give it, and if one continues to give it then sooner or later the match for that energy comes back.

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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/5/2007 11:46:44 PM

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Hello, in the King James Version of the holy bible; there is a passage, that deals with this very subject. In short, it reads, .....the greatest of these, is Love; ...and it goes on.....even though I speak with the voices of angels, and have not love, I become as sounding brass and a tinkling symbol.

Another phrase....Greater love hath no man, than this, to lay down his life for a friend.

So there....if you want to talk about this...then goggle it. I know, I know, there are those among you who would admonish me for bring up something from a handbook written in the 1500's or so.

If you believe in the Christian God, then "fear" would be the ultimate answer. Isn't the first commandment, before its editted ("translated"), "Fear the Lord."?

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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/5/2007 11:56:29 PM

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Love.. love is so empty. It's like a drug. So addictive, and it can be so enjoyable, but it's so fleeting.

To be loved is to be considered well- warmly and in affectionate regards. To consider one differently, or, rather, to fail to consider one criticially. To love someone is to turn a blind eye to their faults. Love truly is blind.

Love is such a selfish thing. You can not truly love a person- for, when one would say this one loves another, this one is truly saying that he is infatiated enough to turn a blind eye to aspects of another while still considers this one. This one is saying that he fails to consider his love in earnest. He does not truly know this other so well.

Then, what would it be to fear someone? To consider this one as liable to cause determent to one's own interests?

Respect, then, is something to consider. It comes in several forms. And my time just ran out. I suppose the point'll wait until later.

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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/6/2007 12:02:39 AM

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Love.. love is so empty. It's like a drug. So addictive, and it can be so enjoyable, but it's so fleeting.

To be loved is to be considered well- warmly and in affectionate regards. To consider one differently, or, rather, to fail to consider one criticially. To love someone is to turn a blind eye to their faults. Love truly is blind.

Love is such a selfish thing.

I've always thought of love as cherishing someone despite or because of their flaws. The lumps, bumps and warts of the loved ones body and soul just add character because that is what made this person who he is, and who I would love.

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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/6/2007 12:18:13 AM

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Love.. love is so empty. It's like a drug. So addictive, and it can be so enjoyable, but it's so fleeting.

To be loved is to be considered well- warmly and in affectionate regards. To consider one differently, or, rather, to fail to consider one criticially. To love someone is to turn a blind eye to their faults. Love truly is blind.

Love is such a selfish thing.

I've always thought of love as cherishing someone despite or because of their flaws. The lumps, bumps and warts of the loved ones body and soul just add character because that is what made this person who he is, and who I would love.

In doing so, you fail to consider this one as you might consider another. The lumps, the bumps, and the warts- you do not think of them the same way. You fail to consider how disgusting they might be to you, or even if simply unattractive. This consideration is not something you wish to undertake as such would deter your view of an individual that you have decided to see as such. A child will never be so beautiful as in a mother's eyes.

Still, I do not wish to tarnish the romanticism many might carry.

PS- I'm extremely on-off at the moment. Replies may be delayed until tommorow (assuming I can get on then). Still, I'm normally pretty good about replying to things.

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RE: Would you rather be loved, respected or feared? - 7/6/2007 12:51:11 AM

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possibly. i'm not discounting that. or perhaps I see him/her as they really are, and decide that lumps and bumps are merely surface. That's not romanticism, that's reality. That doesn't mean that I don't try and figure out why they have those bumps, should i try to smooth them out, does it affect how they interact with me, does it, in fact, even matter. I iwll no doubt over-rationalise those bumps and lumps, but in the end, really - aren't those part of the person that attracted me in the first place?

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