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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:01:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover

I say this in all seriousness... historical slavery and the treatment of wives has absolutely nothing, zero, nada, zilch to do with BDSM.  Nor is it some historical precursor to the development of BDSM.
 
Frankly, I'm shocked that this kind of misinformation exists in 2007.
 
John


I cant beleive you actually beleive this.

I've read this entire thread and your entirely off base.

You seem to think that the concepts of BDSM suddenly appeared when people got organized.

All the history references you are citing from Leather are the history of consenual BDSM, the water downed consenual concepts we have created so we can enjoy activities that would otherwise be unethical if done in other contexts.

The concepts that are at the heart of sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, bondage, and discipline are as old as human history.

The sadism Marquis wrote about was sadism, just not the ethical sadism we have today. You quote Jack Rinella but clearly arent up on his current writings...

"The first two are Sadism and Masochism, wherein sexual arousal is based on pain. In our subculture the fetish itself is highly constrained by our dedication to safety and to a “good trip.” Therefore our sadomasochism is altered by such things as preparation, warm-ups, sensitivity to the reaction of the bottom, safe-words, and aftercare. This, I maintain, is a good thing.

Actual sadism, on the other hand, would hardly include any of this. Instead the sadist would just as well inflict immediate, dangerous, and even deadly pain upon the person who would in fact become a victim rather than a partner. I write this because I can confess to what my fantasy life desires, with the full knowledge that I will not do such things. Not every fantasy ought to be explored to its more hideous depths."

 
That is from Column 17 "Sado-Mastery, Maso-Submission". Even he says that the sadism that we practice today is a constrainted and watered down version of the actual sadism Marquis and other people have practiced threw out history.


All these instruments we use (floggers, whips, canes, bondage apparel, dungeon furniture) have been around for a very long time...we've just taken the concepts of their orginal use, watered them down, and created new ethical uses for them that a pale shadow of their orginal use.

The historical concepts of slavery are the precursor for Ownership and Property. We've just taken the orginal concepts and applied them in new ways to create a consentual relationship.

The idea that BDSM was magically created when people got together, got organized, and created the consentual, ethical concepts and that it didnt exist in other forms prior to that is politically correct bullshit and an attempt to disassociate the things we do with the unethical and cruel ways of history.

Your being argumentive with Slavetrainer and Arpig and trying to force this entire discussion down the parameters of what you have decided that BDSM is and only is and are not allowing or even considering others viewpoints.

You can try and spin it however you want but the nature of the things we do lies in historical acts that are considered "evil".


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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:30:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover

I say this in all seriousness... historical slavery and the treatment of wives has absolutely nothing, zero, nada, zilch to do with BDSM.  Nor is it some historical precursor to the development of BDSM.
 
Frankly, I'm shocked that this kind of misinformation exists in 2007.
 
John


I cant beleive you actually beleive this.

I've read this entire thread and your entirely off base.

You seem to think that the concepts of BDSM suddenly appeared when people got organized.

All the history references you are citing from Leather are the history of consenual BDSM, the water downed consenual concepts we have created so we can enjoy activities that would otherwise be unethical if done in other contexts.

The concepts that are at the heart of sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, bondage, and discipline are as old as human history.

The sadism Marquis wrote about was sadism, just not the ethical sadism we have today. You quote Jack Rinella but clearly arent up on his current writings...

"The first two are Sadism and Masochism, wherein sexual arousal is based on pain. In our subculture the fetish itself is highly constrained by our dedication to safety and to a “good trip.” Therefore our sadomasochism is altered by such things as preparation, warm-ups, sensitivity to the reaction of the bottom, safe-words, and aftercare. This, I maintain, is a good thing.

Actual sadism, on the other hand, would hardly include any of this. Instead the sadist would just as well inflict immediate, dangerous, and even deadly pain upon the person who would in fact become a victim rather than a partner. I write this because I can confess to what my fantasy life desires, with the full knowledge that I will not do such things. Not every fantasy ought to be explored to its more hideous depths."

 
That is from Column 17 "Sado-Mastery, Maso-Submission". Even he says that the sadism that we practice today is a constrainted and watered down version of the actual sadism Marquis and other people have practiced threw out history.


All these instruments we use (floggers, whips, canes, bondage apparel, dungeon furniture) have been around for a very long time...we've just taken the concepts of their orginal use, watered them down, and created new ethical uses for them that a pale shadow of their orginal use.

The historical concepts of slavery are the precursor for Ownership and Property. We've just taken the orginal concepts and applied them in new ways to create a consentual relationship.

The idea that BDSM was magically created when people got together, got organized, and created the consentual, ethical concepts and that it didnt exist in other forms prior to that is politically correct bullshit and an attempt to disassociate the things we do with the unethical and cruel ways of history.

Your being argumentive with Slavetrainer and Arpig and trying to force this entire discussion down the parameters of what you have decided that BDSM is and only is and are not allowing or even considering others viewpoints.

You can try and spin it however you want but the nature of the things we do lies in historical acts that are considered "evil".



Thank you MR , i was starting to wonder if i was completely off my rocker.

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:31:39 PM   
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Please give particular detail to your sources for equating race based slavery with BDSM. 
 
