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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/7/2007 10:37:12 AM   
pinksissyPA


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Status: offline 		Dear Ms Sweet,

Perhaps You already do this but one thing You might consider is after allowing him to cum inside You, Queen him and make him lick Your pussy clean.  he will be humiliated and You wil get orgasms.

Respectfully,

pink

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/7/2007 10:45:30 AM   
pinksissyPA


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ORIGINAL: LadyHeart

I love guys with small cocks. They have generally learned to compensate for it by giving great oral sex. If he really compares himself to a small anal dildo, is he perhaps giving you the hint that he likes anal? Then you could use a dildo in one orifice and have him in the other - it would make for a peak experience for both of you. I love those cyber skin dildo's that are just like the real thing. They are a bit hard to clean, so I put a condom on them every time, but they don't hurt and come in several sizes, and some have vibrators as well. Nothing wrong with men with small cocks in my experience...
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LH


Lady Heart,

A former Domme that i served loved to use a dildo in me while we made love.  Each time i moved back Her cock would fill me.  It added to Her feeling of being in control to be able to fuck me as i made love to Her.

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pink

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/7/2007 8:48:55 PM   
Hina00


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Status: offline 		I agree with toys. Use them, our own short-commings are what they're there for.

I don't think penis enlargers work =\

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/8/2007 3:10:31 AM   
SDFemDom4cuck


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Status: offline 		Sorry,  I was being quite serious, I was simply in a rush. Pumps do actually work with time and practice. The engorgement caused by the blood being focused to the area not only increases its size (temporarily) it also makes it more sensitive. Increased size is great for you. Increased sensation is great for him. I truly wasn't being snarky, just attempting to inject my suggestion on the matter while under a time constraint. Although I can see where perhaps it could have been misconstrued. Normally I would have suggested cuckolding...well, because I'm a Cuckoldress..but Griswold beat me to that suggestion.  

If you're wondering...Yes, I've used a pump on someone. While it was bought initially as a bit of a joke...its later usefullness made it a very worthwhile purchase in the end.  

The correct tube sizing is the key, as well as patience and practice. I have a link to a website that is very informative. If you have any questions regarding further details I would be happy to answer them privately. Send me a pm and I'll hunt down the link for the site for you.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/9/2007 4:47:54 PM   
bbradley


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Status: offline 		Thanks for all your kind (and some not so kind) words.  I honestly would rather hear the truth as it really is.  Is a man with a small penis desireable?  Actually I have only realized recently that I am not large, or I should say not average.  I am trying to come to terms with this and realizing that for penetration I may not be pleasing to a woman. 

I have begun to think of my size as an outward expression or physical manifestation of my submissiveness.  I have seen threads on her where female subs are disappointed and taken back at times when the male dom is small.  Could the opposing view be true for a male sub?

But above all on this thread I would like to thank Ma'am (MySweetSubmissive) for taking the time to talk to me about it.  I have never had such frank talk with someone about this and it pains me to hear it made her uncomfortable.  I am so happy she didn't just brush it off and say "it doesn't matter" when it ususally does, and took a proactive approach in dealing with it.  Though our timing may not be right, I know know that there is a caring person out there.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/9/2007 5:11:16 PM   
BlackWomanSubNJ


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Status: offline 		These are great suggestions.  I'm not that open minded; I can't get with the small ones.  I love oral and I feel stupid sucking on small ones.  I'm probably biased also because the ones with the small ones seem to talk the most smack about how great they are.  Then the drawers come off and damn.  Or they perform oral for WAY too long trying to compensate.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/9/2007 5:45:29 PM   
Ayanaev717


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Status: offline 		My ex/sub was not well-endowed. And so we tried the penis pump and having him shave the area to make him appear larger, the wonders that did  for his ego. I did notice the more he used his penis the stronger it got and fuller it got. So work that PENIS. It is a muscle.

But honestly, you need to simply help him learning to accept his penis for what it was. Every time he walked around stating he had a LARGE PENIS. I would simply make it very clear it was not and that he should keep that in mind when pleasing me. That cooled his jets.

The fact that he is open with you about this shows that he is at least  in the the real. Not in some fantasy.  You could have him do oral on you and get you nice and excited and wet. Then straddle him and off you go. You could also trying fisting or have him wear one of those cocks that go over the penis and make him appear larger.

However, if your concern is about pleasure teach him to please you in other ways. If you want a larger cock then you will have to probably rent one. Excuse the pun.

Always,

A

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/10/2007 10:06:15 PM   
WillowRain


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

Recently I've started talking to a submissive man whom I've really been enjoying.  On a personal level, we connect.  He is kind, thoughtful, funny and obedient.  He is also a bit below average in endowment. 

