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MissyRane -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 10:07:02 AM)

puer and puella is latin I confirm that[;)]

but when people call me 'girl' it's kind of difficult for me to get used to it and to accept it but I guess it's just used to put emphasis on your place so.. whatever floats your boat!




YouKnowNotPain -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 12:07:34 PM)

I prefer the term "little man".




MistressLorelei -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 1:08:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

A fair point! While I know many desire to "desexualize" these words, I can't help but feel many who reverse and apply terms traditionally used for women upon men do so with the intent to demean twice. It does make me sometimes wonder what is being indirectly said of women in these cases.

Nonetheles, I find it tragic we don't have widely used terms specific to lowering the male sex in our language. In order to do this, we often need to get "creative."



Ok... you win.  Now let's all get creative and come up with as many demeaning terms for the lowly male gender in order to avoid this tragedy.  lol  Sounds easy to me.   You first amayos....   <smiles>




thetammyjo -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 1:13:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

puer and puella is latin I confirm that[;)]

but when people call me 'girl' it's kind of difficult for me to get used to it and to accept it but I guess it's just used to put emphasis on your place so.. whatever floats your boat!


So what are the Greek words I can't think of?

My Liddell & Scott is not a source to use in this case and my mind is blanking.

And I'm too lazy to go get the research I did years ago.




MissyRane -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 1:36:14 PM)

quote:


My Liddell & Scott is not a source to use in this case and my mind is blanking.

And I'm too lazy to go get the research I did years ago.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

puer and puella is latin I confirm that[;)]

but when people call me 'girl' it's kind of difficult for me to get used to it and to accept it but I guess it's just used to put emphasis on your place so.. whatever floats your boat!


So what are the Greek words I can't think of?

My Liddell & Scott is not a source to use in this case and my mind is blanking.

And I'm too lazy to go get the research I did years ago.


honestly I have no idea I've only learned latin.

I didn't find much about this (I didn't spend much time will maybe look better later) but I found this little blog here about the names and I found it quite interesting...and they mention it may stem from Anglo Saxon or even dutch, and I quote:
(reference: http://callumphoenixrising.blogspot.com/2007/03/of-boys-and-girls.html )

"True Masculinity - the Phoenix that never dies

The real strength of men is their inner strength which defines who they are and has been repressed and dormant for far too long.  


Monday, 19 March 2007

Of Boys and Girls

I was thinking earlier about how much I had noticed the differentiation between men and boys and girls and women.

The word boy has unpleasant connotations in the western culture. When we think of the word boy we think of drooling, pimples, bumbling idiots, fart jokes and dogs in heat. Virtually nothing positive or pleasant comes to mind. The word boy has and is always used as a weapon against the male gender – in particular a shaming term to manipulate men into the position of provider, protector and leader to put it lightly and feel ashamed of oneself.

The journey to manhood is one of shame. Boys grow up craving the approval of females and when they reach puberty their sex drives exponentially increase this and are therefore more vulnerable to the manipulation of women than ever. All it takes is shaming and even the most ‘manly’ man who fits all the descriptions of the Stage 1 man is coerced into thinking that the very power that is controlling him is the victim he (oppresses nowadays) must protect.

The word boy I have learned comes from Dutch ‘boef’ or criminal or rogue. There is also a theory that the word boy comes from Anglo-Saxon ‘boia’ which means boy or servant. It is a term used to mould boys into men by teaching them that what they are is not good enough and is repulsive. Calling a man a boy (with toys) is undermining him and shaming him by suggesting he is immature or inferior in some way. That is why we rarely refer to men over 18 as boys unless in a negative way. In the common tongue we normally use crude words like ‘guys’ or ‘blokes,’ which have similar goofy connotations. The only difference is the ‘breaking’ of the voice.
“Snails, Slugs and Puppy Dog tails.
That’s what little boys are made of”


I remember creating a fuss about that in primary school to my teacher. I actually said it was unfair to boys but she and everyone else just laughed it off clearly refusing to acknowledge how demeaning it made me feel.

“Sugar, Spice and All things nice.
That’s what little girls are made of”

Lets take ‘girls’ now. Wiki of course has a very politically correct feminazi/mangina spillage all of it. Whom do we refer to as girls. Cute little girls? Beautiful un-married girls? Women up to the age of 27? Sex objects? Something that needs protecting? Victims? Independent ass-kickers? Which? All of them. The idea is that everyone of them has empowering positive connotations.

