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LadyAngelika -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 3:17:18 PM)
quote: Doesnt the mateernal aspect of having a baby give the Domme a fulfillment of motherhood? I'm a Domme. I do not feel very maternal. I do not want children, at least not at this point in my life and it's a matter of weeks for my 33rd birthday. I don't think that will be changing anytime soon. Do I like kids? Of course. Especially when I can give them back to their parents. Please don't assume that all women want/need to take care of a child. - LA

LadyAngelika -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 3:20:36 PM)
quote: Maniac mentioned that many of us enjoy masculine males, hot bodies in faded, slightly worn/torn, not too tight levi strauss...not diapers. B!! Isn't it lovely to see you in these parts. The Maniac missed you ;) - LA

FelinePersuasion -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 3:27:44 PM)
Well if I took a slave on I'd want him to help me cook and clean and be my driver to events since I can't drive. if you're a baby helpless and dependant on mommy, how do you see cooking and cleaning and driving me around for me? Subs would babies wouldn't. In a domme sub relationship, it's not about the subs wants, his wants are not always very important. It's what the mistress decides sh ould happen. Subs don't have the right to be played with or the right to privacy or the right to be tied up. They get the PRIVILAGES the domme wants to give themThe ab is all about I want I need me me me, I need to be taken care of I need diapers I need....... A domme isn't there to cater your needs you're there to cater TO HER. Subs have way higher expectations of them. I'd be seriously irritated if my sub whined or cried at me because he didn't like my orders, An adult baby has by the nature of the role, the expectation to act in ways babies would. If I told a sub to do something and he didn't feel like doing it right away now because he was coloring, that wouldn't be acceptable. You couldn't honestly realistically expect an AB to be prompt right away yes ma'am because you said so

BabySnuggles -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 4:28:23 PM)
I'm so glad you started this post. A very good Domme friend of mine sent me this and I will respond. First of all, why would anyone say bad things about an adult baby or anyone else for that matter, If they never even tried it. Please dont give me the old, well I have a friend who is an adult baby ,so I know what its like. Thats like someone saying they arent prejudice becase they work with a black people. Give me a brake. That always makes me laugh. Infantilism is so different and not many are open to it or even know much about it. I can just tell you about me and some of my good adult baby friends. I dont think an adult baby is a typical {submissive}, but have a very docile personality and mostly a happy person and a people person. most adult babies are always happy and say hi to strangers waliking down the street just as real babies do. I have been an adult baby since age 3 and hidden it untl age 37. Like i said for me its more of a personality than a fetish. I love this side of me and dont want to hide it or change for anyone. The adult baby friends I have hold great jobs and do a lot in the community. My best friend is an adult baby and has a Mommy,{WIFE}. They are very much in love and he treats her like a queen, the same way I do to anyone I date. We dont just sit around in a wet ,poopy diaper and expect our Domme or Mommy to wait on us hand and foot, OMG, I cant believe some of you actully think that. Its quite the other way around . We communicate better .We show tons more affection to our Domme or partner than most .Most of us go out of our way to do anything for our partner ,I mean anything. I have had 5 relationships in the last 6 years .Four of them were Dommes that never had an adult baby but said they would try it. Those Dommes now only look for adult babies. I am still friends with all of them . for me ,finding the right Mommy is like any vanilla dating would be. There has to be chemestry . Adult babies dont just date someone because they will change our diapers, lol. I hope that answeres some questions about us. If not, I really dont care because I dont have a problem finding women who are open to my adult baby side punkin

