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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 10:27:24 PM

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Personally, I have found that men who are more then ave. tend to rely on their size to get the job done. And aren't really willing to explore with alot of different positions and stuff.(doesn't help that I do not care for recieving oral.) Of course these are men that are strictly vanilla

MSS, I think it is really sweet and considerate that you care so much about this, and that you are willing to explore so many different options, and making him feel wanted. I hope this works out for you!

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 10:42:39 PM

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I have a well endowed friend( he makes the average man jealous while still limp).Erect i would say he goes 10-12 inches. He says the grass isnt as green as one would think on the large side of the fence. Except for the fact he can show it off, it can be a problem. He cant give his wife a good pounding because when he does all he hears is ouch ouch ouch and her trying to get away. She cant such the whole thing. He says it frustrating when you can only use 1/2 your cock, their is no point in having 12" inches most women( and i found this true to my experience) dont like really large cocks.I think this is the womans version of the male girl-girl fantasy.

My sub has been with.... a few men, both large and small and she does not like big cocks. She says they hurt and make her want to pee. I personally can make her say ouch ouch ouch by bottoming out and im average.

My friend makes me feel small when he pulls his out( long story short we work construction so our bathroom is often an open truck door for cover) and starts swinging it around like a lasso. Do i wish i had a big cock? Not at all its a waste and id have to worry about watching depth all the time.

This is not directed at the OP:My theory has always been if my average cock, which i know how to use, wont fulfill you, perhaps your pussy is above average in size:)

Kegels are great. My sub does them( just because she wants too) regularly she can hold a pencil with her pussy yet i can also get 4 fingers in her when i want with minimal effort. So my advice besides what has been mentioned: try kegels regularly and clamping down during sex.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/4/2007 10:47:09 PM

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My version of the girl-girl fantasy is *definately* boy-boy ... or boy-Ma'am-boy, to be exact. (frisky smile)

Big cocks have never done anything for me, except to make me gulp and wince.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 1:59:36 AM

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Yep, I was going to suggest Kegels! Learn to really get a grip with your pussy and he will feel quite large! Also experiment with positions, you've had a few good suggestions. Another is missionary but you cross your legs after he's in ... helps keep the tightness. Master feels similarly to Instynctive in that He is 6'4 and big build ... and God short-changed Him a bit down below! He's 5" but quite slim, and with tummies to cater for, position is everything! We find me on my back, legs in the air on His shoulders and Him kneeling up to me works best for vaginal sex as long as He doesn't pull back too far to thrust. But yes, He is a whizz at oral (i didn't call Him Goldentongue first time W/we got together for nothing!) and He's a perfect size for anal, which We find easiest to achieve doggy style with me standing and leaning over the bed and Him standing behind. As you both seem willing to experiment, by all means try the toys too.

Overall, the best sex I've ever had has been with men under or just up to average sized, the worst beyond doubt was the 12" penis ... mainly due to the arrogant, big-headed robot of a man it was attached to!

Good luck!
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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 11:58:45 AM

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I am he with the cock in question. Thank you all for your constructive advice. I had always heard "its a nice size", but never frank conversation on it.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 5:28:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

In your experience men with above-average cocks have a harder time maintaining an erection?

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ORIGINAL: spanklette

You might approach the issue from the other side of the equation...what are the problems that arise with a larger than "average" cock? There are quite a few, I assure you...trouble getting and maintaining erections, less sensation, and less flexibility in the playfulness department.

Yes, that has been my experience. It also seems to vary with age, of course, but the plus size men seem to have difficulty at a younger age. But, like I said, this is my personal experience.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 5:39:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

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ORIGINAL: spanklette

You might approach the issue from the other side of the equation...what are the problems that arise with a larger than "average" cock?

An interesting intellectual exercise, but how do you think that would improve sex, communication or self-perception? That seems like falling back into the whole penis comparision thing. I'm not asking this in a snarky way.

MSS

Well, the question seems more about perception and experience than really about size. But, if the perception is that a small penis is less fulfilling than a larger penis, what would be the benefits and downfalls of a larger penis?

