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RE: Agressive Dom - 7/18/2007 9:41:09 PM

TennesseeRain

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In my opinion, actions such as these not the actions of a Dominant

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RE: Agressive Dom - 7/18/2007 10:12:44 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear angelsub642, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In reading your original post aka OP; I really didn't see anything that showed any respect. It really needs to be said, that if someone cannot keep their hands off you and honor your feelings about saying 'No' at that phase; they don't get further. This goes with agressive men who claim they're submissive/slaves but--I feel handled like some product/goods--nothing that says via behavior--respect. Attitude and behaviours that demonstrate respect is important to me.

Only individuals can answer to their 'true' intentions on dealing with other human beings. However, no matter how many precautions you may have in place; home is someplace that should remain your sanctuary--safe house. Having strangers to the house is risky. There is no buffer left when things go wrong. Only after trust has been established would I even think to have people over. Trust is earned.

Too often we, in a general sense, need a reminder that stripped of titles, labels and such--we're dealing with people and their different motives. A dominant isn't bullet proof when it comes to taking the bait to meet a submissive man or woman; a gun or a gang of people laying in wait is an equalizer and more if motives are evil and the results foul. Anybody can be over powered. There was a rash of Dominants being robbed after being lead to hotels and motels by so called 'slaves.' Of course, who wants to call and report that?? -- Protect yourself, keep home as a safe haven and follow your gut instincts.

Just the fact that this particular male Dominant couldn't honor 'no' would have been the only red flag I would need, as to leave and get away.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Agressive Dom - 7/19/2007 6:19:13 PM

JasonF

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Hm, my dominant doesn't stop when I tell him to. I wonder if this makes him not true?

You tell me to stop. I wonder if that makes you not true.

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RE: Agressive Dom - 7/20/2007 7:43:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: TheChastiser

if it helps, the link below takes you to where you can read some of the suggested safety rules for meets etc. they are only suggestions, but may help towards avoiding a nasty situation.

http://www.fetbid.com/chastisersworld/chastisersworld/D_s_Lifestyle/d_s_lifestyle.html

Mike

Thank you i will definitely look at them

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RE: Agressive Dom - 7/20/2007 7:44:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Oh, another thing I meant to say: Am I the only person who thinks it's ludicrous that the OP is asking whether all doms are date rapists?

It's not like I'd say all women are two-timing cunts just because I had an ex-girlfriend who wandered off the reservation.

i'm only inquiring about some of the Doms out there

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RE: Aggressive Dom - 7/25/2007 7:35:06 PM

MasterMataeo

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you never should have let him come over,, but there is a thing called a safety word,, and I respect that word to the fullest ,, it is the way out for my sub/slave it says STOP and doesn't use the word ,, for at times " no or stop " don't mean it ,,
and so i require mine to have one just for that reason ,, it lets me know her limit
and when it is said all comes to a stop ,,,

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RE: Aggressive Dom - 7/25/2007 10:14:10 PM

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I am marketing a new device called a "Safeword Collar of Protection." It is a ring of det cord wrapped in black leather with a remote detonator. The submissive requires that the new "stranger" dominant wear the patented "Safeword Collar of Protection" during those anxiety causing first few meetings while trust is "created". The remote detonator is cleverly hidden in the custom made buttplug that all new dominants seem to require their prospective submissives wear. In case of emergency the submissive simply squeezes her ass tight and BOOM, no more fake wannabe dom! We are working out some bugs, random gas seemed to set a few off by mistake and of course anal leakage is an ongoing problem.

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RE: Agressive Dom - 7/25/2007 10:38:50 PM

AZDarkKnight

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A simple rule of them... "if He/She asks to come back to your place, then say no..." if you are ready for things to move further, then you make the invite.
Unfortunately, Doms arent mind reader (at least Im not ... yet..) and depending on what you had talked about previously, he may have seen an invite back to your place as a green light. Yes, I know NO means NO....but some can see that as part of the play (Ive lost count on the number of profiles Ive read where the danger is what they say does it for them).
The only advice that I can say (as I am sure has been repeated many times already), is to be more wary and use your instincts more before making any progressive move such as an invite back to your place.

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