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Aswad -> RE: Rape after effects (7/8/2007 9:41:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer
Thing is, aren't we *all* wired more or less like that?
~nod~
Variations on a theme, pretty much, so yeah.
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What differentiates ethical BDSM practicioners from rapists and assholes is that we only do these things with consenting adults, and we care about making sure that everyone involved is safe and basically having a good time.
Well, I'm inclined to go with consent as the distinguishing feature, but otherwise: what you said.
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But if something that seriously pushes your hot buttons gets shoved in your face outside of that context, most people who are wired that way are still going to have the predictable reaction, at least internally.
That's what I would assume. Seems like a lot of people here were unhappy about that, though.
(No, I'm not talking about the trolling. I'm talking about SO responses.)
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I can self-censor that reaction effectively if the thinking part of my brain reminds me that it's not appropriate or ethical.
~nod~
Seems a lot of people have wiring that overwhelms the initial impulse, however, which obviates the need for that intervention in those cases. Anger, revulsion, whatever. But I'd think it's more productive with an impulse one is used to restraining, like arousal, rather than an impulse one isn't, like rage. As I said, variations on a theme.
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But it will still have occurred.
Of course. But there is really no point in worrying about thoughts, feelings or desires. They come and go as they please. With effort, one can suppress a cognition, or with training, one can alter one. I prefer to just catch it at the "behaviour regulation" level. Many people go as far in the other direction as to worry ceaselessly about what they think, though, which is part of why it's still in the DSM.
Just musing / rambling here, not sure I answered / addressed / questioned what you said.
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