His cock is a little over 4" in length and in terms of girth, he compares himself to a slim anal dildo.  He says that previous partners have commented on not being able to feel him much, and that after the first few minutes, he doesn't feel a lot during intercourse, either.  His self -esteem is not the greatest, and his feelings of cock inadequacy contribute to this.  We had a very frank discussion about this (which I white-knuckled my way through due to his vulnerability around the issue), and he asked me if I could be happy long-term with a small-cocked man. 

It's ludicrous to discard someone solely on the basis of his member.  That said ... sometimes you really want to get fucked, you know?  There are times that I want to be filled up with cock.  Yummm!  I am interested in dating outside my primary relationship, and he is interested in this dynamic as well, so there is room there for fucking.  However, I don't want this to be an issue of degradation for him.  I want to find sexual satisfaction with him (should things ever come to pass between us), for my pleasure, for his, and for his mental/emotional well-being.

So ... folks in relationships with small-cocked men, and men who are thusly endowed ... how do you find satisfaction?  What do you do to enjoy your man and his member?

I am not looking for replies of "size doesn't matter."  That's an easy thing to say, and in his case, isn't true.  Candid replies are sought after.  Thank you!

MSS




Well, think of how amazingly easier oral will be to do on the lad. Also anal might be really darn fun with him. There are books and vidios, toys, strapons, dildos. If he can get his head right, and realize that many lesbians have dicks far smaller than his, and very happy satisfied partners, he should do fine. All men (and women) should have a diverse pleasure skill set. His attitude, his enthusiam, his ability to learn exactly how your body works and work it like crazy should make all the differance. Let us know how it goes, and as he learns and masters skills to pleasure your body, don't forget to praise him. OH, and send him out to Body Electric to learn how to do descent yoni massage, trust me, if he gets good at that, the size of his dick will seriously not be important at all. He'll put his hands on you and your eyes will roll back in your head. Good luck!

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/10/2007 11:27:01 PM   
CuriousLord


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

His cock is a little over 4" in length and in terms of girth, he compares himself to a slim anal dildo.


The size you described is about the size of my index finger. That's.. a little odd. (No tto be insenstive, but I am sort of curious, as this isn't exactly a subject I know a lot about.) So.. is this sort of condition common, or..?

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 7/11/2007 12:25:37 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		It's difficult to know about the accuracy of data about the size of men's erections.  I've read information in a few places stating that the average size of for an American man erect is between 5.05 inches and 5.75 inches.   From what I recall, men in Scandanavia were on average larger and men in Korea and China were about the size noted in the OP.   Earlier in the thread I posted a link for a site that shows different men's before and during erection pictures.  It was pretty absorbing.  You might be interested in looking at that.

You must have rather long index fingers!  I can touch a woman's cervix internally with either my index or middle fingers, and they are pretty short.  That suggests to me that too much more cock and the other person is going to be hitting my ovaries.  Ouch!

MSS

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/9/2007 8:43:35 AM   
Feminita


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Status: offline 		What a shame (on diminutive size) as it appears the emotional area is well-endowed.

Might  try a multi-pronged appraoch. 1- penis pump WITH (2) Viagra = if he is emotionally concerned/distracted & the size situation lacks good friction/contact he may not be getting to his "full potential", plus the duration medically provided may enable him to (finally) get you there (3) there is a "quickie" & minor surgical operation whereby they snip the skin above the penis which enables it to be functionally longer (while this may seem short-term radical it may help his confidence, esteeem,and performance in the long-run).

Technique tip: get on top, straddling him and grind your clit on his pubic bone while he is in you may enable you to get off will his minnow swims about 

ps- come vist me and hubbie will gladly hammer his big-boy into you!! Just sharing my wealth!

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/9/2007 8:46:04 AM   
Feminita


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Status: offline 		ps- with a vibrating dildo in your ass it may help  you, and him with greater sensation. If he mounts you doggie-style you can mastrubate as all else is giong on.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/9/2007 12:35:30 PM   
fungasm


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Status: offline 		Things which I haven't seen posted yet:

Vibrating eggs.  By inserting one (or two) before vaginal sex, you fill up the space- so the cock which is sliding into you doesn't have to be as big.

I had a lover who had all of 3".  He loved to fill me up with dildoes and then grind himself into my clit.  It was insane.  I howled.   

It's the size of the imagination which matters...

And yes, if you want to be filled completely... fisting is amazing... it only stretches you for a short time, but damn!

Alison

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/9/2007 12:35:34 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		I think these are all mind and mental issues. again wants vs needs selfcontrol over what you are and feel

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/9/2007 1:25:50 PM   
Durus


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Status: offline 		A persons self worth should not be dependent on cock size, height, weight, eye color, hair, cup size, hair color etc. People don't get to choose they way they are built. Hell I would have like to have been born into a family of billionaires but I don't consider myself inadequate because of it.

