Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

Okay, this needs to be said . . .


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Okay, this needs to be said . . . Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 2:25:06 AM   
IamonlyMEAT


Posts: 10
Joined: 7/14/2007
Status: offline 		I'm sure this will be disagreed with, especially since I'm new here, but after browsing some pretty irritating profiles, I have to say it.

Being a total b*tch is not the same thing as being a dominant female.

I know that some guys probably really get off on it, and more power to them, but for me, these profiles where women show off how staggeringly trashy and vulgar they can be are not impressive and I'm more inclined to insult them (I would never do so directly, as it is against the rules) than deem them worthy of my submission. I think a lot of the girls here have been ruined by guys who just want to be ordered around by anyone with breasts.

Am I alone in these sentiments?
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 6:24:35 AM   
KaramelGoddess


Posts: 404
Joined: 6/20/2006
Status: offline 		Hello,
 
My advice: read some of the profiles of the women who post here on the forums.  Not every Domina is like what you've described.  Don't let yourself be jaded by the few profiles that are obnoxious!
 
~Kara

_____________________________

"Never eat more than you can lift." ~ Miss Piggy

(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 6:26:17 AM   
stella40


Posts: 417
Joined: 1/11/2006
From: London, UK
Status: offline 		Greetings.

Well on the basis of what you have written here and your screenname, I'm not sure whether to welcome you to these forums or the Burger King menu, so I guess I will welcome you to both.

But seriously...(please forgive my pun, I couldn't resist it)

I understand however how you are feeling, and browsing through some of the profiles (irrespective of gender and role) I sometimes have to shake my head and wonder where some people get their ideas from. However there are many very good Dommes here (why I can think of some 87 Dommes who regularly post here off the top of my head) and there are many others, and I'm sure there's one out there looking for someone just like you.

It may seem to be like a needle in a haystack, but if you're a masochist, I'm sure you won't have too many problems.  

s.

< Message edited by stella40 -- 7/15/2007 6:41:13 AM >

_____________________________

I try to take one day at a time, but several days come and attack me at once. (Jennifer Unlimited)

If you can't be a good example then you'll just have to be a horrible warning.


(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 6:30:57 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


Posts: 1898
Joined: 2/10/2005
From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
Status: offline 		Given how many "male subs" send out emails full of sexually explicit lists of what they want done, with attached pictures of genitals for good measure, I would say there's a market out there for the "vulgar model" of Domme.   As Karamel says, you'll find some vastly different examples posting here on the boards.

Just a note:  if you'd like to be seen as "better than that model of male sub", you might want to learn to refer to the Dommes here as women, not "girls".  :-)

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 7/15/2007 6:33:56 AM >

_____________________________

~Ms. Sonnet Marwood~

Deja Moo: The feeling you've heard this bull somewhere before.

(in reply to KaramelGoddess)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 7:03:33 AM   
goddessAVA


Posts: 221
Joined: 11/2/2006
Status: offline 		While I am sure you are not alone in your thinking, I have to ask why you feel the need to attack anyone on cm.  BDSM forums attract many, yes, but it is very easy to ignore and not read a profile.  I think perhaps you are angry that there are pro-dominas on here?  I believe in letting people develop on their own in this lifestyle, not judge or dictate how they present themselves, what fetishes are acceptable or unacceptable, and how they indulge be it cyber or 24/7 ltr. 

_____________________________

Philadelphia's premier Enema Nurse
cleaning out America's assholes one at a time

(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 7:21:20 AM   
Elorin


Posts: 970
Joined: 8/22/2004
From: San Antonio, TX
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: IamonlyMEAT
Being a total b*tch is not the same thing as being a dominant female.

Am I alone in these sentiments?


Personally, I agree with you. But the number of women AND men who don't is astounding. Supply and demand - if a sub thinks that the only thing needed to be dominant is bitchiness, then there will eventually be a supply of bitchy dommes to fill that niche. While some of them may be a response to subs who treat them like a life support system for whip, tits, and pussy to worship, some of them truly think that's what being dominant is about.

Skip the profile, keep looking, and you'll find someone who you feel is worth your time.