LadyAngelika -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 5:53:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BabySnuggles First of all, why would anyone say bad things about an adult baby or anyone else for that matter, If they never even tried it. I didn't see anyone say bad things. Do not confuse "It does not turn me on" to "It's wrong". They are two very distinct statements. And who said they never tried it? No one said whether or not they did. Some of us don't feel the need to justify how we came to a decision of liking something or not. I know that it doesn't meet my needs. If it meets yours, then fantastic! Realise that many of us were responding to the OP who asked: quote: ORIGINAL: lilbabyboy4u I have been searching for a mommy for awhile now and I just dont understand the under meaning of the way the dommes feel about adults who want to be controlled and disciplined as a small child. So if we told him why we weren't attracted to infantilism, then we responded to his question. quote: ORIGINAL: BabySnuggles Please dont give me the old, well I have a friend who is an adult baby ,so I know what its like. Since I believe that I'm the only one who mentioned having a friend who was into infantilism, then I feel this was targeted at me. I have no idea what it's like to be an adult baby. I never claimed knowing. I simply relayed information he gave me about his feelings and search to the OP. I don’t see how that was out of line. In fact, the OP’s response was quote: ORIGINAL: lilbabyboy4u Thank you Julie and LA for the input. If the OP was grateful for the input, I don’t see why you have such an issue with it. quote: Infantilism is so different and not many are open to it or even know much about it. I can just tell you about me and some of my good adult baby friends. I dont think an adult baby is a typical {submissive}, but have a very docile personality and mostly a happy person and a people person. most adult babies are always happy and say hi to strangers waliking down the street just as real babies do. I have been an adult baby since age 3 and hidden it untl age 37. Like i said for me its more of a personality than a fetish. I love this side of me and dont want to hide it or change for anyone. The adult baby friends I have hold great jobs and do a lot in the community. My best friend is an adult baby and has a Mommy,{WIFE}. They are very much in love and he treats her like a queen, the same way I do to anyone I date. We dont just sit around in a wet ,poopy diaper and expect our Domme or Mommy to wait on us hand and foot, OMG, I cant believe some of you actully think that. Its quite the other way around . We communicate better .We show tons more affection to our Domme or partner than most .Most of us go out of our way to do anything for our partner ,I mean anything. I have had 5 relationships in the last 6 years .Four of them were Dommes that never had an adult baby but said they would try it. Those Dommes now only look for adult babies. I am still friends with all of them . for me ,finding the right Mommy is like any vanilla dating would be. There has to be chemestry . Adult babies dont just date someone because they will change our diapers, lol. I hope that answeres some questions about us. If not, I really dont care because I dont have a problem finding women who are open to my adult baby side punkin Thank you for sharing your perspective. It is one that is not often talked about here and it's interesting, at least to me, to read about how others live out their kink. Also, I believe you are quite lucky not having trouble finding a mate. Most humans do. Consider yourself a very lucky man. - LA

FangsNfeet -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 6:58:01 PM)
I myself have been waiting to see a Baby DOM. I'd like to see a profile with a person in a diaper, passaphier, bib, head piece and the quote is "Change my diaper BITCH!" The profile can then go on about needing to be fed, bathed, and clothed. I wonder how many hits the profile would get?

BabySnuggles -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 6:58:27 PM)
Thanks for your input Lady Angelica. I was talking in general how some Dommes or anyone for that matter think they know a certain group of people because they heard of stories or have a friend that is into that . I think your comments were good and respect them

FelinePersuasion -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 7:11:34 PM)
I started out as a adult baby and I have seen adult babies in action. Maybe you're a diffrent breed of adult baby, Baby snuggles, However most are into it to be cared for and nurtured just as a mommy bio baby do. And most doms are not willing to give that level of emotional care.

LadyAngelika -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 7:35:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BabySnuggles Thanks for your input Lady Angelica. I was talking in general how some Dommes or anyone for that matter think they know a certain group of people because they heard of stories or have a friend that is into that . I think your comments were good and respect them I understand. A tip though, if I may, about communicating with people who you just starting to get acquainted with: it helps when you state before hand that you are talking in general and not targeting a person or persons on the boards. Thank you for the kind words regarding my comments. Now just spell my name with a K and we'll be good online buds ;) Welcome to the boards! - LA

eagertoserve1979 -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 7:40:37 PM)
I've been about as close as one can get to caring for real adult babies. I was a developmental trainer in a CILA (community assisted living arrangement) for 4 developmentally disabled adults. They were all technically higher functioning but tow of them needed full care. They couldn't walk, could barely communicate, needed to be fed, clothed, bathed, changed, loved etc. Changing the diaper of a 180ish lb woman that can't assist you isn't fun. I worked there in a 53 hour shift running from friday at 7pm to Sunday night at midnight. That shift drained me more than any of the labour intensive jobs I've had. It took the rest of the week to build up the resolve to be able to do it all over again. I couldn't imagine doing it seven days per week. Take heed of what the others say on here. Truly being a completely dependant adult baby in a long term relationship would not be an act that many, if any, can handle let alone want. edit: I do believe I must have hit the wrong reply button. As can be determined from the content of the message, this was meant to be a general reply to the OP and not FelinePersuasion. Sorry

