thetammyjo
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ORIGINAL: BDsbabygirl Wow! I had no idea I'd get this many responses! Thanx to everyone who replied...and here is a little more description on our relationship. For the most part, our relationship is vanilla but I do submit quite a bit to him outside of the bedroom. We are currently working on orgasm control and he has me writing a journal. He has also insisted I take vitamins for my health and will tell me when it's time for bed. He knows what kinds of things I will submit to and those that I won't, so I don't think him "pushing" me is gonna be a problem. To be honest, I'm still finding my place and limits as a "sub" but it's been working out wonderfully for us so far. Now, about the collar - to both of us, it's a sign that I am "his", his woman, his charge, his Love. But since my daily collar - which he tells me will have a lock and he'll keep the key - just looks like a choker-style necklace, it won't be clear to the uninitiated. It's also a symbol of commitment. We do plan to marry one day - and will, in fact, be moving in together soon - but I think my Dom is especially interested in my collaring since I am still legally wed to someone else and we can't get married just yet while I can be collared. In my mind, the collar also represents "ownership", though he says he would never dare to think he "owns" me. I guess it's this part that troubles the 'vanilla', gotta-be-equal me. Still, I do feel a lot better about it today. As soon as we get a chance to talk about it, I will ask him to wear something, as well. With our relationship being as it is, I know we can talk about it with no problems. I can't imagine him in a "collar" but I do like the idea of an ID bracelet... You know he might consider having the key to be his symbol. Given the new information you provided above (which is quite different than the OP in my opinion), that's exactly what Fox and I consider to be my side of his being collared to me. Of course we have multiple symbols too that he can wear, and other than my carrying the key they are all him wearing them. We personally think that supports our authority dynamic but we aren't even slightly vanilla.
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