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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 11:56:42 AM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Thanks for posting that site..  Indeed I feel a little better about myself, but sitting here, looking down my 6'4" 235+/- pound frame, it still amazes me how much "perspective" can really mess with a man's head.

There were several penises (penii? lol) on that site that I out-size by 2 or 3 inches, yet still look so much bigger, thanks to a shorter, more slender frame.

Maybe I just need to quit whining about it and have fun.  I do hope you and your man will find the "magic combination".  :-)


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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 12:00:20 PM   
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The same position, but with the woman face down, a small pillow beneath her hips, and with her fingers holding a vibrating egg against her clit, works extremely well. The feeling of vaginal tightness can be increased when she squeezes her thighs together, and the vibrations against the clit are great. It takes a little coordination to get into position, but it is rewarding.


That's one of our favorite positions too...

It's easiest to start out in a tradional doggy style then lower yourselves to the bed together.


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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 12:24:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you emjpy anal stimulation, then there are several other options.  One is to just try him in your ass.  Another would be to insert a buttplug first, then have vaginal sex in your favorite position.  The plug will help to tighten you up inside.  (Hint: on your back legs in the air the plug will tend to pop out.  With doggy, it actually gets pushed deeper with each thrust, adding sensation.) Third, add a strap on and take one tool in each hole.

Another position I found stimulating with a woman who was very, um... loose, a few weeks after childbirth, was to put her on her side, and straddle her lower leg while lifting the other.  Insert penis, then lower the upper leg with hip and knee both bent so knee is near her chest.  Pressing down on her upper thigh increases tightness.

As a friend who was a swimming instructor used to say, "If you can't touch bottom, touch the sides.  If you can't touch the sides, change position."


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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 1:55:19 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		Instyctive ... glad you liked the site.  I found it fascinating, and a low-stakes way to look at different cocks.  Thank you for the position suggestion.

Grizzly:  I liked the buttplug/intercourse suggestion, because I like my own ass as an erogenous zone, and because it would increase sensation for both partners.  Thanks!


Ladies, if you've had a partner who was signifigantly small, did you feel like something was missing?  Did you feel like you had a good sexual life together?  This is a hard question to ask, and maybe hard to answer as well.  Any comments on this would be great.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:03:29 PM   
MistressDoMe


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Status: offline 		MySweetSubmissive, many of the answers here lie in your own head.
I personally do not want a submissive male partner that has a tiny dick.
It would not work well for ME.
People pick there partners for many different reasons.
Some people do not desire partners that are overweight, some women do not like
men that are shorter than they are.
I do not desire a man sexually with a tiny dick.
You have been given many suggestions, and now you seek validation from other women.
I will pass on the men with the tiny little dicks.
Edited to add: I gave you my opinion.
I do not desire a relationship with such a man.
Yes, something would be missing and I don't want a sex life with a man with a tiny dick.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:06:15 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		I'm not looking for validation. 

I'm looking for information, specifically people's experiences.  It's easy to fall into truisms like "small dicks are icky" or "size doesn't matter."  I'm looking at the grey area in between.  I'm not shying away from the question.  I don't see asking the questions as a neediness on my part so much as ... curiosity.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:09:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive
Ladies, if you've had a partner who was signifigantly small, did you feel like something was missing?  Did you feel like you had a good sexual life together?  This is a hard question to ask, and maybe hard to answer as well.  Any comments on this would be great.

MSS

FOr me it's something like having the best dessert in the world, but maybe some more whipped cream would make it better.

It's something I'd prefer to have an enjoy, but if it's not there, it's not a big deal. 

Now, if THEY make it an issue and refuse to use toys or learn how to enjoy sexual fun together, then there will be a problem.  I choose to have sex be a regular part of my life and whoever I get intimately involved with will be on that same wavelength as well.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:13:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

Ladies, if you've had a partner who was signifigantly small, did you feel like something was missing?  Did you feel like you had a good sexual life together?  This is a hard question to ask, and maybe hard to answer as well.  Any comments on this would be great.

MSS


Hi, yes I had a partner many many years ago that was exceptionally small - we are still very good friends now and his size still comes into the conversation alot - hes very relaxed about it, is always talking about his 'little willy' and joking etc, although im sure he wouldnt be happy if he saw this posting lol.  Anyway, did we have a good sexlife.... I'd say yes because he knew that he was small so he made up for it in other areas, he gave the best oral sex ive ever ever ever had, so much so that by the time the actually act of sex occurred I had forgotten who and where I was.  He was also willing to try anything to improve the sensations for me, so I would say that there was nothing missing in our sex life and no, it wasnt 'good', it was excellent.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:24:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Greetings. After reading this several tims, it occurred to me that the real issue is his feelings of being inadequate with the size of his equipment. The key is to trying different positions to get that feeling of  being "totally filled" during penetration. I have one play partner who is approx 4.5" in length and when I sit on top of him, I can feel every single thrust. He too has felt inadequate in the size depatment and through honest reassurance that his size has no adverse effect on my enjoyment.
   Since you stated you both are interested in dating outside your relationship, then use that opportunity to play with a man who is overly endowed. Yet continue reassuring your primary partner you are still quite satisfied with what he was born with!
  I've personally never had any trouble finding satisfaction with m partner who has a slightly less then average sized penis. This is where it is great to use our imagination and be creative in our sex play and have so much fun experimenting with different postions and with diferent activities outside of penetration and of course, toys 

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:36:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		My personal experience would be at 4-6" is actually the average. with a group of 7-8" falling as a just above average group. I've found that under 3" is hard to feel, even if the girth is there. It may be the way I am structured. Changing position is a definate help, especially in making sure all of him is able to get to all of you...this can be an issue with weight, beer belly, or just body structure. Find what works best for you. My partner falls in my range of average and has no trouble pleasing me vaginally and i know i could not handle him any larger at all for anal. I've had larger, it hurts alot of the time and positions are still limited, and anal was completely out. Keep your own muscles tight and squeeze him during intercourse and he will appreciate it as much as you do.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 2:57:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm speaking as a guy who's average to slightly below average endowed myself. I'm about 5" to 5.5" fully erect. Believe me, I've had my fill of crushing first encounters. You sound like someone who cares enough to really want your guy to be happy.