The only time when the word ‘girl’ may be bad is when attributed to a boy due mainly to the taboo of homosexuality and the refusal to acknowledge boys as victims when necessary in my opinion.

It makes me sick how grown women being called girls is actually an obvious symbol of her victimisation. Feminists may appear to want females to be empowered ‘men’ but the continuation of calling them ‘girls’ is a actually a subtle factor of how we still are programmed to see women as victims."


[Edited to add]
In Greek boy is: αγόρι, παιδί
girl is: κόρη, κοπέλα, κορίτσι

..according to an online dictionary, and I don't know the greek alphabet heh

also...
I decided to try my dictionary and according to my dictionary boys are mystery[:D]
 
the definition of girl is:

girl

·
n.
1
a female child.
2
a young or relatively young woman. Ø (girls) informal women who mix socially or belong to a group or team. Ø a person’s girlfriend.
3
dated a female servant.
DERIVATIVES girlhood n. girlish adj. girlishly adv. girlishness n.
ORIGIN ME (denoting a child or young person of either sex): perh. rel. to Low Ger. gör ‘child’.
 
the definition of a boy is:

boy

·
n.
1
a male child or youth.
2
(boys) informal men who mix socially or belong to a particular group.
3
dated, offensive a black male servant or worker.
·
exclam. informal used to express strong feelings: Oh boy, that’s wonderful!
DERIVATIVES boyhood n. boyish adj. boyishly adv. boyishness n.
ORIGIN ME: of unknown origin.
 
 
also here it is from wikipedia, (reference: http://www.answers.com/topic/boy?cat=biz-fin )
"Etymology
The word "boy" is recorded since 1154. Its etymology is unclear; it is probably related to East Frisian boi, Old Norse bófi, Dutch boef "(criminal) knave, rogue" and German Bube. These apparently all have their origin in baby talk (like the word baby itself) (Buck 1949: 89).
But there is a theory that English "boy" derives from a theorized Anglo-Saxon word *boia = "boy or servant", thus explaining the English placenames Boyton and Boycott. If so, the word may have originated from the Boii, a Celtic tribe which formerly lived in Bohemia but was driven out by the Germanic Marcomanni tribe taking the area over in Roman times. In the dispersal, many Boii may have become slaves or servants, and their name became a word for "servant". (The same happened later to many Slav people, whence the word slave.)"




slavedoggieboy -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 1:54:55 PM)

My Mistress L will at times refer to me as boy. I am 71 years old.she is 46. Sometimes it will be such as, "down boy" when she wants my mouth and tongue put to use, or "bend over boy" when it is time for using my back side, but to me, it is not degrading, it is exciting. I love when she uses me.




thetammyjo -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 5:55:38 PM)

Wow, that article you quoted, MissyRane, is really poorly written.

It was very confused about the term "girl" especially.




thetammyjo -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 6:17:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MissyRane

[Edited to add]
In Greek boy is: αγόρι, παιδί
girl is: κόρη, κοπέλα, κορίτσι



My Liddle&Scott (sort of the Bible for Classical Greek) of course does not give out right definitions but context of words and variations. Now of course I'm talking Classical or ancient Greek, not modern.

αγόρι is masculine and related to market places and the things sold in them; I'm not getting at all how it translates into "boy" unless we again are talking about slaves here

παιδί again masculine but now even more directly related to "slave" and "servant" but also child or sports or play; the female form is the same but with a feminine ending

κόρη is a maiden, as in unmarried, or bride or daughter; can also be a sleeve of a garment

κοπέλα can't be found in my Liddle&Scott; similar words are related to hitting or manure

κορίτσι again not in my Liddle&Scott

κόρος is a better word for son or young man though there again it can have the meaning of servant or slave in useage.

I'm sure that bored a lot of people.

In short, what I was trying to say is that the use of a word has along history and for much of Western history there has been a connection between youth and servile status in terms of words used. This is especially true for masculine words where you might feel the need to use language to show authority and power differences between males who were the one who left the majority of written material behind.




TexasMaam -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 10:20:45 PM)

Well now, HERE is an interesting post!  Yay!