John


You are assuming, Im talking about race based slavery.


i believe it was the slaves your grandparents owned comment that that assumtion was made on....

and i'm gonna have to chime in on Rover's point....yes....consensual makes a difference...a huge difference...but you seem to constantly attempt to dodge logic on this....

and...above every thing else, you seem to change your story to disprove Rover....this doesn't bode well for you...and weren't you done with this in post 48....but you can't seem to stick to any convictions so...i suppose that goes along with everything else you've done...

you offer to provide proof and then when its asked for you go NO, i don't wanna...if you're going to argue a point...follow thru, be consistant...

after reading this thread last night, i went and looked up a time line on the leather archives, which goes back to something like 5000 BCE...and i am 99.999% sure that if they could found some semblance of consensual bdsm it would be documented there...i believe the first instance was in the 1600's but it was one person...now i am not sure how many people there were in the world then, but i am pretty sure they are bad odds...the next time consensual bdsm was ever mentioned was in the 1940's or 1950's....when it became an organized secret society of gay men...dykes shortly there after, the hetros got into it in the 70's and its grown from there...
the website i got my information from... http://www.leatherarchives.org/exhibits/deblase/timeline.htm

you seem to not understand this word consent...if we do the things we do without consent, they are assult and rape...no ifs ands or buts, if we do the things we do with consent and then the consent is withdrawn and you don't stop, its assult and rape...the people way back when who didn't have to have consent to do it and weren't punished for it, were still people who assulted and raped people...

tired of this now...might write more later

chelle

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:34:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007

quote:

ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: Rover

I say this in all seriousness... historical slavery and the treatment of wives has absolutely nothing, zero, nada, zilch to do with BDSM.  Nor is it some historical precursor to the development of BDSM.
 
Frankly, I'm shocked that this kind of misinformation exists in 2007.
 
John


I cant beleive you actually beleive this.

I've read this entire thread and your entirely off base.

You seem to think that the concepts of BDSM suddenly appeared when people got organized.

All the history references you are citing from Leather are the history of consenual BDSM, the water downed consenual concepts we have created so we can enjoy activities that would otherwise be unethical if done in other contexts.

The concepts that are at the heart of sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, bondage, and discipline are as old as human history.

The sadism Marquis wrote about was sadism, just not the ethical sadism we have today. You quote Jack Rinella but clearly arent up on his current writings...

"The first two are Sadism and Masochism, wherein sexual arousal is based on pain. In our subculture the fetish itself is highly constrained by our dedication to safety and to a “good trip.” Therefore our sadomasochism is altered by such things as preparation, warm-ups, sensitivity to the reaction of the bottom, safe-words, and aftercare. This, I maintain, is a good thing.

Actual sadism, on the other hand, would hardly include any of this. Instead the sadist would just as well inflict immediate, dangerous, and even deadly pain upon the person who would in fact become a victim rather than a partner. I write this because I can confess to what my fantasy life desires, with the full knowledge that I will not do such things. Not every fantasy ought to be explored to its more hideous depths."

 
That is from Column 17 "Sado-Mastery, Maso-Submission". Even he says that the sadism that we practice today is a constrainted and watered down version of the actual sadism Marquis and other people have practiced threw out history.


All these instruments we use (floggers, whips, canes, bondage apparel, dungeon furniture) have been around for a very long time...we've just taken the concepts of their orginal use, watered them down, and created new ethical uses for them that a pale shadow of their orginal use.

The historical concepts of slavery are the precursor for Ownership and Property. We've just taken the orginal concepts and applied them in new ways to create a consentual relationship.

The idea that BDSM was magically created when people got together, got organized, and created the consentual, ethical concepts and that it didnt exist in other forms prior to that is politically correct bullshit and an attempt to disassociate the things we do with the unethical and cruel ways of history.

Your being argumentive with Slavetrainer and Arpig and trying to force this entire discussion down the parameters of what you have decided that BDSM is and only is and are not allowing or even considering others viewpoints.

You can try and spin it however you want but the nature of the things we do lies in historical acts that are considered "evil".



Thank you MR , i was starting to wonder if i was completely off my rocker.


I imagine many posts of pomous proclamations of how enlightened someone is and how ignorgant you are without providing any really arguments besides condescendingly questioning your viewpoints and sources in attempt to make you look stupid without proving that you are stupid will do that.

Oh yeah I forgot the repeating of the same short sighted opinionated viewpoint over and over again without any consideration to the words actually bein exchanged.

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:49:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: chellekitty

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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007

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ORIGINAL: Rover

Please give particular detail to your sources for equating race based slavery with BDSM. 
 
