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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 11:46:36 PM

becca333

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Maybe they just hope... stop teasing those poor guys!

And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

I dont want to see guy-guy stuff either so we have something in common. And to answer your question, take a look at mother nature. Its hardwired in their, we are just more civilized and subtle about it.

Ill point you in the right direction: A male ( insert four legged animal) sees an entire herd of females and no other male or it can even be a couple of females. at this point the male brain automatically goes into over drive. If i can do this with one female..... think what i could do with two females or 3 and then it just goes from their. Next thing you know the male is all over one of the females and then another and then another ...... is it hot in here or what?

I grew up on a farm. We raised sheep. That kind of thing loses its allure fast (or maybe sheep just aren't that interesting. Trust me, they're not.) But I see your point about Leader of the Herd mentality.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/3/2007 11:49:58 PM

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I wasn't throwing rocks at anyone, I was asking for information and stating my own experience. And I don't fault them for fantasies, I was trying to understand them. Fortunately some other posters were very helpful. Honey.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 2:20:58 AM

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A Dom/me cannot "force" their sub to be bi without their consent.   Period.

The sub must have the curiosity or willingness to be bi within them, either consciously, or sub-consciously, otherwise, it is never going to happen.

I am straight. I have a roommate who is also in the lifestyle, and she is straight as well.   When I speak to a potential sub male, I always make it clear that she and I do not play together. And even though they may not say a word, I can sense their disappointment. I know how the male mind works. Even a sub male thinks "2 chicks gettin it on... frickin hot".

Personally, I think that guy-on-guy action is hotter than hell.   I agree with Grlwithboy -- gay porn is My porn of choice, too. It is ~very~ arousing and erotic to Me. One naked male -- hot.   Two naked males -- even hotter.   Two naked males playing with each other -- priceless!

The great thing about this lifestyle is that you don't ""have"" to be anything but yourself.    You don't have to be bi, or into electrical play, or be covered in tattoo's, or be a switch, or get turned on by the smell of oranges, etc. It may take you a while to find someone who's kinks line up with yours, but somewhere out there in Kinkyland there *is* someone just right for you, no matter what you are into.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 3:01:08 AM

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LOL becca, but I am with you. Men are men and they have this girl on girl jones (most of them it seems) and there's not a lot one can do about it. I'm not bi, never have been and don't see it ever happening. If that's what my dom wants, then I'm with the wrong dom. I've made my preferences known up front and I've never had a problem thus far.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 3:44:08 AM

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And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

I gave my Master the opportunity to fulfil the fantasy. Why is that men complain about women nagging, but don't realise that two women at once are just twice the oportunity to nag... ROFLMAO

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 3:53:06 AM

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And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

I gave my Master the opportunity to fulfil the fantasy. Why is that men complain about women nagging, but don't realise that two women at once are just twice the oportunity to nag... ROFLMAO

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Somehow I don't think the fantasy gets that far.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 5:05:28 AM

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Maybe they just hope... stop teasing those poor guys!

And... WHY do so many men have that girl-girl fantasy? None of the women I know want to see guy-guy stuff.

I dont want to see guy-guy stuff either so we have something in common. And to answer your question, take a look at mother nature. Its hardwired in their, we are just more civilized and subtle about it.

Ill point you in the right direction: A male ( insert four legged animal) sees an entire herd of females and no other male or it can even be a couple of females. at this point the male brain automatically goes into over drive. If i can do this with one female..... think what i could do with two females or 3 and then it just goes from their. Next thing you know the male is all over one of the females and then another and then another ...... is it hot in here or what?

I grew up on a farm. We raised sheep. That kind of thing loses its allure fast (or maybe sheep just aren't that interesting. Trust me, they're not.) But I see your point about Leader of the Herd mentality.

It was more of the point: Its hardwired in the male brain that more females at once is equal to more fun. If i tie and whip one girl and like it well then two should be double the pleasure, yes?

Actually the reality is alot more work and less fun then the fantasy, unless you get two women that fit perfectly in the equation. Otherwise, this one thinks you give that one more attention and this one got whipped first and you spent more time doing this to that one but that one enjoys its while the one you did it too thinks it ok.

Its fun for play on occassion IMO, but relationship wise i think i would be pulling my hair out in a week.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 8:11:40 AM

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Somehow I don't think the fantasy gets that far.

Apprently I have more of a male sex drive then a female one, but somehow, my sexual fantasies about being ravaged never go to the next day where he brings me flowers, apologizies for ripping my clothes and proposes...

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 2:38:32 PM

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SlaveTrainer,

Thanks for proving my point about those who offer to train others!

As for how the male brain is wired, you are completely full of shit. YOUR brain may be wired that way but I just spent a lovely weekend with two couples plus myself who are NOT into fucking anyone who comes along and EVERY one of the men there could easily have a harem of some of the nicest submissives around and do that effortlessly but we choose not to.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 2:54:40 PM

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Did I miss the book that said that you have to be bisexual to be in this lifestyle? Is there a book written specifically for Doms that says your sub/slave has to be bi, if there is I want to read it.

I guess it is in the same book that says when you are an owned submissive your Master will always want to share you with any Dom that asks! If I had a dollar for everytime I have been told we are not a TWUE Master/sub couple because he does not share me then I would be Paris Hilton type rich.

Whatever happens do what you are comfortable with and be true to yourself.

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 4:25:01 PM

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There's a sub school? Whoa...where was *i*?

Seriously, if it's a hard limit, it's a hard limit. The right Dom for you will respect that and not push the issue. They also cannot force you to do, or be, anything you're not willing to be. Period.

One thing about this site...bi-curious isn't an option...it's either straight or bi-sexual (or gay or lesbian). i'm sure there'd be a lot less "bi-sexual" women listed if bi-curious was on that list as a choice. i do not have "bi-sexual" listed in order to get noticed, i've already got Sir in my life and am very very happy, but i will have contact with females if i let Sir know they are attractive to *me* (warm, funny, smart...just the same things i look for in a male) and He wishes it. i prefer men and, had "bi-curious" been an option, then it would have been checked off on my part because of that fact. i try to be as honest as possible with myself and i didn't consider myself "straight" either...(maybe "crooked" or "bent" could be used?

) so there's a lot of gray area.

All of that doesn't negate the fact that most of the Dom's you're coming in contact with are assuming you're bi-sexual though and, while annoying, it's more common than not...like others said, just stick to you guns about what you're willing to do and don't be "convinced" you want otherwise. You'll find the right one *smile*

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RE: Sexual preferences - 7/4/2007 4:31:38 PM

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ORIGINAL: susie

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ORIGINAL: saseblubutrfly

Did I miss the book that said that you have to be bisexual to be in this lifestyle? Is there a book written specifically for Doms that says your sub/slave has to be bi, if there is I want to read it.

I guess it is in the same book that says when you are an owned submissive your Master will always want to share you with any Dom that asks! If I had a dollar for everytime I have been told we are not a TWUE Master/sub couple because he does not share me then I would be Paris Hilton type rich.

Whatever happens do what you are comfortable with and be true to yourself.