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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/17/2007 2:18:22 PM   
bschwimmer


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ORIGINAL: Mystique567

I am an exhibitionist, I really think I would miss public play.


i would love to play with you in public esp if you wore those sun glasses

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/17/2007 2:36:57 PM   
GhitaAmati


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Status: offline 		When I first got into this lifestyle, ALL of my play was public..mainly because I was young enough to be living at home with mom still. I enjoy the public play now, not so much of being an exihbitionist, but because it gives us the opportunity to use toys and equipment that arent available to us at home. I also enjoy it because my Sir is still a novice when it comes to scene play, and he gets to talk with and work with other Doms in our area and learn new stuff. If I had no other choice but private play..of course I would continue. It doesnt change the dynamics between Sir and I, only the equipment and space we have to use.

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/17/2007 5:52:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like public and private play for different reasons.  Public play tends to have a more sadistic component to it and is not often sexual due to the rules of the party.  Private play while it is sadistic as well it also has a sexual element to it.  Sex is often involved in our private play and that just leads the energy in different directions.

If I had to give up public play it would not be that big of a deal for me though I get a huge rush out of it.  My rush comes not from just the play but also from the reactions of people who watch our play.  The best part about public play for me is to feel the energy of a place and the peole playing around me.  Many times the energy is rather flat and it doesn't add anything to our play but the times that it isn't have been incredible. 

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/17/2007 8:42:53 PM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		I love public play - yes my sub side especially is an exhibitionist, I love having more furniture to use (I miss the medieval rack from Perth!), I am also a voyeur so love watching others, I miss the social side of it, the energy of being in a group of accepting people, watching and learning other techniques, and also that feeling of being totally intimate with my partner in the midst of a crowd, that is an awesome experience.  As a Domme I actually don't enjoy private play quite as much as public, I don't feel as creative or as relaxed privately as I do publicly, somehow it feels a bit wierd to be in a Dungeon playspace without others around! As a sub i like the sex that usually follows private play, but still have a heightened buzz during the scene itself when it's in public, rather than private.

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/17/2007 9:15:39 PM   
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How private?  I play with other people, so would I no longer be able to play with my friends?  Even if that meant there's more than 2 of us in the room?

Well, I guess my intention with the question was that it just be you and your significant other(s).  So, if you're in a committed poly relationship, it would include you and the others.
...luci

Holy frak...  That's a pisser.

No, I wouldn't stop completely, but it would sure put a huge crimp in my style.  Public, shmublic!  I'm a play slut.  I play with damn near anyone who wants to, public with an audience is good, private, just whoever I'm playing with and janey acting as my spotter if she's not the one I'm playing with... doesn't matter to me.  Have toybag, will travel, NSA, sadist available for negotiated scenes.

And you want me to give that up, and only play with janey?

She'd leave me!  *LOL*  Because I like to play way harder than she does.

Nuff said!

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/19/2007 10:41:17 PM   
bettamorphasis


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Status: offline 		are humans validated by others??? ... or are we but illusions in our own mind seeking reinforcemnt in the minds ,hearts and desire of others???
do we magically materialize in the physical when in the company of others... and retract into an abstract being when  alone
personally... if i could blend into the night and obtain the "cloak of invisibility" i would feel safer than in the womb.... but this is no option for me.... i hope at least my misery is entertaining
RE exhibitionism + transsexuality ( sorry for deviating)

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 4:37:36 AM   
MasterMagnus321


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... it's like going to watch a play, only to find the cast has deserted and you and your fellow ticket holders are assigned starring roles ...

What a fantastic analogy!  Thank you, Jasmyn.  That is a powerful image...

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 5:38:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: slaveluci



.....if you could only do it in private and never again in public, how would you feel about that?  Would it affect how exciting it is for you?  Would you still be willing to engage in everything you do publicly (and enjoy it every bit as much) if only you and your partner where present in a private setting? 

I'm very curious about this because I know there are many who are exhibitionists and who love doing what they do for others to see. 


i have the exhibitionist streak...and I loved being shown off in public, and have played in front of others...it was...scary at first, but then, i found, it was very erotic and well....fun.  We/we don't do this all the time but when We/we have, it was enjoyable.

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 5:49:33 AM   
m0rgan


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Status: offline 		my 2 cents;

those that are either easy on the eye, or happy with their appearance tend towards exhibitionism. the converse is also true.


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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 6:02:24 AM   
imthatacheyouhav


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ORIGINAL: Alumbrado

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May I ask why?  I'm really curious about the "draw" people feel to use public dungeons and play areas. 


Do you have a 20 foot rig, a working medieval rack, a spinning cross, a 500 watt sound system, professional lighting, a vacuum bed, electric chair, waxing table, power hoists, 30 feet of headroom, and so forth in your private play space?

If so, then you probably don't need to attend a public facility.

If not, then why are you expecting other people to justify such an obvious choice?



Hold the phone there sparky....she wasnt asking anybody to justify ANYTHING...she was RESPECTFULLY asking how others feel about this subject.