John


You are assuming, Im talking about race based slavery.


i believe it was the slaves your grandparents owned comment that that assumtion was made on....

and i'm gonna have to chime in on Rover's point....yes....consensual makes a difference...a huge difference...but you seem to constantly attempt to dodge logic on this....

and...above every thing else, you seem to change your story to disprove Rover....this doesn't bode well for you...and weren't you done with this in post 48....but you can't seem to stick to any convictions so...i suppose that goes along with everything else you've done...

you offer to provide proof and then when its asked for you go NO, i don't wanna...if you're going to argue a point...follow thru, be consistant...

after reading this thread last night, i went and looked up a time line on the leather archives, which goes back to something like 5000 BCE...and i am 99.999% sure that if they could found some semblance of consensual bdsm it would be documented there...i believe the first instance was in the 1600's but it was one person...now i am not sure how many people there were in the world then, but i am pretty sure they are bad odds...the next time consensual bdsm was ever mentioned was in the 1940's or 1950's....when it became an organized secret society of gay men...dykes shortly there after, the hetros got into it in the 70's and its grown from there...
the website i got my information from... http://www.leatherarchives.org/exhibits/deblase/timeline.htm

you seem to not understand this word consent...if we do the things we do without consent, they are assult and rape...no ifs ands or buts, if we do the things we do with consent and then the consent is withdrawn and you don't stop, its assult and rape...the people way back when who didn't have to have consent to do it and weren't punished for it, were still people who assulted and raped people...

tired of this now...might write more later

chelle



i stated "But people were slaves and people were using slaves  long before your grandparents existed, people have liked inflicting pain or recieving it  since the dawn of time. People been tying  other people up since  they made rope."
 
When properly read this reads "People were using slaves long before your grandparents  existed." It mentions nothing  about Rover's grandparents owning slaves.  Which means, to me, that people are writing , attempting to discredit, and not even reading what is wrote beforehand.

My point was made, This has nothing to do with the leather community. I dont understand what the leather community has to do with  BDSM history except its a subculture and part of the history. Im not for sure why people keep referring to leather history.  i gave examples of my  points. I offered sources, yes, but really  references on general history shouldnt be that hard to find.

If i though Rover was truely interested in the sources instead of trying to "win"  i would probably look them up for him. However, i see it as a waste of time. More than likely their will be an attempt to discredit those too, given previous experiences. And i dont feel a need to  provide sources that you can google( such as ancient greek culture, mediveal culture  ancient muslim culture, crusades,  ancient slavery, etc, etc.)  when said sources are probably going to try to be discredited.

That why i said i would give him a list on the other side, to make it less likely to continue this discreditation game, as it really is a waste of time.

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:56:55 PM   
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ok...could we possibly all agree that a sandwich was made by the earl of sandwhich at whatever time it was made for the durration of this post...

ok...bread existed since man mixed ground grain and water basically and stuck it in fire...right?

meat was sliced...probably shortly after a knife was created or a rock was sharpened or something...right?

so the elements of a sandwich have existed for thousands of years....

so does that equate that sandwiches have existed for thousands of years?

because the elements exists does not mean that the end product has existed since the elements originated...sure, theoretically, it could...but it is not a definate...

and oh yeah...if your viewpoint is never questioned, you will never grow...and if your sources are never verified, it is your opinion....until...well, you can document that your opinion is based on fact...take a note from your Descartes quote.....

i hate having to explain simple logic...but it drives me nuts when someone consistantly dodges rational thought in favor of emotive response and then claims it to be rational thought...

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:58:51 PM   
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and you still don't understand consensuality, infact never attempted to address it

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 8:59:04 PM   
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I cant beleive you actually beleive this.

I've read this entire thread and your entirely off base.

You seem to think that the concepts of BDSM suddenly appeared when people got organized.


I've already stipulated that Sadism and masochism have existed since the dawn of man.  Don't get hung up on that issue. 

quote:


The concepts that are at the heart of sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, bondage, and discipline are as old as human history.


Those are not "concepts", they're diagnosis and activities.  Concepts are things such as consent, responsibility, compatibility, fulfillment, etc.

Let's look at the constituent components of BDSM as an acronym, as you seem want to do. 
 
Bondage & Discipline:  I'm not aware that it existed as a practice for pleasure/gratification prior to the mid 19th century, and really took on a recognizeable form in the mid to late 20th century.  If you have any documentation beyond personal speculation, I'm always happy to learn something new.
 
Don't be confused when old John Wayne movies show them tying up the crooks... it was just vanilla and had nothing to do with BDSM.
 
Dominance & Submission:  Completely unknown concept prior to the late 1960's.
 
Don't be confused that in the course of vanilla history there have been leaders and followers.  Sometimes it's just leading and following, and not BDSM.
 
Sadism & Masochism:  Probably has been in existence on an individual level since the dawn of man. 
 
Don't be confused that throughout the course of human history, men have done unspeakable things to other men (and women).  Sometimes it's just a Nazi and doesn't really have anything to do with BDSM.
 
Let's take S/M for a moment, since it's likely the genesis for all of BDSM.  The most (in)famous practitioner was, of course, Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade (aka the Marquis de Sade).  He was a pedophile.  He was a rapist.  He was an abuser.  He was also (coincidentally) a sadist.  If he were alive today and claiming to be simply in the practice of BDSM, we'd be out there with torches and pitchforks to denounce him (and his practices) as having nothing whatsoever to do with BDSM and to distance ourselves, and BDSM, from him completely. 
 
There'd be a public relations campaign to defend BDSM, much as there was after John Edward Robinson, Jr. (aka "Slavemaster") started stuffing women in oil drums out in Kansas.
 