BabySnuggles -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 7:41:59 PM)
Hi Feline Well as being an adult baby all my life ,and still am an adult baby with many friends that are adult babies, I find that most of us that have lived this way since we were just out of diapers do act differently than adult babies that just tried this one day as a part of D/S I think most of us like to be taken care of and babied . I think it also has to do with the way you were raised . Mostreal babies I see love to help there mommy and are always next to her side trying to make her happy wanting her attention. I feel the same way with a Mmmy Domme

FelinePersuasion -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 7:48:45 PM)
When you hit reply it just replies, even if ytou ment to reply to the original poster. BabySnuggles, most these diaper fetish guys and stuff aren't like true babies that have been that way a long time. That's just it. It's a fetish. most of them want to poop in diapers be wet and horny from the dirtyness of it. They get off on diapers and being messy, some even like to play in the poop, If a person has never come across a really emotionally real and genuinly helpfull ab You can't expect them to know the diffrence. There are exceptions to the rules belive me. I'm an emotionally real inner child. It's not a fetish nor a kink, It's real. So I know how it is to find people who have the wireing to be a full time mommy.

lilbabyboy4u -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/22/2005 10:28:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion When you hit reply it just replies, even if ytou ment to reply to the original poster. BabySnuggles, most these diaper fetish guys and stuff aren't like true babies that have been that way a long time. That's just it. It's a fetish. most of them want to poop in diapers be wet and horny from the dirtyness of it. They get off on diapers and being messy, some even like to play in the poop, If a person has never come across a really emotionally real and genuinly helpfull ab You can't expect them to know the diffrence. There are exceptions to the rules belive me. I'm an emotionally real inner child. It's not a fetish nor a kink, It's real. So I know how it is to find people who have the wireing to be a full time mommy. quote: BabySnuggles, most these diaper fetish guys and stuff aren't like true babies that have been that way a long time. That's just it. It's a fetish. most of them want to poop in diapers be wet and horny from the dirtyness of it. They get off on diapers and being messy, some even like to play in the poop, If a person has never come across a really emotionally Thanks to all the Dommes and Dom and others who gave feedback to this post. Baby snuggles I appreciate you trying to explain what most dont know. I have been an infantilist all my life!! Nursing on a nipple,pacifier,thumb gives me a very good feeling like nothing else. I have all my baby desires and feelings I have never lost them. B Snuggles you are exactly right, A Domme would be very lucky to have an adult baby as their partner. There isnt nothing that we would not do for our mommy Domme!! Doing household chores is a common thing for me I enjoy pleasing my mommy Domme Again B snuggles you are right in saying that we are quiet diff than the ones who found the Ab lifestyle in their adult life. My feelings are very sytrong and real, they are nothing I have to think about, as you said they are my personality. The reason why I am searching and wanting a Domme mommy is because although I have baby feelings and the most happy as a baby I have never enjoyed being the baby I really am with no one but my self. I dont even use my diapers, never have just like the feel of wearing them. When I think of diapers I think of clean,soft,smelling of baby powder not wet and dirty. No baby likes a dirty wet diaper!! Although I am an infantilist I enjoy very much pleasing my Mommy Domme sexual if this is what she wants. We are not helpless,unsexual,grabbing for attention,whining,screaming,,wetting and messing all the time in our diapers. We are love and alot of it also. B Snuggles you are so right when you said that an AB can show and give affection more ofton and with real feeling because their Mommy Domme is very special to them justy as a mommy is to a small baby!! That is what it is all about LOVE!! Love is the greatest gift you can receive on this earth and a babys love the most precious!!!!