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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 6:11:36 AM   
Alumbrado


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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 6:50:07 AM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		Simply can't get the combined effect of 40 people's energies buncing around the room at home. LOL

Seriously though, I wouldn't want to make the choice, but if forced I'd play anyway it woud simply be different.
Short list of things I'd miss badly if I had to only play privatly:
Energy of all those folks playing
Learning new techniques hands on from othe Dominants/ sadists
Teaching new techniques to other .....
Community ( a real sense of family often, including the cousins you are embarrased to claim, LOL)
Activism ( I'd find a new outlet for this, but it's easier and more fun to raise money for causes with fellow kinky people)
Space ( I love working with longer bullwhips 6-8 ft, and the house simply isn't designed to allow for them, additionally equipment that I can't afford/ fit into my home)
A safer for all space to play with/ meet new folks (meeting and playing for the first few times in a "public space" avoids some of the more extreem safety problems encountered when playing for the first time alone. Built in safe calls, safewords more likely to be respected, can be fairy sure you can leave when ready to leave, and for the Dominants witnesses that the play was consensual LOL...


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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 6:58:15 AM   
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if you could only do it in private and never again in public, how would you feel about that?


Might never get to play


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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 7:31:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		I feed off the energy created by public scening.

I love tying a submissive up and spanking her, flogging her, paddling her...on a bench designed for that purpose.  I feel a crackling of enhancement of power when I hear the murmurs of those watching us as I do this and the changes in those murmurs when I bring out the Serpent's Bite and bring it down on her ass a few times, leaving that interesting double-stripe that stands out, even on already-reddening, rounded flesh.

If you, and your submissive, are into humiliation...then you know the thrill that results when you whisper in her ear "You are such a hot slut...you have such a pretty ass".  Now, imagine the enhancement of that thrill when, during a scene such as the above, you grip that submissive's hair and whisper in her ear "You are such a hot slut...and everyone here now knows that.  Such a sweet ass...and I am not the only one lusting after it, given the looks it is getting from those watching us right now".

I don't have stocks in my bedroom...nor a complicated sound system, nor strobe/stage lights.  I am thinking of building a St. Andrews Cross but where do I put it when not in use?  At home, I don't have others to talk to after/before a scene and discuss what just happened in my scene or in other scenes around us.  I don't get to satisfy the aspect of my voyeuristic nature that enjoys watching others engaged in scenes.

I love doing w.i.i.t.w.d..  I enjoy the mental aspects...as suggested...as much as the physical aspects.  The way it is done publicly, as Simply Michael and Merc noted, is different than what is done at home but given my love for it, I would still do so.  Some aspects would change but perhaps...if restricted to home only...then some might come into play more often; dressing up more at home, for example.

So...no, I would not quit doing what I do...

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 7:46:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		The reason that I enjoy public play so much is because I'm not an exhibitionist. I tend to be a relatively shy, quiet person, and doing public play forces me to be someone else entirely. At the beginning I'm nervous, a mess, knowing people are watching, etc. But as the scene moves on I stop caring that others are watching, what they may be thinking, etc. So what starts off as humiliation turns completely into something very liberating. I love that feeling. That being said, yes, I could easily live without it and confine play to a private setting, but I would definitely miss it and the different feeling it evokes....
 
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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 4:38:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sublimelysensual
The reason that I enjoy public play so much is because I'm not an exhibitionist. I tend to be a relatively shy, quiet person, and doing public play forces me to be someone else entirely. At the beginning I'm nervous, a mess, knowing people are watching, etc. But as the scene moves on I stop caring that others are watching, what they may be thinking, etc. So what starts off as humiliation turns completely into something very liberating

Wow.  Very interesting answer.  I believe you are the first poster to say you love it because you aren't an exhibitionist.  Most of them have said they love it because they are.  I'm definitely not one either so I can really relate to what you're saying here.  Perhaps it would have the same effect on me?  Who knows.  Thanks for the food for thought and the different perspective..........luci

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 4:41:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks to each and every one of you who have answered so thoughtfully thus far.  I was really curious about this and you have taken it in the spirit with which it was asked and really given me sincere, personal answers.  I have learned alot and really see different perspectives on this now.  Thanks again.......luci

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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/20/2007 6:32:25 PM   
sublimelysensual


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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: sublimelysensual
The reason that I enjoy public play so much is because I'm not an exhibitionist. I tend to be a relatively shy, quiet person, and doing public play forces me to be someone else entirely. At the beginning I'm nervous, a mess, knowing people are watching, etc. But as the scene moves on I stop caring that others are watching, what they may be thinking, etc. So what starts off as humiliation turns completely into something very liberating

Wow.  Very interesting answer.  I believe you are the first poster to say you love it because you aren't an exhibitionist.  Most of them have said they love it because they are.  I'm definitely not one either so I can really relate to what you're saying here.  Perhaps it would have the same effect on me?  Who knows.  Thanks for the food for thought and the different perspective..........luci


Part of the reason I posted was because I hadn't really seen that perspective, and it surprised me, to be honest. I love being taken out of my comfort zone, even though it may not be something I would choose to do on my own. At any rate, you're very welcome, and if you should decide to try, I'll be interested to hear what you thought : )
 
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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/22/2007 4:18:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterMagnus321

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... it's like going to watch a play, only to find the cast has deserted and you and your fellow ticket holders are assigned starring roles ...


What a fantastic analogy!  Thank you, Jasmyn.  That is a powerful image...


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RE: Hypothetical Question................ - 7/25/2007 2:33:01 PM   
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