You can't have it both ways, both embracing that which has nothing to do with BDSM because it suits you to do so, and denying the very same association with BDSM when convenience calls.  You can't see BDSM behind every rock and bush, and then bellow like the great Wizard of Oz telling people to "pay no attention to the man behind the curtain" to denounce those that do not suit your world view. 

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Your being argumentive with Slavetrainer and Arpig and trying to force this entire discussion down the parameters of what you have decided that BDSM is and only is and are not allowing or even considering others viewpoints.


I've considered their viewpoints, and find them wanting.  I've provided ample documentation to that effect.  Are you, or they, considering other viewpoints?  Hello, pot... meet kettle.

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You can try and spin it however you want but the nature of the things we do lies in historical acts that are considered "evil".


Perhaps the nature of what you do lies in ovens at Auschwitz, or on Georgian slave plantations, or any number of "evil" places.  What I do has no foundation in such things.  Feel free to issue your own mea culpa, but do not presume to do so on my behalf.

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The sadism Marquis wrote about was sadism, just not the ethical sadism we have today.


The Marquis de Sade has become a near mythical figure who wrote in order to poke his finger in the eyes of an establishment and religion that he felt had wronged him when his mother-in-law had him imprisoned for being a low-life.  Was he a sadist?  Absolutely.  He was also a Catholic.  What's your point?

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All these instruments we use (floggers, whips, canes, bondage apparel, dungeon furniture) have been around for a very long time...we've just taken the concepts of their orginal use, watered them down, and created new ethical uses for them that a pale shadow of their orginal use.


Things like clothes pins, needles, fly swatters, rug beaters, etc. have also been around for a very long time.  Do they have a BDSM history to them as well?
 
We've taken all sorts of things and perverted them.  The fact that some were intended as instruments of torture is no more material than the fact that some were intended for sewing, laundry or cleaning.

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The historical concepts of slavery are the precursor for Ownership and Property. We've just taken the orginal concepts and applied them in new ways to create a consentual relationship.


The concepts of ownership and property did not begin with slavery.  Slavery adopted the already existing concepts of private ownership and property rights.  Even the concepts of consensual ownership and property are not new, they've been in existence (though not common) for several thousand years.  What is new is an entire culture that organized and developed around the concept of consensual ownership and property within the context of Sadism and Masochism.  And that IS an entirely new concept, and one of recent vintage.

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The idea that BDSM was magically created when people got together, got organized, and created the consentual, ethical concepts and that it didnt exist in other forms prior to that is politically correct bullshit and an attempt to disassociate the things we do with the unethical and cruel ways of history.


There was nothing magical about it.  People discovered that they had a shared interest in S/M and organized venues for their mutual participation.  First as brothels, later as social groups.  Prior to that, they lived their lives in isolation, stolen moments, and erotic fantasies. 
 
And as for me being politically correct... dude, what are you smoking?
 
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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:08:04 PM   
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Fast reply:

I know of a few ladies who have more experience at 18 dominating men than many others at 50.

Dominating is a mindset.  Sure, some tricks are learned along the way, but my sister was as good at pushing my dad's buttons at 4 as any domme I've ever seen.  (Note:  I don't think she's a domme, nor was anything funny going on, I just know she can do what she needs to to get what she wants)

Yours,


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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:16:27 PM   
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The historical origins of BDSM are obscure. During the 9th century b.c. ritual flagellations were performed in Artemis Orthia, one of the most important religious areas of ancient Sparta, where the Cult of Orhtia, a preolympic religion was practiced. Here ritual flagulation calles diamastigosis took place on a regular basis.
One of the oldest graphical proofs of sadomasochistic activities is found in an Etruscan burial site in Tarquinia. Inside the Tomba della Fustigazione (Flogging grave), end of the 6th century b.c. two men are portrayed flagellating a women with a cane and a hand during an erotic situation. Another reference related to flagellation is to be found in the 6th book of the Satires of the ancient Roman Poet Juvenal (1st - 2nd century ad), further reference can be found in Satyricon of Petronius, where a delinquent is whipped for sexual arousal.

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

Source's References:


^ Burke, E:"Pain and Pleasure", 'Harvard Classics',1909-1914
^ Fuentes Rodríguez, César: Mundo Gótico. (Quarentena Ediciones, 2007, ISBN 8493389161)
^ http://www.publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm200607/cmbills/130/en/07130x-n.htm#index_link_206

The best book you will ever read is called an encyclopedia. If anyone can discredit an encyclopedia( one that uses some of your own references to boot) i will bow down  on hot coals and call you "God" while be whipped with a bullwhip  in front of  the entire BDSM ( real not online) communitity

And Sade and Masoch ( in which the terms sadism and masochism are derived) were fictional writers. Neither started the "pain is pleasure" kink.

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:28:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007
The best book you will ever read is called an encyclopedia. If anyone can discredit an encyclopedia( one that uses some of your own references to boot) i will bow down  on hot coals and call you "God" while be whipped with a bullwhip  in front of  the entire BDSM ( real not online) communitity


Ummmmm....  you're saying that an encyclopedia written today will be eternally true, regardless of future discoveries and human error, and if any error is ever discovered, you'll allow yourself to be permanently scarred.