It was My great good fortune to have a sub who was 6'4", muscular, educated, sophisticated, sharp as a whip, brilliant analyst, engaging conversationalist, wonderful sense of humor, and drop dead handsome to boot.  His jaws were like a stallions, square set, on a muscular neck, tapering to broad shoulders, a V shaped torso with THE FINEST MALE ASS on this planet, thickly muscled thighs and calves, in a word, a Man's Man.

It just so happened that this gorgeous hunk of beefcake loved to be submissive behind closed doors.

It also just so happend that EVERY Time I called him "boy" in a soft voice, whether I said it endearingly or whether I said it condescendlingly, the man would positively BLUSH and smile.

The more I called him 'boy' the more submissive he felt.

It was appropriate to call that particular hunk of male servitude 'boy' because it worked so very well.

For some men it works, for some it doesn't.

My current sub just isn't My 'boy'.  The term 'boy' just can't come out of My throat when I address him.  "manthing' suits him better.  So 'manthing' he is.

bobbi will always be My 'boy' because that's who and what he was to me. There was at the very core of that man a boy wanting to come out to play.  My fondest memories of him are of the way he responded to that nickname.  Every time I used it.

Not a bad thing, that.

TexasMaam




LadyPact -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 10:38:32 PM)

Great post, TexasMaam!  I also tend to think it goes to the heart of the issue.  The posts that offerred the educational explanation of where the term may have come from in a vocabulary sense were very informative, but the feelings described by those who have used it, gave it more definition.  Perhaps that is one of the very differences as to what makes the term desirable or not.  How it is heard by the submissive ear.




YesMistressIrish -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/4/2007 11:39:14 PM)

addicted2it:
 
Call me, so you can hear me use the term affectionately? (wink)




Politesub53 -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 3:07:11 AM)

Boy or better still My boy, can be very affectionate. Along with names such as pet, slut and bitch, it can be playful or harsh depending on tone. Little boy however is one i find degrading, as it indicates " Lesser "
The one name i dont wish to hear is my first name, as that normally, but not always, signifies i have screwed up big time. Trouble approaches and not in a good way.
[;)]




nick2020 -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 3:36:34 AM)

What's in a name???  Irregardless of what the Mistress decides to call Her charge then so be it!!  To be the property of a Dominant Female is worth any name that She might choose to call her slave/servant.  You should get over it!!!! Accept it with pride.




addicted2it -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 6:32:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish

addicted2it:
 
Call me, so you can hear me use the term affectionately? (wink)


Mistress I, You are such a tease!  ;-)




LadyPact -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 9:16:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

Boy or better still My boy, can be very affectionate. Along with names such as pet, slut and bitch, it can be playful or harsh depending on tone. Little boy however is one i find degrading, as it indicates " Lesser "
The one name i dont wish to hear is my first name, as that normally, but not always, signifies i have screwed up big time. Trouble approaches and not in a good way.
[;)]


politesub, this I found really interesting, as I do have a habit of calling many submissive friends (not My submissive) "lil one" as a term of friendly affection on a regular basis.  I have never heard any complaints about it, and they have often said that they know it makes them feel special.




Politesub53 -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 9:59:53 AM)

Hi LadyPact, I`m sorry if i have misled You...lil one is fine by me, it`s little boy i don`t like, although i have never said " hey don`t call me that " Imho there is a vast distinction between the two.
[;)]




LadyPact -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 10:05:24 AM)

Yes, ps, I do see the difference.  Have to admit that I'm glad there is one, since I am rather fond of the particular term that I use.  I've noticed recently that it often comes when I am wishing someone goodnight and adding that I send them a kiss on the forehead for sweet dreams.  Maybe it has to do with the protective feelings that I have for certain submissive friends, even though they are not submissive to Me in particular.  Something I will have to think on.
 
I wonder if there are others who do these kinds of things as well?




LadyAlzara -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 10:08:00 AM)

I use the term "boy" or "bitch-boy" (another favorite) for the cannon-fodder who can't sign their notes....I feel the need to call them something in address.....its only polite.
Z




Deboyce -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 10:09:30 AM)

Once again, calling a pig and eagle does not give him wings of flight, calling a man who has spent most of his adult life meeting the challenges of manhood, a boy,
does not make less the man nor does it deminish him. Its simply a word.




YourShyPet -> RE: What is with this "boy" thing? (7/5/2007 10:12:44 AM)

I really only use the term boy in response to a boy who has foolishly attempted to lable himself as a dominant.... 99.9% of the time they kick back with throwing a tantrum which tells me.... eh the term fits.




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