The great thing about life is that if you are happy with yourself then you can find someone happy with you too. I'm not saying that there aren't people who have a minimum cock size in mind in fact I bet most do. Just like they have a preference for height and weight and everything else. If someone said they would date you if you were two inches taller would you see it as some sort of failing that manifiested deep soul searching? In the grand scheme of things the size of your cock isn't any more important then your eye color.

< Message edited by Durus -- 8/9/2007 1:30:11 PM >

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/17/2007 3:13:23 PM   
Lydiacapecod


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Status: offline 		"and he asked me if I could be happy long-term with a small-cocked man"

My apologies if I missed this already. I did read the entire thread but was speed reading so .......

Have you ever had a cock this small? If not, how do you know it will be an issue?

Everyone is different of course. I am very small inside...born that way and have never had children so everything is very tight. I realize that this is not always the case, but until you try it, you truly wont know.

I actually prefer small. It will hit my G-spot right on and drive me nuts. A big dick slides right on past that spot and never touches it.
Typically with a shorter cock I will take the top so that I can get the angle just right to hit that spot. Then I ride like a jockey who's ass is on fire LOL. It is very intense. I usually dont want to stop for so long that the biggest complaint is that he will get sore and limp away hee.

I am being sincere here. Don't knock it until you try it.
I think that psychology plays a bigger role in these things than people realize sometimes. I have large firm breasts. Men go nuts for them. Does it physically make a difference? Nope. They really aren't useful during sex except for the mind rush it gives a person and that is all just about how they choose to look at things. Perspective changes everything.

Of course a man's penis does have a physical role to play beyond just being ascetically pleasing so this is not a perfect comparison, but you get my meaning.
Form fit and function is frequently a factor.
I have GF with 3 kids who loves being fisted. Tie a board on your ass or you'll fall right in .....obviously she loves a big dick. And not every woman is G-spot sensitive either, in which case my example doesn't help much.

Try it before you knock it tho. I like em petite myself   Yehaww !

The Jockey

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/17/2007 3:40:54 PM   
instynctive


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ORIGINAL: Lydiacapecod
I actually prefer small. It will hit my G-spot right on and drive me nuts. A big dick slides right on past that spot and never touches it.


Actually... if the guy knows what he's doing, that big dick will do things to your g-spot you never thought possible, on the way to filling you up.  ;-)


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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/17/2007 3:43:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Big is NOT what i want or need.... but since Master is "blessed" i have to make concessions, asking Him to go slow and such....

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/17/2007 4:25:09 PM   
cloudboy


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Status: offline 		BDSM opens up a whole menu of intimacy beyond intercourse. My own Mistress and I have had intercourse once over a 3.25 year period. I don't miss it or need it with her. We do other things. As a Catholic, I wish I knew this about myself earlier on.

If you two have the hots for one another, I think you can make it work. The prospect of poly also gives you erotic flexibility, and it puts less pressure on him to be "everything" for you. Its a pretty good recipe for happiness.

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RE: Pleasure and the small penis - 8/17/2007 5:45:39 PM   
Griswold


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

Recently I've started talking to a submissive man whom I've really been enjoying.  On a personal level, we connect.  He is kind, thoughtful, funny and obedient.  He is also a bit below average in endowment. 

His cock is a little over 4" in length and in terms of girth, he compares himself to a slim anal dildo.  He says that previous partners have commented on not being able to feel him much, and that after the first few minutes, he doesn't feel a lot during intercourse, either.  His self -esteem is not the greatest, and his feelings of cock inadequacy contribute to this.  We had a very frank discussion about this (which I white-knuckled my way through due to his vulnerability around the issue), and he asked me if I could be happy long-term with a small-cocked man. 

It's ludicrous to discard someone solely on the basis of his member.  That said ... sometimes you really want to get fucked, you know?  There are times that I want to be filled up with cock.  Yummm!  I am interested in dating outside my primary relationship, and he is interested in this dynamic as well, so there is room there for fucking.  However, I don't want this to be an issue of degradation for him.  I want to find sexual satisfaction with him (should things ever come to pass between us), for my pleasure, for his, and for his mental/emotional well-being.

So ... folks in relationships with small-cocked men, and men who are thusly endowed ... how do you find satisfaction?  What do you do to enjoy your man and his member?

I am not looking for replies of "size doesn't matter."  That's an easy thing to say, and in his case, isn't true.  Candid replies are sought after.  Thank you!

MSS




CLEARLY that whole "small dick" thing....is...his thing.

"(S)ometimes you really want to get fucked".
 
Indeed.
 
Wanna get fucked? 
 
Go fuck someone.
 
This guy is expressing solid and consistent "cuckold" tendencies.
 
I love the whole cuckold thing (truly)...my only problem is...I actually have a big dick.
 
(Sue me).

Your man is a cuckold....

(He just hasn't told you yet).

 
 

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