Sounds like you're an idiot.  But I didn't read it in an online encyclopedia, so it may not be true.

Yours,


benji

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:29:37 PM   
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Dominance & Submission:  Completely unknown concept prior to the late 1960's.

 
Dominance and submission actually predate Homo sapiens, and in fact it could be supposed that shortly after the second species of life evolved, one began to dominate the other.[citation needed]
But our concern here is D/s of an erotic nature, which can be hard to document especially in cultures where one gender or another is presumed dominant. It can be hard to tell if one submits because it is pleasurable or for more practical reasons, such as food and shelter.
Still there are many writings from the ancient age through the modern that would clearly indicate a willingness to submit for purely romantic reasons.
Geoffrey Chaucer (1342 - 1400) describes in his work "The Canterbury Tales" a clearly D/s relationship with a female dominant in "The Wife of Bath's Tale".
Another medieval example is the literary convention of courtly love, an ideal which usually required a knight to serve his courtly lady (in "love service") with the same obedience and loyalty which he owed to his liege lord. This convention was submissive and sometimes fetishistic, with the knight performing acts of cross-dressing and self-flagellation. However, the relationship between the literary conventions and actual practices is unknown.
There are also accounts of prostitutes in most major cities that catered to male submissives, as well as masochists. In a male dominated world it was all too easy for a submissive woman to find a strict male dominant, but some women still found ways to leave husbands who were "too soft".
One of the most famous works in this area is Leopold von Sacher-Masoch's Venus im Pelz (Venus in Furs, 1869), in which the protagonist Severin persuades a woman, Wanda, to take him on as her slave, serves her and allows her to degrade him. The book has elements of both social and physical submission, and is the genesis of the term masochism coined by the 19th century psychiatrist Krafft-Ebing.
The Rolling Stones song "Under my Thumb" (M. Jagger, 1966) is supposedly about a D/s relationship.

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance/submission#History

Sources References:
  • Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacobs. Different Loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. New York: Villard Books, 1993. ISBN 0-679-40873-8.

  • Jack Rinella, The Complete Slave: Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/Submissive Lifestyle. Daedelus publishing Co, 2002. ISBN 1-881943-13-5.

  • Jack Rinella, The Master's Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance. Daedelus Publushing Co., 1994. ISBN 1-881943-03-8.

  • Guy Baldwin, SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude — Principles, Skills and Tools. Daedelus Publishing Co, 2002. ISBN 1-881943-14-3.

  • Claudia Varrin, Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women. Birch Lane Press, 2000. ISBN 0-8065-2089-2.

  • Claudia Varrin, Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission. Citadel Press, 2003. ISBN 0-8065-2400-6.


  • Philip Miller and Molly Devon, Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism. Mystic Rose Books, 1995. ISBN 0-9645960-0-8.



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Bondage & Discipline:  I'm not aware that it existed as a practice for pleasure/gratification prior to the mid 19th century, and really took on a recognizeable form in the mid to late 20th century.  If you have any documentation beyond personal speculation, I'm always happy to learn something new.


Although some of the techniques of Japanese sexual bondage originated with the military restraint technique of Hojojutsu, sexual bondage techniques are far gentler, and great care is taken to avoid injury.
Many rope artists have derived their own flavor of Japanese-inspired bondage which often mixes some Shibari techniques with other forms of bondage.
Kinbaku is greatly influenced by the Sengoku period of Japan. One of Japan's darkest historical eras of torture and execution, it is still remembered for cruel means and methods that include the use of fire, knives, tattoos, rocks, boiling water, divining blocks and rocking horses[citation needed], etc.
Eventually (in 1742) the Tokugawa government created a foundation of crime laws, which included the seven different types of punishment (Labour, slavery, exile, death, etc) and the four kinds of torture (whip, pressing stone, constriction by rope, and hanging by rope).
According to several sources, bondage as a sexual activity first came to notice in Japan in the late Edo period. Generally recognized as "father of Kinbaku" is Ito Seiu, who started studying and researching Hojojutsu in 1908 and turned it into an art form. Kinbaku became widely popular in the 1950s in magazine form (some sources to some extent credit influence from John Willie with popularizing Kinbaku). In the 1960s, a tradition of bondage as a form of performance art developed in Japan.
In recent years Japanese style ropework has become popular in the western BDSM scene.

[edit] Technique
Traditional Kinbaku is based on fairly specific rope patterns, most of them derived from Hojojutsu ties. Of particular importance are the Ushiro Takatekote (a type of arm box tie), which forms the basis of most Kinbaku ties, and the Ebi, or "Shrimp", which was originally designed as a torture tie but today makes the bottom vulnerable for more pleasant forms of play.
Generally, traditional Kinbaku is practiced with ropes of 7 meters (23 feet) in length. Due to the generally different physique of Western bottoms, 8 meter (26 feet) ropes are commonly used in the West. The rope material is usually hemp or jute (neither sisal nor manila hemp are usually useful), prepared according to specific techniques to achieve a pleasantly soft yet sturdy rope. Other materials are also sometimes used, although most synthetic ropes tend to be too slippery for Shibari techniques.
For historic reasons, Kinbaku uses very few knots, sometimes none at all, or only a lark's head or an overhand knot. This requires rope with high friction. According to Sensei Nawa Yumio in his 1964 classic book on Torinawa, knots on a person was regarded as extremely disgraceful, something some would regard as worse than death. Restraints with no knots were not considered "bondage" and there was no shame in such; therefore, "wrappings" were used.

 Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shibari#History


Really i can do this all night with a mere encyclopedia

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:35:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007
The best book you will ever read is called an encyclopedia. If anyone can discredit an encyclopedia( one that uses some of your own references to boot) i will bow down  on hot coals and call you "God" while be whipped with a bullwhip  in front of  the entire BDSM ( real not online) communitity


Ummmmm....  you're saying that an encyclopedia written today will be eternally true, regardless of future discoveries and human error, and if any error is ever discovered, you'll allow yourself to be permanently scarred.

Sounds like you're an idiot.  But I didn't read it in an online encyclopedia, so it may not be true.

Yours,


benji


Yeah thats exactly what i said to the word. actually i said the best book you will ever read is an encyclopedia which states known facts as well as references.  References many use here. 

So your saying a book based on facts given in books that people here use as sources is not a good source.  So a known factual source( not that fiction crap some believe is real) an accredited source by many is not a good source.

Let me guess the only good sources are ones that support ones points? Not the factual ones.

And your saying  to boot i sound like an idiot.. the kettle should listen to the  kettle before  telling the pot what it sounds like

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:36:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007
The best book you will ever read is called an encyclopedia. If anyone can discredit an encyclopedia( one that uses some of your own references to boot) i will bow down  on hot coals and call you "God" while be whipped with a bullwhip  in front of  the entire BDSM ( real not online) communitity

And Sade and Masoch ( in which the terms sadism and masochism are derived) were fictional writers. Neither started the "pain is pleasure" kink.


First, Wikipedia is not a traditional encyclopedia.  It's constructed by reader contributions from around the world, regardless of the accuracy of their contributions.  And as a result, they're notoriously inaccurate and have been discredited on numerous occasions.
 
I'll light the coals, you tell me which real time community you hang out in so I can arrange for your public whipping.
 
Second, you committed the unpardonable sin of taking a single passage from a long entry, and then posting the source references as if they contributed to that specific passage.  They did not.  That's intellectual dishonesty (ie: you fabricated a lie).  Shame, shame.  Even a high school English teacher would fail you for that.
 
And finally, Richard von Krafft-Ebing used derivations of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (author of "Venus In Furs") and Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade to represent the psychiatric disorders of sadism and masochism in his 1886 book "Psychopathia Sexualis".  No one (that I know of) has portrayed them as having started the "pain is pleasure" kink.
 
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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:37:22 PM   
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Yeah, but you could also think, present one or two examples, and make people read it and make you seem bright.

Besides, wiki is a consensus-based forum where anyone can write anything.  Hell, I've changed stuff for shits and giggles.

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:48:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007

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Dominance & Submission:  Completely unknown concept prior to the late 1960's.

 
Dominance and submission actually predate Homo sapiens, and in fact it could be supposed that shortly after the second species of life evolved, one began to dominate the other.[citation needed]
But our concern here is D/s of an erotic nature, which can be hard to document especially in cultures where one gender or another is presumed dominant. It can be hard to tell if one submits because it is pleasurable or for more practical reasons, such as food and shelter.
Still there are many writings from the ancient age through the modern that would clearly indicate a willingness to submit for purely romantic reasons.
Geoffrey Chaucer (1342 - 1400) describes in his work "The Canterbury Tales" a clearly D/s relationship with a female dominant in "The Wife of Bath's Tale".
Another medieval example is the literary convention of courtly love, an ideal which usually required a knight to serve his courtly lady (in "love service") with the same obedience and loyalty which he owed to his liege lord. This convention was submissive and sometimes fetishistic, with the knight performing acts of cross-dressing and self-flagellation. However, the relationship between the literary conventions and actual practices is unknown.
There are also accounts of prostitutes in most major cities that catered to male submissives, as well as masochists. In a male dominated world it was all too easy for a submissive woman to find a strict male dominant, but some women still found ways to leave husbands who were "too soft".
One of the most famous works in this area is Leopold von Sacher-Masoch's Venus im Pelz (Venus in Furs, 1869), in which the protagonist Severin persuades a woman, Wanda, to take him on as her slave, serves her and allows her to degrade him. The book has elements of both social and physical submission, and is the genesis of the term masochism coined by the 19th century psychiatrist Krafft-Ebing.
The Rolling Stones song "Under my Thumb" (M. Jagger, 1966) is supposedly about a D/s relationship.

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dominance/submission#History

Sources References:
  • Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacobs. Different Loving: An Exploration of the World of Sexual Dominance and Submission. New York: Villard Books, 1993. ISBN 0-679-40873-8.

  • Jack Rinella, The Complete Slave: Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/Submissive Lifestyle. Daedelus publishing Co, 2002. ISBN 1-881943-13-5.

  • Jack Rinella, The Master's Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance. Daedelus Publushing Co., 1994. ISBN 1-881943-03-8.

  • Guy Baldwin, SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude — Principles, Skills and Tools. Daedelus Publishing Co, 2002. ISBN 1-881943-14-3.