~E

_____________________________

'cause when i look down /i just miss all the good stuff / when i look up / i just trip over things

(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 7:25:28 AM   
SunNMoon


Posts: 1058
Joined: 3/18/2007
Status: offline 		Hi and welcome,

Yes there are a lot of hmmm not "friendly" seeming profiles it is not just limited to dominant women but is across the board. But at the same time if you keep looking there are a lot of friendly seeming people out there. Just ignore the profiles that aren't of your choosing and move on.



(in reply to goddessAVA)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 7:26:51 AM   
SunNMoon


Posts: 1058
Joined: 3/18/2007
Status: offline 		Sorry everyone repeated post

< Message edited by SunNMoon -- 7/15/2007 8:09:59 AM >

(in reply to goddessAVA)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 7:32:06 AM   
MisPandora


Posts: 2911
Joined: 4/7/2004
From: Philadelphia, PA
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: IamonlyMEAT

I'm sure this will be disagreed with, especially since I'm new here, but after browsing some pretty irritating profiles, I have to say it.

Being a total b*tch is not the same thing as being a dominant female.

I know that some guys probably really get off on it, and more power to them, but for me, these profiles where women show off how staggeringly trashy and vulgar they can be are not impressive and I'm more inclined to insult them (I would never do so directly, as it is against the rules) than deem them worthy of my submission. I think a lot of the girls here have been ruined by guys who just want to be ordered around by anyone with breasts.

Am I alone in these sentiments?


And you don't think the situation is plundered away by gentlemen of similar ilk who want to label themselves "meat" and address grown adult women as "girls"?  I'm just sayin.....

_____________________________

Pandora
Ms World Leather 2004
Ms Philadelphia Leather 2004

"Simply put, if you want a real femdom to love you, give her reasons to love you." Gloria Brame

(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 8:39:55 AM   
GoddessinDallas


Posts: 57
Joined: 11/25/2006
Status: offline 		GROW UP!

(in reply to MisPandora)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 9:57:33 AM   
Lashra


Posts: 4900
Joined: 2/9/2006
Status: offline 		I am not a girl, but a Dominant female so no one has ruined me. I am not bitchy or bossy (unless your my sub or work for me in the company that I own) then, yes I am bossy because that is my position in those relationships. I am human being, I try to use good sense and manners as often as possible.

I think rudeness is a perspective. I have in my profile that NO Dominant, Gorean or traveling to bmore males are to contact me asking me to be their sub or to ask for me to dominante them. I do not consider that rude, just straight forward, but some people consider ir rude. I frankly do not care what they think its my profile and that needed to be said.

I agree some profiles of all sexes can be just plain rude or boring, depending upon your perspective.

~Lashra


_____________________________

“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”






(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 10:11:36 AM   
Najakcharmer


Posts: 2121
Joined: 5/3/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: IamonlyMEAT

Being a total b*tch is not the same thing as being a dominant female.


Sure, and being willing to send random strangers photos of your cock in bondage is not the same as being a submissive male.  But there are an annoying number of people who lack the intelligence and social skills to relate to other human beings in the BDSM lifestyle, so they have no better approach than to wave their wabbly bits about in a crude manner.  It works fine with other people who are seeking a completely shallow and one dimensional interaction.  Ignore them and move on if you're not in that category.

Your profile isn't bad, but you may have revealed more here about your fundamental attitude towards the lifestyle and towards women than is likely to be good for your search.  If you're looking for a genuinely dominant woman who is also a real person and who wants to get to know a potential submissive as a real person, calling her "girl" probably isn't the best way to begin.  Nor is complaining about "all the girls here" on the basis of crude profiles that may well have been written by male scammers. 

(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 10:20:27 AM   
gooddogbenji


Posts: 5094
Joined: 11/15/2005
From: Toronto
Status: offline 		Fast reply:

Am I the only one who sees the irony in a guy, whose name shows him to be lost in the fantasy of being only meat, bitching that some "girls" only see men as meat?

I hope not!

Yours,


benji

_____________________________

Prevent global warming. Stop burning patchouli.

(in reply to Najakcharmer)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 10:32:58 AM   
Red82


Posts: 79
Joined: 4/13/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

Fast reply:

Am I the only one who sees the irony in a guy, whose name shows him to be lost in the fantasy of being only meat, bitching that some "girls" only see men as meat?