First off, if you should go outside your relationship to find someone to give you that "fucked" feeling, the moment he gets a peek at your new partner's cock, he's going to compare it to his own. It's how males are: doesn't matter of it's cars, golf scores or cock size. We compare ourselves to others. That's going to send him down Degredation Lane no matter if you meant it to or not. It would be like him tossing you aside for a porn star. Bad juju!

Counter to Instyncitve's opinions, fisting remains a viable option. (Vaginas are potential spaces, gaining pleasure from anything from a finger to a hand. They do NOT suddenly transform into the grand canyon just because they get a bit of a workout. Sheesh!) Fisting is something HE can do to pleasue you. It's HIM in there, setting off the fireworks. An incredibly important distinction.

As others have pointed out, toys are also a viable option. Strap ons especially. Yes, it takes walking through a bit of an emotional mine feild to get him to feel good about it. He has to know that what you are looking for is a good hard pounding without his coming once in a while. Once he's gotten you to the peak of the mountain a few times, he'll start looking at that big ol' rubber monster as his best friend.

Still, with either of these options, you really do have to keep up with fucking him using only his cock too. His sense of self, and manhood depends on being able to satisfy you with what genetics gave him to begin with. I'm not suggesting you fake any orgasms, mind you... but make sure you aren't always asking for the alternatives to him, either.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 3:25:24 PM   
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Counter to Instyncitve's opinions, fisting remains a viable option. (Vaginas are potential spaces, gaining pleasure from anything from a finger to a hand. They do NOT suddenly transform into the grand canyon just because they get a bit of a workout. Sheesh!) Fisting is something HE can do to pleasue you. It's HIM in there, setting off the fireworks. An incredibly important distinction.


Perhaps I should point out that I was simply making on observation on how I would feel comparing my cock to half an arm.

Please trust me that I am *very* familiar with female bits and have seen up close and personal ("breathe honey, breathe!") as well as 4 deliveries in the back of an ambulance.

Just because I would find having to fist my lover to orgasm a lot more that "daunting" to say the least, looking at whatever package I've been graced/cursed with compared to what it apparantly takes to get her off.. that would do nothing more for me than to reinforce that I may have a cock that is adequate to please her and not put my mind in a very happy place.


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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 3:28:56 PM   
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How's his tongue?


Amen.  The smallest endowed guy I was with was also the best at oral sex.  Lips and tongue can make up for a lot.  I was never unsatisfied, he made sure of it.


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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 3:37:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I really think its all about positions.  Lay on your back, with a pillow under your hips, and keep your legs together and raised.  This will make you a LOT tighter, which will heighten the experience for both of you.
Also, as others have said, if he's particularly good with his mouth or hands, let him know how much you enjoy that.  It will boost his confidence

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 5:35:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love guys with small cocks. They have generally learned to compensate for it by giving great oral sex. If he really compares himself to a small anal dildo, is he perhaps giving you the hint that he likes anal? Then you could use a dildo in one orifice and have him in the other - it would make for a peak experience for both of you. I love those cyber skin dildo's that are just like the real thing. They are a bit hard to clean, so I put a condom on them every time, but they don't hurt and come in several sizes, and some have vibrators as well. Nothing wrong with men with small cocks in my experience...
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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 8:31:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you for the most recent round of comments.  I like letting it bounce around in my head with my own thoughts.  I realized that fear of confronting the issue is almost as challenging as having the conversation about it.  The things that people have offered gives more options and makes it lower stakes.  A playful attitude will go a long way, too.  I wonder if I can get away with calling him Slim Jim? ... (smiling)

LA ... anything involving whipped cream is great for me.

beargonewild ... I agree, his own feelings about size are also important.  Getting him to believe that he's desireable and sexually potent is important.

bipolarber ... I appreciated your very specific suggestions.  Nitty gritty is great.  For the record, 5-5.5" is average, not below.

givemyall and LadyHeart ... Thank you for your enthusiastic, positive responses.  Not just "Yeah, it can work," but "He was great!!!"

MSS

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 9:12:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		Keep "pencil dick"as a friend and find someone you can enjoy sexually.
This is really a no brainer.
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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 10:04:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		You might approach the issue from the other side of the equation...what are the problems that arise with a larger than "average" cock? There are quite a few, I assure you...trouble getting and maintaining erections, less sensation, and less flexibility in the playfulness department. Sometimes large cocks either are very, very uncomfortable or downright painful.
 
Men who are less endowed tend to compensate in other areas and be more willing to adapt to another's sexual style. If you have found someone that is playful and willing to experiment...that ROCKS!
 
The above are all my opinions based on personal experience rather than any factual data. And, due to privacy issues, if Daddy wants to share His penis size...well, that's up to Him.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 10:09:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		In your experience men with above-average cocks have a harder time maintaining an erection?

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You might approach the issue from the other side of the equation...what are the problems that arise with a larger than "average" cock? There are quite a few, I assure you...trouble getting and maintaining erections, less sensation, and less flexibility in the playfulness department.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 10:21:43 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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You might approach the issue from the other side of the equation...what are the problems that arise with a larger than "average" cock?


An interesting intellectual exercise, but how do you think that would improve sex, communication or self-perception?  That seems like falling back into the whole penis comparision thing.  I'm not asking this in a snarky way.

MSS

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