It may seem like intellectual exercise, but since the perception seems to be that less is less...maybe the comparison would be appropriate. Sometimes, as other posters have indicated, less is indeed more.

In my opinion, opening the doors of communication in this fashion might lead to differing and entertaining answers and solutions. In other words, what is it about a large penis that is so appealing? And, what is it about an average penis that is appealing? Also, what is it about a small penis that is appealing? Answering these questions would not bring you back to the comparison, but move you towards the things that you both desire.

Once you find out what appeals to you, you can work towards that goal with the equipment that nature provided the both of you...keeping in mind what the goal is. Maybe different positions will work, maybe toys, maybe manual or oral stimulation...in any of those cases, you have reached a solution together to a very sensitive problem by communicating what appeals to you...and accordingly, what doesn't.

Hope all of that made sense.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 5:42:25 PM

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Recently I've started talking to a submissive man whom I've really been enjoying. On a personal level, we connect. He is kind, thoughtful, funny and obedient. He is also a bit below average in endowment.

His cock is a little over 4" in length and in terms of girth, he compares himself to a slim anal dildo. He says that previous partners have commented on not being able to feel him much, and that after the first few minutes, he doesn't feel a lot during intercourse, either. His self -esteem is not the greatest, and his feelings of cock inadequacy contribute to this. We had a very frank discussion about this (which I white-knuckled my way through due to his vulnerability around the issue), and he asked me if I could be happy long-term with a small-cocked man.

It's ludicrous to discard someone solely on the basis of his member. That said ... sometimes you really want to get fucked, you know? There are times that I want to be filled up with cock. Yummm! I am interested in dating outside my primary relationship, and he is interested in this dynamic as well, so there is room there for fucking. However, I don't want this to be an issue of degradation for him. I want to find sexual satisfaction with him (should things ever come to pass between us), for my pleasure, for his, and for his mental/emotional well-being.

So ... folks in relationships with small-cocked men, and men who are thusly endowed ... how do you find satisfaction? What do you do to enjoy your man and his member?

I am not looking for replies of "size doesn't matter." That's an easy thing to say, and in his case, isn't true. Candid replies are sought after. Thank you!

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 5:42:40 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bbradley

I am he with the cock in question. Thank you all for your constructive advice. I had always heard "its a nice size", but never frank conversation on it.

Wow! Kudos for reading this thread...must have been weird reading about your penis on a message board.

It's only when you won't communicate about it that penis size really becomes a difficult issue.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 5:49:07 PM

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Quick reply, after reading the thread.
I think you've gotten some wonderful responses and suggestions. I also just had to add, even though it's not PC at all, that sometimes the penis really can be just too small to get the job done. I think it's awesome of you to seek out ways to still make things work. Where this thread has lead my thinking, concerns your polyness. Is it going to be more hurtful to him to see you enjoy the sex more with a man with a larger cock?

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 6:01:28 PM

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We talked about my desire to have sex outside a primary relationship *before* we started talking about his concerns about cock size and satisfying his partner. I'm happy for that timing, because it underscores why I want to do it (a loving cuckolding, if you will).

I don't think we can assume that I would like the sex better with a man with a larger cock. Different? Likely. Better? I don't tend to rate my parters against each other.

Does he have trepidations about being with someone who steps out? I know he does. He moves from loving the idea to fearing that it will be emotionally difficult to him. Does cock size come into his concerns? Probably. (Let's face it, though, a lot of men would have those thoughts) The responsible thing here is to get what I desire while making sure that it's not harmful for him. He can walk if he doesn't like the idea. He hasn't. (smiling)

Spanklette ... thank you for the ideas. I'm still scratching my head, but it will come together!

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 10:12:19 PM

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you are one brave boy for reading this thread! your Mistress must be very proud of you, I know I would be! The really important thing is open communication, and even, dare I say, a little humour can be carefully introduced too! And remember this ... your Mistress's body might enjoy a good pounding from a larger member every now and then ... but I doubt She will feel the closeness and connection mentally that She enjoys when you are surrounded by Her. After all, what's the primary sex organ? The brain!