I hope not!

Yours,


benji


I totaly saw that too! HA.

(in reply to gooddogbenji)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 10:34:25 AM   
DrkJourney


Posts: 1917
Joined: 5/6/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: IamonlyMEAT

I'm sure this will be disagreed with, especially since I'm new here, but after browsing some pretty irritating profiles, I have to say it.

Being a total b*tch is not the same thing as being a dominant female.

I know that some guys probably really get off on it, and more power to them, but for me, these profiles where women show off how staggeringly trashy and vulgar they can be are not impressive and I'm more inclined to insult them (I would never do so directly, as it is against the rules) than deem them worthy of my submission. I think a lot of the girls here have been ruined by guys who just want to be ordered around by anyone with breasts.

Am I alone in these sentiments?



Wow, how many profiles did you "read" in 24 hours?  

Actually, I refuse to treat people that way.  I guess you would be suprised at how many emails stop because I won't do that.  To me it's playing online and I won't do that.  I try to treat everyone with respect....I tell them that until I collar them, they are just another person that I am meeting, and I'm not going to order them around and call them names.

Maybe you should talk to your "meat" counterparts, a lot of them should share in the blame as well.

And trust me, I know there are bad Dommes/Doms just as there are bad subs/slaves but just a suggestion....like others have said....maybe you ought to rethink your nik.  Not saying that you are asking for such treatment or deserve it, but some might see that and think that is how you want to be treated....like meat

_____________________________

...Look into my eyes and I'll own you....



(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 10:40:52 AM   
LadyPact


Posts: 32566
Status: offline 		Actually, I'm not going to disagree with you.  There have been plenty of discussions here about the difference between being dominant and domineering, how common courtesy has suffered due to online only exposure, etc., that have probably contributed to what you might be seeing.  While I won't say that any of these things have "ruined" anyone, they may have contributed to what you're seeing in some profiles.  Some have become jaded by the never ending barrage of "do me" subs, fakes, flakes, Frosted Flakes, Tony the Tiger, Tucan 'SAMS', and everything else that windes up in One's mailbox.  (Yeah, shoot Me.  I didn't eat breakfast.)
 
Seriously, though, there are quite a few that frequent the boards here who aren't like that.  Dominant women who make very good contributions to discussions.  Stick around for a while and you'll see who is really worth your time and potentially your submission.

(in reply to Lashra)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 10:45:39 AM   
asubmissiveheart


Posts: 462
Joined: 11/20/2006
Status: offline 		After reading your name, your profile and your OP, you probably deserve what you get.

(in reply to IamonlyMEAT)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 11:26:18 AM   
BlindNbound2


Posts: 1
Joined: 6/14/2007
Status: offline 		Welcome,
Yes there are some very rude profiles out there, but if you look around a little you can find some very nice Dominant Females . I talk to serveral. Give yourself time to be known and the Dominant Females will contact you.

(in reply to asubmissiveheart)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 12:01:30 PM   
Najakcharmer


Posts: 2121
Joined: 5/3/2004
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: stella40
Well on the basis of what you have written here and your screenname, I'm not sure whether to welcome you to these forums or the Burger King menu, so I guess I will welcome you to both.


*chuckle*  Since I get all my meat directly from small sustainable family farms in the original mooing, bleating or squealing packages, it is not usually a idea for someone to introduce themselves to me as "meat" unless they really want me to start thinking about them in terms of freezer space. 

(in reply to stella40)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Okay, this needs to be said . . . - 7/15/2007 12:06:40 PM   
DrkJourney


Posts: 1917
Joined: 5/6/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

quote:

ORIGINAL: stella40
Well on the basis of what you have written here and your screenname, I'm not sure whether to welcome you to these forums or the Burger King menu, so I guess I will welcome you to both.


*chuckle*  Since I get all my meat directly from small sustainable family farms in the original mooing, bleating or squealing packages, it is not usually a idea for someone to introduce themselves to me as "meat" unless they really want me to start thinking about them in terms of freezer space. 




_____________________________

...Look into my eyes and I'll own you....



(in reply to Najakcharmer)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> Okay, this needs to be said . . . Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.090