RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected?

Page: << < prev 1 2 3 [4]

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 7/12/2007 3:58:07 PM

teamnoir

Posts: 226
Joined: 4/5/2005
From: San Francisco Bay Area California
Status: offline

I have never had a safe word fail to be recognized. I've never been around when a safe word failed to be recognized.

I've definitely been around some situations where a safe word or safe call wasn't recognized quite as quickly as I would have liked, but they've all been recognized.

(in reply to slaveluci)

Profile

Post #: 61

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 7/26/2007 8:13:36 PM

BossyShoeBitch

Posts: 3931
Joined: 1/13/2007
From: South Florida
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Luci,
You wrote about me:

quote:

Well, I thought it was already established that you were a "god among men."

While I appreciate the compliment I would hope that the image I project is that of a very mortal and imperfect man. I have made plenty of mistakes, some of the same ones that get people flamed and denounced here as "fake" or a "bad dom" and even others that are too fucked up to appear here. I still make mistakes, I still have moments of uncertaintly and confusion as well as self doubt

Michael,
I said that "tongue-in-cheek," of course, though I do think your posts are always full of much truth and good advice. One of the things I've always liked about the way you come across in your posts is mirrored in what you say above. You are not afraid to admit that you have imperfections and that you've made (and continue to make) mistakes and errors in judgment. You admit that you've found yourself uncertain and confused at times. Far from being "fake" or "bad," I think this is one of the hallmarks of the great ones like my own Master. He has never pretended to be all-knowing and perfect. He is a flawed human being who (doesn't know everything but) knows me better than anyone ever has and who is perfect (not in all matters but) for me. I'm sure your special one(s) would say the same of you. Thanks for always being so honest......luci

Yes luci, I definitely do say the same of him... I am a very lucky girl.

....BSB

_____________________________

A clever man can get out of situations a wise man never gets into...
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.

(in reply to slaveluci)

Profile

Post #: 62

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 7/27/2007 4:40:17 AM

Cyntilating

Posts: 581
Joined: 6/19/2007
Status: offline

I don't play casually and so have not been in a situation where I was given a safeword to use. and in my relationship with my xMaster> there was tons of communication before he ever put me in a situation where he needed to know my limits. and at that point> even if I had been given a "safeword" I probably wouldnt have used it>>( not wanting to control the happenings or his actions or deny him what he desired )<< and so HE watched and observed carefully and completely rather than relying on my "sense of how I was feeling" ... He also knew that "where" I might have stopped him was way past the point of what might he thought would have been safe for my body to handle. <<< HIS opinion and words which he expressed to me time and time again.

thanks for the topic
Cyndi ( sure she will get lamb-basted for this one also...oh well, bring it on > its my truthful response.)

(in reply to slaveluci)

Profile

Post #: 63

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 7/27/2007 9:55:10 AM

lonlyrossInNeed

Posts: 3144
Joined: 10/8/2005
Status: offline

I use safe words but i try to never need it but i do relize that there are times when you do need one like for a medical situtation but the way i have goten around not using it for even that in the past is be up front with your partner or who you are scening with talking about any medical problems
like for me if the impact sceening gets to intens with my left uper part of my leg i will usualy just use basic yellow or "" marks from hand signals i can not speak
i have had a time when this was not respected and i did not play with this Mistress agen my friends where around and had noticed that i was using my signal and that the Domme i was scening with was not paying close atention to it

ross.g

_____________________________

To know what pain is hurts the most
pain is not just a wound in your flesh
pain is a dagger in your heart

(in reply to Dini)

Profile

Post #: 64

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/3/2007 2:12:27 AM

cruiser7

Posts: 6
Joined: 7/3/2007
Status: offline

Just off the topic a little: What treatment of a sub is guarenteed to invoke the use of a safe word and does it differ between male and female subs?

(in reply to Dini)

Profile

Post #: 65

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/3/2007 7:39:08 AM

sinfullysensual

Posts: 1
Joined: 8/3/2007
Status: offline

In almost eight years of scening, i have only used my safeword once. And it was a case of; i knew i was going to be pushed. I tried to hold out. I was determined not to use it, but after 35 minutes of irratic and varying applications of a crop, it was either use the word or pass out. (in my mind it had only been 5 minutes.)
Master kept telling me how proud he was and it was the best aftercare i have ever had. *weg*
I look back and now think i was just scared because of application was so unpredictable and i was getting tired. I was on my knees with my hands bound in front of me, a ballgag in my mouth and my ankles bound to my thighs.
But it did draw us closer together and made us value one another in scene so much more.
PS. i guess i should it was not an actual word, but i waved my hands as my safeword.