BabySnuggles -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/23/2005 4:44:33 AM)
Lilbabyboy Hang in there .It really isnt that hard. The problem I find is when to tell your partner if they don't know what an adult baby is. If you tell them before your first date they might run,thinking of a diaper pail full of dirty diapers and like you said a whining baby. If you don't tell them in the beginning and they are not open too it ,you just wasted a lot of time and energy and weren't upfront with them. I find for me it works best if I meet someone not in the lifestyle . Believe it or not .I get more critisism from people in the lifestyle than the vanilla world. I am not sure but think it might be there Domme personality. They picture us as almost being the Domme and them waiting on us, which I can understand . I usually tell someone I am dating about 2 weeks into the relationship. first I drop hints and then talk to them about it if I feel they are open and willing to listen. It is a slow proccess but well worth it. After they find out what we are all about ,I havent had a girlfriend that put me down or my lifestyle. There favorite word is cute. They are amazed at how many babies are out there and have a very open mind .I can olny tell about myself and some of my friends, but once they find out all the attention we give them and the bond we build with them,I dont have any problems. Lilbabyboy , I find that for everyone that puts us down there is someone else who has open arms. Don't be affraid to tell someone your dating,or don't not date someone because you are affraid to tell them who you are. also I just wanted to say hi to my new friend ,Lady Angelika. Sorry about spelling you name wrong Lady Angelika. snuggles

LadyAngelika -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/23/2005 4:49:24 AM)
quote: B Snuggles you are exactly right, A Domme would be very lucky to have an adult baby as their partner. There isnt nothing that we would not do for our mommy Domme!! While I have no reason to doubt that you would be devoted to a Domme, I think that your statement is very general and not applicable in all cases. Not every Domme would be lucky to have an adult baby as their partner. Now I know others have tried to make you understand this point, and I'm going to try one last time. It is a question of matching desires. I am not so pompous as to think that I am the perfect Domme or that any submissive would be lucky to have me as a Domme. I'm sure I would not be a right fit with many. That said, even though my personal opinion (and others of course) is that I'm a good Domme, I would never make such a bold statement as "a sub would be very lucky to have me as their Domme". Some subs sure, but you see the issue here? I know you didn't say any but you seem to be trying to justify a whole lot why you are a good adult baby sub. Let me tell you that there is very little that my boy or my sub would not do for me. So I think this is a qualifier that you can attribute to someone who is devoted to someone and not to someone who is an adult baby. quote: Love is the greatest gift you can receive on this earth and a babys love the most precious!!!! This is a perfect example of what I'm talking about. Just because you chose to be in a power dynamic where you take on the role of a baby, doesn't make your love to your Domme "the most precious" kind of love. That is a judgement that has no basis. It might be in your perspective but it certainly is not in mine. I think you need to realise that you are ok and I am ok. It's an assertive stance that is neither passive nor aggressive but rather breeds tolerance. - LA

diaperedbaby -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/23/2005 6:57:09 AM)
Interesting post with great opinions from everyone. I think this fetish is greatly misunderstood. In one breath you can have a infantalist who wants to be a toddler and cared for and their fetish revolves around this. In the other breath, you have a slave who likes to be diapered as part of punishments. There are many different perspectives, and I think that is why so many different opinions. Some dommes use diapers as a chastity device. Some have suggested that the domme is doing all the caregiving. Not likely to happen in a 24/7 situation. Who says a domme has change any diapers? Wearing,using them, and changing them are all different items. Many women enjoy the nuturing side but may be repulsed by changing someone. So you compromise. I think this applies to just about any fetish in some form or fashion. Again, I know of some that enjoy this fetish 24/7. For me it is a fetish that I enjoy on ocassions. It can be enjoyed with many of the other "regular" fetishes. I have many fetishes that I enjoy and don't limit it to just one. Babysnuggles comment is right on target. Most women in the vanilla world are receptive to the AB world than people in the scene. Strange but true. I think that is because in the "vanilla" world the focus is more on the person than on specific acts. Just an observation based on my own experiences. diaperedbaby

