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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed

When it comes to seduction, many think they are in control when they are doing the seducing...but in reality, the person who is being seduced, really has the power, for they have incited the seducer.

I don't think that any power dynamic is lost in the right type of relationship. If you do not want to assume any type of power, even while being submissive, then do not act out seduction scenarios if you cannot handle the feelings afterwards, of having been in control.

As a submissive, I feel power when I seduce and have no issue whatsoever with losing my submissive mindset.

Thank You, good points made here SexyRed. Do you ever feel as though you
could in fact switch, as you are comfortable with feeling the power of seduction?

chia* (the pet)

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Do you? Have you? Would you? Could you? Should you?

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Given that a fair share of M/s, D/s relationships do in fact include a sexual connect, what are your thoughts and/or experiences related to the subject?

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Does it or doesn't it shift the Authority Dynamic when a submissive possesses the knowledge and ability to sexually seduce a Dominant?

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Can such be used for an Authority reversal with the submissive becoming the aggressive purveyor to the pleasures of the flesh, controlling the pace, allowance, and intensity? Thoughts? Experience?

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Good for you, you want and get sex, it's available on almost every street corner
in America, along with smug.

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Now, this was about dynamic and power exchange
in relation to submissives seducing Dominants. Anything to add along those lines?

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Do you ever feel a sense of control and power over your Dominant whilst in the
throws of all that glorious "sex" you enjoy? Do you? 

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ORIGINAL: slaverosebeauty

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Do you? Have you? Would you? Could you? Should you?

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

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Given that a fair share of M/s, D/s relationships do in fact include a sexual connect, what are your thoughts and/or experiences related to the subject?

I try to seduce MJ every chance I get, heck, I am attempting to right now, but He is working, so I won't really bother Him. When we are together, hang on, I will do my best, in the most subtle or ways normally, its fun. If He wants me to stop, He will stop me. I look at it as part of my 'job' to seduce MJ and to make Him happy. I know other girls like Him, He is SEXXXY as hell, even my best friend said He is 'hot' and she an I have different tastes. Seduction is part of the 'romance' aspect of my relationship with MJ, just like Him opening doors for me is part of Him taking care of me and aserting His authority and that of a gentleman; its part of our relationship.  

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Does it or doesn't it shift the Authority Dynamic when a submissive possesses the knowledge and ability to sexually seduce a Dominant?

Flirting aka seduction is what it is, its a way to express interest. If me trying to seduce or flirt with MJ shifted the dynamic of our relationship, then I would be topping from the bottom, which is NOT gonna fly. Part of being submissive IS knowing how to seduce and flirt with your partner; how to get His motor going and to make Him happy.  

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Can such be used for an Authority reversal with the submissive becoming the aggressive purveyor to the pleasures of the flesh, controlling the pace, allowance, and intensity? Thoughts? Experience?

It can; it doesn't have to be. In my relationship its not that way. Seducing MJ is relaxing and its fun. It keeps Him on His toes and makes our relationship and exciting. Seducing MJ doesn't have to be for physical reasons, it can be mentally, psychologically, etc. Just like every other aspect of M/s, its multi-dimentional.   

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Good for you, you want and get sex, it's available on almost every street corner
in America, along with smug.

Pay for sex? I would never. Get paid maybe, but pay? Never. Too good at what I do.

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Now, this was about dynamic and power exchange
in relation to submissives seducing Dominants. Anything to add along those lines?

I did. Apprently you weren't pleased with the answer - doms, in fact, allowed to say "fuck off, I don't want to fuck you", which I respect.

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Do you ever feel a sense of control and power over your Dominant whilst in the
throws of all that glorious "sex" you enjoy? Do you? 

Sex is sex and orgasms are orgasms. I can get them anywhere I want. I don't mean to cheapen the experience, but it's the truth. I have no lack of potential sex partners. It's just not a power thing for me, save that if someone doesn't want to have sex with me I'm not going to be in a relationship with them. Just a waste of time.


I don't control Valyraen, he controls me. That doesn't mean I can't get him hard and get him  to want to have sex though. I don't control the sex I have with him, but I still get sex. Many times he has been hard as a rock and told me to bugger off. Many times he hasn't. You didn't ask if seduction always succeeded, just if we ever had.  Edited for spelling

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


So you yourself never feel an exchange of control while seducing your
Dominant, fair enough, i hear you, thanks for sharing.

chia* (the pet) 

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


So you yourself never feel an exchange of control while seducing your
Dominant, fair enough, i hear you, thanks for sharing.

chia* (the pet) 

Since all he has to do is say "no" and I stop, it's kinda hard to feel in control.

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ORIGINAL: ocilla

Wow chia so he just rolled completely over huh?  I mean this guy just kind of dropped  into a subspace himself and let you be the "doer" so to speak?  Talk about a mind fuck!

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Yeah, that sounds good.

But I just had a little powwow about this and was told that I do more toe-curling than quivering and trembling.

Maybe we should do a thread: "How has Lam come in your presence?"

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ORIGINAL: Lorddandmaster
Nice cleavage!
Do they look like that in person?

(in reply to Lordandmaster)

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: sublimelysensual

I think I would be uncomfortable completely directing the situation..however..licking and kissing, teasing, suckling until He couldn't take it anymore,  grabbed me by the hair, pushed me against a wall and well..you know...that's a totally different story. *grinz*

Nice scenerio sublimelysensual, now imagine that he doesn't grab you by
the hair and doesn't push you against the wall and well.....doesn't. How
would you feel about the dynamic of such missing from the scenerio?

chia* (the pet) 

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ORIGINAL: camille65

This question confuses me on a few things. 'Seduction' seems to be a negative thing here which I don't understand. For us it is a mutual feeling.
I also don't understand how my teasing R into bed is making the dynamic shift, it never shifts.
Ugh I hate questions I totally don't get! I feel obtuse but then again it is only 6:30 am.

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ORIGINAL: onmykneesforhim

I would really then have to ask "Is that great curved *trunk* of yours, also real?
I will show you those if you show me yours.
hg

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Yeah, that sounds good.

But I just had a little powwow about this and was told that I do more toe-curling than quivering and trembling.

Maybe we should do a thread: "How has Lam come in your presence?"

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ORIGINAL: Lorddandmaster
Nice cleavage!
Do they look like that in person?

The Secduction Continues Unabated, Big Breasts 2 Dominants 0

chia* (the pet)



< Message edited by chiaThePet -- 7/18/2007 6:25:51 AM >

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Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to onmykneesforhim)

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Dear Ocilla,

Thank You Ma'am, my queries come following a recent experience where i felt
the shift of control swing to me and i took advantage of the situation, yet i do
not find complete satisfaction in possessing that authority now that the afterglow
has subsided. i sincerely wish to hear the views of other submissives whom can
recognize themselves in the scenerio. Thank You again.

chia* (the pet)