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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 7:07:34 AM   
shyinini


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ORIGINAL: SirMaintenance

has anyone heard of a questionnare for subs o take so the master knows there limits with them? you know where it tells of past exps, goalsbeliefs,motivations values etc.... ive look all over the internet but to no avail P.S. not the checklist a questionnaire ty for any help on this


If you want to go this route, there are many personality inventory tests on the internet, one even specific for how sub someone is.... where to find??
 
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/
http://www.advisorteam.com/temperament_sorter/register.asp?partid=1
http://keirsey.com/
http://www.9types.com/
http://www.greatestjournal.com/quiz.bml?user=darkfaery

Some of the yahoo message board groups have a questionaire for new members to fill out. One submissive group had an excellent questionaire.  I might be able to track it down, only if you really want it.
 
I will admit though, I would never fill out questionaries like this for a Dom unless he was willing to do the same in return.

Just me helping, without sarcasm.. 

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 7:11:58 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		You made me look...Thanks!  23 isn't so hot either.

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 7:18:24 AM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Anyone who is incapable of learning any/all of that information via a series of conversations (face-to-face and/or online) should never be entrusted in a position of Dominance.  If you can't take two seconds out of your life to actually pay attention and absorb what is being talked about, then you will never fully understand the needs of your submissive.  Yes/no questions don't answer anything.

Questions #21 and #22 should be grounds for the police to obtain a warrant and search your home for all the child porn you have stashed away.  #23 - #25 are almost as bad as the preceding two.  #32 is right up there with #23.  You do know that in most states, any sort of sexual contact with animals is considered "cruelty to animals" and can result in fines and/or jail time. 

I can almost see the "forced interracial kinky prison sex" scene in my head:
Mob of culturally diverse inmates who miss their children and pets: "So whatcha in for, fish?"
"Statutory rape, molestation and animal cruelty."
[insert forced interracial anal sex gang bang/rape scene]

You left out necrophilia, btw, but don't forget to have whatever hapless victim you manage to rope in dig up the corpse herself.

I'm amazed and appalled.. and it takes quite a bit to amaze me.. or appall me.. I would recommend that you stay on Cape Cod and not venture anywhere near me.. my children or my dogs. 


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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 7:38:43 AM   
SubinMaine


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ORIGINAL: bandit25

You made me look...Thanks!  23 isn't so hot either.


There were quite a few questions i found offensive...but those two literally sent me to the bathroom to toss my breakfast.

Back on topic, while a personal check list could be a pretty good tool to make sure you ask all the questions you want to ask, having the "candidate" fill one out shows a lack of understanding and caring and gives the impression that one is unmotivated and unoriginal.  i would much rather prefer a Dom take time to get to know me from personal conversations.  It's usually aparant from the first few conversations if one (or the other) is just wasting time and you can move on from there.  This is of course my own personal feelings on the matter.  i'm sure there are others out there that find a questionnaire non-offensive in any way.

< Message edited by SubinMaine -- 7/4/2007 7:39:39 AM >

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 7:52:55 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		I would be happier answering a questionnaire if the Dominant were on the other side of a table sipping a coffee while filling out the paperwork as I answer the questions. There's more of a chance for mutual communication that way. I have a mental list of questions I have for any Dominant that I'm interviewing with but can respect the need for some people to have everything written down so they don't forget something.

Something that some people forget is that submissives are doing as much interviewing as the Dominants. While Dominants need to get their questions answered, so do the s-types.

Just my thoughts........

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 7:55:08 AM   
Trampler


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Status: offline 		I also didn't care for that he didn't have a HELL NO! option.  good grief, that was prett dumb of him to link that, with that sort of crap on there.

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:03:17 AM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		Wow....to the OP, truly as it's already been said...consider a conversation to learn about people.  You can formulate basic questions to ask yourself and then expound on them.  I find one question usually leads to more in a same vein if you are talking with anyone of depth.

To the guy with the link to his questionnaire.... that is the epitome of revolting and no way would I ever respond or encourage someone to respond to something like that.  EW

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:12:03 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Animal sex is such a bullshit topic.  People whine about whether animals can consent all while having a fridge full of chicken, pork, and beef that didn't consent to be murdered.

You find it gross, don't do it, but don't pretend you give a shit about animals!

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:15:32 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Yanno, Michael.  It IS a bullshit topic, but it's also not something I'd want to see on a questionnaire that someone wanted me to fill out.  Course, I thought a LOT of his questions were a bit too intense for someone I just met.

btw...LOVE the new pic.

< Message edited by bandit25 -- 7/4/2007 8:16:15 AM >

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:19:11 AM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Some people will always remain clueless...

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:20:24 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Interesting checklist but not really a questionnaire like the OP was requesting. Since I very obviously don't meet the pre-programmed criteria it is also one I would never fill out.

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:48:15 AM   
MsPleasure


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Status: offline 		I created my own questionaire.  Its a list of questions that I feel are important to me and the type of sub I want.   In  past conversations I would forget to ask certain questions...the questionaire eliminates that.  I like to talk right away with a sub that seems interesting.   Its basically an interview....at the end of my questions I allow them to ask me questions.  After that conversation I either decline, put it in a holding file or decide to meet.  Subs do have jobs....and that is to please their Dommes.


< Message edited by MsPleasure -- 7/4/2007 8:54:15 AM >

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:54:37 AM   
Level


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Link to my questionnaire, feel free to use it as you see fit:

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1123528


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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 8:57:25 AM   
cuddleheart50


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ORIGINAL: Level

fast reply
 
Link to my questionnaire, feel free to use it as you see fit:

http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1123528



Ewwwwww!!!!

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 9:02:54 AM   
spankmepink11


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Status: offline 		  I don't enjoy questionaires...or the thought of having to "prove one is worthy"

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 4:36:56 PM   
Mistressor


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Status: offline 		You're a sick, sick, revolting little man jeff.

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 4:59:24 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		Ok you all made me have to look too.  I think this is a GREAT questionaire! I mean after all, one read through and you know with absolute certainty that you should run.....far far away.

Curious Jeff, has anyone ever actually filled this out for you? Do you own any slaves? Are you just living the fantasy life?

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 5:11:56 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I was thinking about asking, "How's that questionnaire working out for ya?" but was kind of afraid he'd answer.

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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 5:43:09 PM   
LadyHeart


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Status: offline 		I use the questionnaire at
http://www.wizdomme.com/infopack/negotiate.shtml
as a starting point for having that conversation. I keep the print out, and in a few months we review it, to see how much change has taken place. It can be a fascinating process. One sub began with needles as a limit because she was phobic about them, and ended up like a human pin cushion, with needles as a first preference. It gave her a lot of pride in herself. It's not as academic a process as it sounds - so long as it's only part of the dialogue.
:))
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RE: questionnaire - 7/4/2007 5:46:58 PM   
DominaSmartass


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ORIGINAL: MasterJeff1952

Greetings,
I have one I use, I made it Myself, http://www.geocities.com/sirjeff1952/questionnaire.html
it is easy to set up if you wish to use the same type
SirJeff


Whoa...have you had much success with that? I mean, this is just my opinion, as always, but the form you've got written up basically a) acts as a slave filtering machine assuming you have any significant number of applicants (imagine that, you can sort potentials by wrist size...) and b) eliminates entire weeks of conversation and getting to know someone. THIS is what's wrong with the online relationship paradigm - you have a false sense of intimacy before you even meet someone. By the way, you spelled "European" wrong.

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