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nyrisa -> RE: Bullies (7/16/2007 11:12:46 AM)
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ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28
i just don't know how to be agreeable to the 10pm curfew idea...
i can't get away and stay away that way... and if i do, i am likely to end up with a lack of a roof over my head before i intend for it to happen.
Maybe I am misreading, but what does the 10 pm curfew have to do with you being able to get away? Unless you mean, just in the short term, as in having less time in the home, until you move out.
I'd advise giving the curfew a chance. If you are in bed by 10 pm, unless for some reason they wake you up to argue (I hope that is not the case), then you will hopefully get more sleep, and find it less annoying when she wakes you up at 8:30 am. Many people from your parents generation are just fundamentally annoyed by folks who sleep late. It was seen as laziness or immaturity. 8:30 was actually considered sleeping very late, when I was growing up.
I must confess to being one of those hard assed parents, in some ways. I got along well with my kids, except for a bit of the usual teenage strife, but it was definitely "house rules" as long as they lived at home. We paid for their college education, provided them with an inexpensive car, insurance, gas money, full health insurance, charged no rent, but they had to maintain the same standard of behavior that I expected of them before they started college.
On school days, they had a 10 pm curfew; on Fri and Sat, curfew was midnight, unless something really special was going on, and in that case, I had to be called so I would not worry about them. No drinking/drugs/boyfriends/bad language/smoking in my house or on my property, or they would be escorted to the edge of the nest, and booted into their first solo flight to try their new wings. Basically, my rule was, "you are always welcome to a home here, as long as you don't show a bad example of behavior to your younger siblings." As a matter of fact, the husband of my oldest daughter still laughs because the week before she moved out to live with him, we put her on restriction. *grins*
They both went for 2 yr college degrees, then started working. They are both married now, and doing well, and are fine adults. As a measure of the good relationship we maintained with them, BOTH of them are trying to get us to move closer to them.
It sounds like you have a lot of friction with your parents, but until you are able to leave home, unless what is happening is harmful to you, you will probably have to just make the best of it. If the environment is harming you, then you will have to decide when you will be able to leave it.
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