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Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:14:44 PM

saseblubutrfly

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Did I miss the book that said that you have to be bisexual to be in this lifestyle? Is there a book written specifically for Doms that says your sub/slave has to be bi, if there is I want to read it. I have a friend who is my roommate in the lifestyle. When Dom's find out that I have a friend and roommate in the lifestyle they ASSUME that we are bi. We both love men and love being with men. Neither one of us has the need/desire/craving/drive/ambition to be with another woman especially with each other. Yes, I'll admit that I'm just a tad bit curious but I didn't think that meant that I was bi. If its a requirement that I be bi to live in this lifestyle, I'll deal with it the best way I know how and go back to my vanilla life. Where is it that a Dom forces his sub to be bi w/o her consent? Why is it when a sub says she's straight, a Dom hears "I'm secretly bi"? I guess I missed the the lesson in sub school about that one.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:20:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saseblubutrfly

If its a requirement that I be bi to live in this lifestyle, I'll deal with it the best way I know how and go back to my vanilla life.

It's not. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. However, two women at once or two women having sex with each other is a common male fantasy so bisexual women are very popular with male dominants. It not that uncommon for a woman to be straight but still mess around with a woman for the pleasure of her owner.

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Where is it that a Dom forces his sub to be bi w/o her consent?

What do you mean forcing her?

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Why is it when a sub says she's straight, a Dom hears "I'm secretly bi"? I guess I missed the the lesson in sub school about that one.

Umm... exactly the same reason vanilla guys hear that (and they do, trust me). It's wishful thinking.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:21:54 PM

MzMia

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great question sasebutterfly, I often wonder that myself.
I think there is a place for you and I in the lifestyle, without being bisexual!
Hang in here sase, maybe we can form a secret club.
lol

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:30:41 PM

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The great thing about BDSM is you get to make your own choices and set your own boundaries. The thing that sucks is everyone else does too.

I prefer to be pretty much monogamous, others would go nuts.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:40:04 PM

Slavetrainer2007

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As somone who looks for bi or bi curious females, I will answer this from why i do it.

Answer: Because i like it. Really its more or less so i can involve another female in play if i so desire. So it is preferred as you can do more with two than one.

Its not required in th lifestyle.....actually nothing is really required to be in lifestyle i know if except you have to desire to be. Also, it may come out as "im secretly bi" because you are! Ok just kidding. It is perceived as that because as long as the dom convinces himself you are bi( and in the right situation with the right dom you can actually become "bi " for play anyway, especially if your far enough in subspace) the possiblity is still open. If you say " im 110% sure i am not bi never will be not even in deep subspace" you just killed everything for him. At least the other way their is still that chance, so thats what he hears. Selective hearing FTW.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:43:19 PM

becca333

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Maybe they just hope... stop teasing those poor guys!

And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:46:43 PM

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quote:

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Maybe they just hope... stop teasing those poor guys!

And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

Really? The girls at my college collect yaoi like it's going out of style. I don't get it personally, but I know a lot of girls who love it.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:49:41 PM

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quote:

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Maybe they just hope... stop teasing those poor guys!

And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

I dont want to see guy-guy stuff either so we have something in common. And to answer your question, take a look at mother nature. Its hardwired in their, we are just more civilized and subtle about it.

Ill point you in the right direction: A male ( insert four legged animal) sees an entire herd of females and no other male or it can even be a couple of females. at this point the male brain automatically goes into over drive. If i can do this with one female..... think what i could do with two females or 3 and then it just goes from their. Next thing you know the male is all over one of the females and then another and then another ...... is it hot in here or what?

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 9:55:33 PM

MzMia

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lol, thanks for the graphics.
sase? has he changed your mind?
lol

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:02:24 PM

saseblubutrfly

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Uh NO. The visual just made it worse....lol.

Actually his example had nothing to do with two female animals. It was a male and a group of females. Those are two totally different things.

I guess what I'm saying is I'm straight, I'm telling you I'm straight and don't think you're going to manipulate me into thinking and saying I'm something different.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:05:40 PM

MzMia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: saseblubutrfly

Uh NO. The visual just made it worse....lol.

Actually his example had nothing to do with two female animals. It was a male and a group of females. Those are two totally different things.

I guess what I'm saying is I'm straight, I'm telling you I'm straight and don't think you're going to manipulate me into thinking and saying I'm something different.

^5! LOL
I knew you would say that!

back to your original post.
Hold onto your horses, do not compromise your limits.
You have a RIGHT to have limits, the right Master for you,
will respect them!

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:06:14 PM

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I am not bi and have never been with a woman. However if Hubby ever wanted me to i would do it to please Him, so it's not a limit of mine. You can choose to make it a limit or not.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:09:34 PM

slaverosebeauty

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I'm bisexual, I prefer men though. Its not a prerequisit, its kinda accepted or almost expected of female bottom-types it seems. For me, being with men is what I prefer, a woman on occassion, it leaves that door unlocked if I get in a healthy relationship with a man and we want to have another women on occassion join us.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:10:06 PM

sublizzie

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quote:

ORIGINAL: becca333
And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

I have a female friend who *loves* guy-guy stuff. {shrugs} Not my cuppa tea but it is hers.

Just my thoughts......

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:12:27 PM

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I am not sexually bisexual. I have no sexual interest in other women at all. I have no problem bottoming to women or submitting to them in non-sexual ways but I won't be sexual with them. At this point in my life I do not see that changing. While there is a remote possibility that it could happen in the future I sincerely doubt that it ever will. It's one of those hard limits that I don't see ever changing.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:18:14 PM

saseblubutrfly

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I see other women as my equal not more dominant. I won't serve a woman sexual or non-sexual. Its not in me. I really see men as my equal. The Dom has to be stronger than me in order to get the submissiveness. Its just the way I'm wired.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:18:49 PM

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Did I miss the book that said that you have to be bisexual to be in this lifestyle? Is there a book written specifically for Doms that says your sub/slave has to be bi, if there is I want to read it.

I think many girls list themselves as bi, when they really are straight. They seem to think it'll get them noticed sooner. I don't see it this way, but many seem to think it's necessary to be bi. Girls, it's not necessary...and to some, not desireable, either. Be yourself.

'hawk

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:28:52 PM

DrgnLdyCatherine

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Umm... this "girl" does, honey.

They are out there. Cannot fault men for having their fantasies. Don't start throwing rocks... you might damage those glass walls you live in.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 10:35:02 PM

Grlwithboy

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I have a small herd of males, they're easy enough...and gay porn is my choice of porn.

Finding a female who'll consider serving a Dominant femme seems to be an uphill battle, even though the whole of the world and its sister may put "bi" in the profile.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 11:22:49 PM

wifeandi

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The first thing my wife and I learnt was that a submissive decides what their limits are and the Dominant is to respect those limits.We both had a very conservative attitude to sex but then we accidently discovered bdsm and now we are open to exploring all options. Our first session with the Dominant couple we now serve had us both agreeing to have our first bisexual experience there and then despite it being a hard limit hours before.

My wife now considers herself bisexual and has admitted she finds sex with Mistress more fulfilling than sex with Sir or myself. She is now quite willing to forgo sex with me when instructed to do so by Mistress or Sir. I do not find it pleasurable to be sexual with Sir but I enjoy the role of serving him in whatever way he wants and when thats sexually I am willing to do so. Mistress enjoys watching me serve Sir orally more so than being taken anally by him so fortunatly I have only served him in this way twice to date. When Mistress has taken me using her strap on or hand held dildo I have enjoyed this but Sirs cock holds no appeal at all.

My sexual preference is definatly being with a female and luckily Mistress is very sexual with me in all ways.

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