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/5/2007 10:45:05 PM

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MSS,

I highly recommend getting a complete, unabridged copy of The Kama Sutra and other books with illustrated techniques, positions, etc. Cock rings can help make penis a bit thicker and some even come with those little vibrators on them! Most of all, focus on each other and how to be sexual and sensual all around, don't focus on a perceived potential "problem".

Good luck,

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 12:44:20 AM

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Good ideas in this thread. While my Love and my master both have average sized cocks, my sisterslave and I have both discovered that we are much tighter after we have come to orgasm, and if fact get even tighter after several. I think it may have to do with the tissues becoming more engorged with blood, but whatever the reason, if you are tighter, you will feel more filled. And besides, who doesn't want a reason to come a few more times ; ) Overall, eperiment together and I am sure you will have satisfying, beautiful sex.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 2:11:46 AM

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Gris already beat me to my usual one word reply so I'll add in two of my own as well.

Penis pump

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 8:55:36 AM

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Well, i already passed the embarasing phaset of being not among biggest guys and when your penis isnt a giant piece of hanging flesh you must start using your brain, you can receive pleasure tru anal penetrations, anus are smaller and thighter than the vagina, and a small penis can do the job there, both of you will receive pleasure.

obviulsty, a lot of higiene is required, just as a idea, you can command him to "clean" the area before the sexual act, that will turn on him, and your anus muscles will get prepared for the upcoming penetration.

but my opinion isnt all exact, since i am not under 4" but i repeat i am not the biggest.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 1:42:11 PM

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How's his tongue?
http://www.kittenstoyroom.com/xcart/catalog/the_humiliator_chin_dildo__strapon_chin_dildo-p-141.html

I apologize for hijacking, for ohgawd, lol. Those chindicks are pretty nifty, but if my husband ever actually strapped one on his face I'd probably piss my pants laughing, lol.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 3:10:35 PM

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This is an interesting thread because its happened to most women and some men. The great guy in everyway then he drops his pants and its not the size you like. I didnt know they had strapon extenders for men.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 8:15:57 PM

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I was involved in a very long term relationship w a man who was very small.

He surprised Me for My birthday one year by buying a penile extender, hollow, that strapped on.

It was the most selfless act I believe I ever experienced; it felt so lifelike. The hollow extender was tight enough that it gripped him pretty well, too, so that he had the sensation of gripping tension and friction that he needed to get off.

We both climaxed with that wonderful thing repeatedly, over quite a few years.

Most of the time we left it in it's box because nothing is ever quite as satisfying as the feeling of a turgid cock spurting off and filling Me up, but whenever I really had the urge to get pure dee fucked we'd take it out and oh My what a joy ride!

You can put the extender on the sweet sub, but ya kaint put the sweet sub into the well hung jackass.

Take the sub, buy an extender!

Best regards,

TexasMaam

PS: He often told Me that he'd always longed to really 'put it to' a woman, and that with the extender on, feeling the grip of the fleshy hollow tube tighten on him as his erection grew hard, right in time with My pelvic thrusts, it was a dream come true for him. The toy took My breath away, which tripped his trigger at the same time. How cool is that?

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/6/2007 8:54:28 PM

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TexasMaam ... maybe I'm tender-premenstrual, but your post made me a little weepy. That was so sweet and so hot! I'm glad to hear that the penis extender can work so well for both. I was hoping that it would create more sensation for his cock. Thank you for answering this question. And I'm with you on the sweet sub/jackass dynamic. Why turn down someone who's kind, funny, biddable and willing to be creative in an effort to please?

Vendeval ... cock ring ... nice idea! Your post has a juicy fecundity that goes beyond the text.

MaamJay ... thank you for your kind words. He may be too shy to acknowledge them, but I imagine him bashfully beaming when he reads them. They are a balm.

beltainefairie ... Oh, geez, if I come lots, it would increase sensation for him? That's a solution I can say yes to ...

StellabyStarlite ... yeah, but if you pissed on him ... well, I hear some people like that.

SDFemDom4Cuck, MsPleasure, Feliw ... thank you for your insights.

Now randy on a Friday evening,
MSS

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