BeachMystress -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/23/2005 12:13:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion You're not listening, you're jus having them explan and then giving but but but but's back Thank you! I was just sitting here getting angrier and angrier at his continued not listening after every one spent so much time explaining to him why we don't desire an adult baby as a partner. He's not here to listen or learn. He is here to whine and complain and try to convince us that what we want is really to serve him and his paraphilia. quote: ORIGINAL: BabySnuggles First of all, why would anyone say bad things about an adult baby or anyone else for that matter I went back and re read, and I don't see where anyone said anything bad about being an adult baby. We stated why WE DON'T LIKE IT. If you feel that our stating we do not like it and will not do it as saying bad things about ABs, you must spend your life feeling like everyone who doesn't agree with you is picking on you. No matter how much the adult babies involved in this discussion try to tell us how it should be for us, I read Alienmindsinc's post about being both a Dom and a Daddy to ABs, and he clearly indicates it is different. What he says about it exactly fits with my impressions and ideas about being a Parent to an AB. I feel the ABs on here have some sort of tunnel vision and are being willing to only see it from their point of view and how they feel it should be. They're not bothering to read what is being said, but only what they want to see and hear. One relationship is the submissive waiting on the Dom/me hand and foot. The Domme isn't expected to DO anything, other than play with the sub if s/he chooses. While most Dominants do things in the relationship, it is because s/he wants to, not because they have to take care of a dependant. The Dominant and their needs direct the relationship. The AB relationship is about taking care of the baby. It is simple as that. No matter what the baby feels or does for the Parent, the baby is the center and who must be cared for and catered to, just as a real child. I do not care if the baby does a million things for his Mommy/Daddy; he is not expected to and those things are bonus sweetnesses. The baby and his needs/desires direct the relationship.

BeachMystress -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/23/2005 12:17:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeachMystress I feel the ABs on here have some sort of tunnel vision and are being willing to only see it from their point of view and how they feel it should be. They're not bothering to read what is being said, but only what they want to see and hear. This does not include diaperedbaby, as his post was not here when I started answering.

lilbabyboy4u -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (6/23/2005 6:47:00 PM)
To all the Dommes.Doms,and Mistresses Maams that applied to my post:) I have never said I was a sub/slave and all I have gotten mostly is being told no Domme would ever consider having an adult baby because it is too much work:) I am not the perfect adult baby but I truly am not a sub/slave. I was just asking if someone could tell me the differance of an AB and an sub/slave. I enjoy everything there is about being an adult baby but that doesnt mean I do not enjoy an adult life. What I am trying to say is I have a babys heart and feelings toward people and have a strong need for a mommys love and parental control in my life. The very first posts said something very true, this is nothing new to me I have lived it and it makes up who I really am. I am an infantilist, not a sub/slave, and I understand why the adult baby isnt accepted in the scene of bdsm. I thought giving up complete control to the Domme and being dependant on her only and being obedient as a child at all times was something a Domme wanted. I do appreciate all what has been said and all who wrote upon this subject . Being an infantilist is very real, the desires are very real . enuff said:)

Pinkpottiepants -> RE: adult babies--- real and very much a lifestyle!! (1/21/2006 5:57:08 AM)
How can so many Mistresses know so much about adult babies, know what they have or don't have to offer and how they will or won't help them in their life, when they've never even tried it first hand. Never taken the time to even open their mind to what it is all about. First of all, most adult babies if not all, are not looking for anything thing close to 24/7. They are just as submissive and devoted as a man that enjoys being bound and gagged, or kept at the feet of his Mistress. A man who is bound and gaged can't be left unattended, he requires the care and attention of his Mistress as much or more than an AB. An adult baby can clean, cook, care for and provide for, just as good as anyone else in the alternate lifestyle realm. The will devote themselves to you at least as well as any with other choices of life style and they will love you more than even you thought was even possible. As with any fetish or life style, a true submissive can and will only do what is asked and expected by his Mistress. They don't become more dependant or demanding, just because they are wearing a diaper. They will however cuddle when given the chance. pinkpottiepants The first reason that is often given for most who speak against AB play, is that they don't want anything to do with wet or messy diapers. That's fine, a Mistress can choose to toilet train her AB, keeping him in diapers just as a reminder of his place. She could even have him change himself, if she wanted to have him use his diapers. It is no different than enama play. The Mistress can have her submissive deal the mess on his own, she doesn't have to deal with unpleasent messes.

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