  • Claudia Varrin, Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women. Birch Lane Press, 2000. ISBN 0-8065-2089-2.

  • Claudia Varrin, Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission. Citadel Press, 2003. ISBN 0-8065-2400-6.


  • Philip Miller and Molly Devon, Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism. Mystic Rose Books, 1995. ISBN 0-9645960-0-8.




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Bondage & Discipline:  I'm not aware that it existed as a practice for pleasure/gratification prior to the mid 19th century, and really took on a recognizeable form in the mid to late 20th century.  If you have any documentation beyond personal speculation, I'm always happy to learn something new.


Although some of the techniques of Japanese sexual bondage originated with the military restraint technique of Hojojutsu, sexual bondage techniques are far gentler, and great care is taken to avoid injury.
Many rope artists have derived their own flavor of Japanese-inspired bondage which often mixes some Shibari techniques with other forms of bondage.
Kinbaku is greatly influenced by the Sengoku period of Japan. One of Japan's darkest historical eras of torture and execution, it is still remembered for cruel means and methods that include the use of fire, knives, tattoos, rocks, boiling water, divining blocks and rocking horses[citation needed], etc.
Eventually (in 1742) the Tokugawa government created a foundation of crime laws, which included the seven different types of punishment (Labour, slavery, exile, death, etc) and the four kinds of torture (whip, pressing stone, constriction by rope, and hanging by rope).
According to several sources, bondage as a sexual activity first came to notice in Japan in the late Edo period. Generally recognized as "father of Kinbaku" is Ito Seiu, who started studying and researching Hojojutsu in 1908 and turned it into an art form. Kinbaku became widely popular in the 1950s in magazine form (some sources to some extent credit influence from John Willie with popularizing Kinbaku). In the 1960s, a tradition of bondage as a form of performance art developed in Japan.
In recent years Japanese style ropework has become popular in the western BDSM scene.

[edit] Technique
Traditional Kinbaku is based on fairly specific rope patterns, most of them derived from Hojojutsu ties. Of particular importance are the Ushiro Takatekote (a type of arm box tie), which forms the basis of most Kinbaku ties, and the Ebi, or "Shrimp", which was originally designed as a torture tie but today makes the bottom vulnerable for more pleasant forms of play.
Generally, traditional Kinbaku is practiced with ropes of 7 meters (23 feet) in length. Due to the generally different physique of Western bottoms, 8 meter (26 feet) ropes are commonly used in the West. The rope material is usually hemp or jute (neither sisal nor manila hemp are usually useful), prepared according to specific techniques to achieve a pleasantly soft yet sturdy rope. Other materials are also sometimes used, although most synthetic ropes tend to be too slippery for Shibari techniques.
For historic reasons, Kinbaku uses very few knots, sometimes none at all, or only a lark's head or an overhand knot. This requires rope with high friction. According to Sensei Nawa Yumio in his 1964 classic book on Torinawa, knots on a person was regarded as extremely disgraceful, something some would regard as worse than death. Restraints with no knots were not considered "bondage" and there was no shame in such; therefore, "wrappings" were used.

 Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shibari#History


Really i can do this all night with a mere encyclopedia


Same unpardonable sin, mistakenly portraying those sources as having contributed to the piece you pasted.  They did not.  You're continuing to fabricate your sources.  Like you, I can do this all night.

quote:


Still there are many writings from the ancient age through the modern that would clearly indicate a willingness to submit for purely romantic reasons.
Geoffrey Chaucer (1342 - 1400) describes in his work "The Canterbury Tales" a clearly D/s relationship with a female dominant in "The Wife of Bath's Tale".


So, now you're using fictional novels as proof of factual history?  Does that mean that Gor really exists?  Do you know how silly(er) you sound?

quote:

 
Another medieval example is the literary convention of courtly love, an ideal which usually required a knight to serve his courtly lady (in "love service") with the same obedience and loyalty which he owed to his liege lord. This convention was submissive and sometimes fetishistic, with the knight performing acts of cross-dressing and self-flagellation. However, the relationship between the literary conventions and actual practices is unknown.


Relevant portion of that passage in red.  You're trying to draw factual conclusions through the use of fictional literature.  That dog won't hunt.

quote:

 
There are also accounts of prostitutes in most major cities that catered to male submissives, as well as masochists. In a male dominated world it was all too easy for a submissive woman to find a strict male dominant, but some women still found ways to leave husbands who were "too soft".


I've already told you about S/M oriented European brothels.  Remember, you learned that from me before you read it online.  :)

quote:

 
One of the most famous works in this area is Leopold von Sacher-Masoch's Venus im Pelz (Venus in Furs, 1869), in which the protagonist Severin persuades a woman, Wanda, to take him on as her slave, serves her and allows her to degrade him. The book has elements of both social and physical submission, and is the genesis of the term masochism coined by the 19th century psychiatrist Krafft-Ebing.


Leopold von Sacher-Masoch wrote often about his S/M oriented fantasies.  So what factual conclusions do you want to draw from an author's fantasies as portrayed in fictional novels?  If the substance of your support is wholly or primarily erotic fictional novels, then you'll have to prepare to live life under alien rule (I read that in a novel once, so it must be true).
 