< Message edited by sinfullysensual -- 8/3/2007 7:45:00 AM >

(in reply to Cloudz)

Profile

Post #: 66

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/3/2007 8:20:53 AM

sophia37

Posts: 1433
Joined: 2/7/2006
Status: offline

my safe word(s) is Stop-Being-An-Asshole! And sometimes that doesnt work. Assholes dont seem to respect safe words I guess.

(in reply to Dini)

Profile

Post #: 67

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/3/2007 9:25:00 AM

slaveluci

Posts: 4294
Joined: 3/2/2007
From: Little Rock, AR
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch
He is a flawed human being who (doesn't know everything but) knows me better than anyone ever has and who is perfect (not in all matters but) for me. I'm sure your special one(s) would say the same of you. Thanks for always being so honest......luci

quote:

Yes luci, I definitely do say the same of him... I am a very lucky girl.....BSB

Congratulations, BSB. I must have been living under a rock because I did not realize that you were Michael's special lady

. Hope you both are very happy.........luci

_____________________________

To choose a good book, look in an inquisitor’s prohibited list. ~John Aikin

(in reply to BossyShoeBitch)

Profile

Post #: 68

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/11/2007 9:43:42 PM

aMusingSubMerger

Posts: 6
Joined: 7/22/2007
Status: offline

When I was a novice I had met some women through a group that prided itself on safety and gave classes and workshops regularly. One of the women invited me to do a scene with a woman she was submissive to so I'd be submissive to both. The first time things went okay. The second time we met I did find a need to say my safeword and they did not stop whipping me. (They were using single tails, bullwhips, cats, floggers, you name it). I was crying and screamed my safeword again yet they did not stop. Finally, after the third time they stopped the whipping but left me on the floor in a heap crying so they could play with someone else in the next room.

After ahwile I got myself up, got dressed and said I was leaving. I was willing to walk because I did not have my own transportation since the woman had taken me there. She realized I was not in a good place so took me home. As I was leaving, the so-called Mistress said I was selfish for ending the scene and ruining her fun. It was this and another situation that prompted me to leave the scene thinking it was full of unsafe people. I came back about 12 years later by using Pro Dommes since I did not trust private play. I have since learned that there are honorable people in the scene and I was just unfortunate to be introduced to it by a few dishonorable sorts. Trust is still a big issue for me though. Perhaps when I meet someone patient enough that will come as well.

(in reply to slaveluci)

Profile

Post #: 69

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/11/2007 10:27:13 PM

SubJordanTyler

Posts: 268
Joined: 4/16/2007
Status: offline

I've never considered myself a macho guy, so not wanting to use a safeword doesn't have anything to do with that. While I did have a safeword, I never used it, and that was strictly because using it would have meant (to me) that I was dissapointing her...........and I didn't want to do that. Because of that, I've been in almost unbearable pain many times before, but it was never to the point where I felt it was harmful to me.........and she did know what I could and couldn't take - knew my body and my reactions. I believe she would have stopped if I needed to use it, but if she hadn't, it would have been over for sure.

(in reply to meticulousgirl)

Profile

Post #: 70

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/12/2007 12:34:27 PM

Joyful007

Posts: 17
Joined: 8/5/2007
Status: offline

We play with a safeword. My slave has never used it. He actually called yellow last night when we played with another couple. First time. When I inquired as to his reason he said the pain was too intense (tawse). We resumed playing as a tawse is supposed to hurt. But we were a little more mindful. It's a fine line. He is instructed to use the safeword if he is in danger. Pain is not being in danger and as a slave I expect him to accept it.

If I saw someone not obeying a safeword I would have my sub immediately shut the scene down. There should be no tolerance for that type of behavior. None at all.

(in reply to temptressofsouls)

Profile

Post #: 71

RE: Has your use of a safeword always been respected? - 8/12/2007 2:50:43 PM

slaveofKaos

Posts: 143
Joined: 2/16/2007
From: California
Status: offline

I have used safe words in the past and they have always been respected. If I was ever in a situation where I used a safeword and it was not respected I would not be able to trust that person again, and it may end the relationship all together. To me I would only use a safeword if I absolutly could not take more or if something was seriously wrong so for someone to continue what they were doing and totally disreguard it, well I just wouldnt feel safe anymore.

_____________________________

slave jodi

(in reply to Dini)

Profile

Post #: 72