I could not do half the job of discrediting you, as you have done for yourself.
 
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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:52:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover

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ORIGINAL: Slavetrainer2007
The best book you will ever read is called an encyclopedia. If anyone can discredit an encyclopedia( one that uses some of your own references to boot) i will bow down  on hot coals and call you "God" while be whipped with a bullwhip  in front of  the entire BDSM ( real not online) communitity

And Sade and Masoch ( in which the terms sadism and masochism are derived) were fictional writers. Neither started the "pain is pleasure" kink.


First, Wikipedia is not a traditional encyclopedia.  It's constructed by reader contributions from around the world, regardless of the accuracy of their contributions.  And as a result, they're notoriously inaccurate and have been discredited on numerous occasions.
 
I'll light the coals, you tell me which real time community you hang out in so I can arrange for your public whipping.
 
Second, you committed the unpardonable sin of taking a single passage from a long entry, and then posting the source references as if they contributed to that specific passage.  They did not.  That's intellectual dishonesty (ie: you fabricated a lie).  Shame, shame.  Even a high school English teacher would fail you for that.
 
And finally, Richard von Krafft-Ebing used derivations of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (author of "Venus In Furs") and Donatien Alphonse Francois de Sade to represent the psychiatric disorders of sadism and masochism in his 1886 book "Psychopathia Sexualis".  No one (that I know of) has portrayed them as having started the "pain is pleasure" kink.
 
John


Try reading the  sources references instead of writing about them. I was using wiki to make a quick point. Can you discredit it, no. Wiki is written and  rewritten by many yes.  Considering it is read  by many with knowledge, its more than likely to be accurate 95% of the time. As i said it was a quick point,But history  proves my point. What proves yours? Fictional  books written by authors( in the 1700 and 1800s i might add).So where did the authors get the ideas from  that are taken from their name? Modern society?


Really your lack of knowledge in the history department is showing.  Your grasping at straws. And yeah i bow on those hot coal because you have to discredit  wiki and saying its been inaccurate in the past is like me saying i saw pigs fly. Is discredits nothing especially the article i posted.

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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 9:56:19 PM   
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Look, let's just agree to the obvious...
 
You made up some wild crap that sounded good when you wrote it, but didn't seem so bright when put to a challenge.
 
You hadn't done any previous research, read any relevant BDSM authors or historians, attended any Leather history workshops or presentations, etc.
 
When confronted with documented evidence contrary to your theory, you resorted to the least credible source (Wikipedia) and even then had to manipulate the source references to make it seem as though they had written (or supported) the passages you pasted.  In other words, you fabricated it (ie: lied).
 
I think that about covers it.
 
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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 10:05:47 PM   
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Saying "The Wife of Bath is about a D/s relationship" is like saying "The Call of the Wild is a nice book about doggies."

Just sayin'.


We're rehashing a common argument in history here. Was Michelangelo gay? Those who look at his biography and saw he was normally in some state of pining for another man would say yes, on first blush. Other people would argue, I think more shrewdly, that while same sex love has existed since day one, same sex sexual relations, etc. the whole notion of "yes he's gay" is inherently anachronistic, based on a current concept of "gayness" and completely pointless in relation to understanding Michelangelo's sexuality.



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RE: how old? - 7/8/2007 10:13:15 PM   
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Try reading the  sources references instead of writing about them.


Again I will remind you that you fabricated those sources, as they had nothing whatsoever to do with the passages you posted.  No matter how you may wish to obscure the matter, that's intellectual dishonesty.  That alone should discredit you as a believable source for anything whatsoever.

quote:

  Can you discredit it, no. Wiki is written and  rewritten by many yes.  Considering it is read  by many with knowledge, its more than likely to be accurate 95% of the time.


And where did you get that statistic?  Same place you got your previous information?  Smells like it.

Let's see about Wikipedia...
 
http://www.theregister.co.uk/2005/10/18/wikipedia_quality_problem/

Evidently even their founder admits to "serious quality problems".  Well, I'll be darned.  It's described as "...garbage, an incoherent hodge-podge of dubious factoids that adds up to something far less than the sum of its parts".  It's even portrayed as "An encyclopedia can't just have a small percentage of good entries and be considered a success. I would argue, in fact, that the overall quality of an encyclopedia is best judged by its weakest entries rather than its best. What's the worth of an unreliable reference work?".
 
Unreliable reference work?  Is that what you're relying upon?  For shame.

quote:

 
As i said it was a quick point,But history  proves my point. What proves yours? Fictional  books written by authors( in the 1700 and 1800s i might add).So where did the authors get the ideas from  that are taken from their name? Modern society


If I said I understood your point I'd be lying.  You've been the one referencing fictional books.  I don't recall doing so at all.  I only recall referencing legitimate Leather authors and historians.  Are you (more) confused?

quote:

 
Really your lack of knowledge in the history department is showing.  Your grasping at straws. And yeah i bow on those hot coal because you have to discredit  wiki and saying its been inaccurate in the past is like me saying i saw pigs fly. Is discredits nothing especially the article i posted.


Sounds like sour grapes to me.  Any chance you make vinegar for a living?
 
John

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