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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 5:09:52 AM   
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Why is it that in every thread I post in, I end up defending someone I first had to disagree with? 

Thetamymyjo has made no affront to rationale or decency, in my opinion, with that comment everyone seems to be fixating on.   If you want to understand something empirically (say, to keep it from happening again, perhaps), then you're going to need to look at the fine details.   No one is saying American slavery was not brutal.   These people were attacked in their homes, torn from their loved ones, their society, everything they'd known and everything they'd been, marched brutally and in the most painfully restricted fashion accross unforgiving terrain, a treck only a portion of them would finish, ultiamtely to be almost always then parted forever from what reamining relations they had near them, crammed with literally little more than inches to spare in terms of movement into the hulls of ships where they would spend several months breathing nothing but their own smell in the most hideous of conditions and the reek of disease -- yet another large portion of them perish -- until those "lucky" enough to survive this voyage and its certain permaneant psychological and physical trauma, the "lucky" survivors are unpacked and subjected to every conceivable inspection publically until they are sold, frequently branded, and then sent off to lives of the most degrading servitude and unending toil, with violations of their persons and their dignities a given and little to no control in how close they stay to those desperate connections they forge amongst themselves.  Yeah, I'd say that's pretty f****** bad.   And I don't think tammyjo fails to realize how bad.  

But does that mean there aren't relevant questions to ask yet?  Like, for example, what was the slave's life expectancy after arriving in these hellish circumstances?  The slave markets south of the British colonies/later America, because of the nature of the work (which was incredibly risky) and the value of the product (silver, in many cases), led to, yes, I'll say it, even worse circumstances - if you're looking at the slave's chances of survival (which were essentially nil in the majority of these cases).   It should be regarded as neither pointless nor inflammatory to talk about these things, when due respect is observed, especially when discussing topics to which such facts are relevant.   Thetammyjo was mistaken in some of the facts she orginally presented,  but I see nothing in her remarks which suggests disrespect or a lack of appreciation for the fact that American slavery was beastly in nature and a blight in the country's history.

Edited to add:  Hmmm....Defintely off-topic now...

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 7:42:42 AM   
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New World slavery was based on two things almost unheard of in other and earlier types of slavery.

The first was it's overwhelming economic basis. In most of the world and throughout most of history slave owning itself was a status symbol, a sign of wealth or civic right. Any economic gain was secondary for most slave owners though there were "industries" and farms where slaves were fundamental. Often that was consider a bit vulgar at least in the eyes of those who left behind evidence.

The second difference is who is enslaved. New World slavery became focused on issues of race while most slavery in the rest of the world is not about what you look like or where you are from but simply a matter of law, social relationships, or birth. This racial component was emphasized in much of the law and in the writings of slave owners -- not the case at all for most of the world.



This is somewhat anachronistic. While I agree that it is the economic component that can be said to, more than anyhting else, establish how slaves are regarded and treated, it is absolutely untrue that such conditions failed to prevail for cultures prior to "New World" colonization. Look above and you will see a small list of cultures that employed slaves in exactly the type of industries you descibe -- a marginal list indeed compared to all of the powers in history who have made liberal use of slaves in their economies (primarily in exactly the kind of agricultural function that American plantations used them in). Likewise, while you are correct that the systems used by European colonial powers in the Americas and elsewhere were highly racialized, this too was not without precedent (many other cultures formerly based systems of slavery upon phenotype), though I will grant that modern systems exhibit more of these race-based features.


Have you studied slavery across time and cultures?

I have. New World slavery is unique.

Slavery in Europe, Asia, Africa, and if you wish to be even more divided, the Middle East were never based on what someone looked like or coupled with concepts of "blood" so that the New World gets laws dictating who is a slave based on race not on the gender/sex of a parent or the social relationships between groups. Those groups might see a huge difference between them but that's related to social role not some idea of racial superiority.

Economics was very very rarely the primary drive in earlier slave owning cultures where status was the primary drive. It was very common in most slave owning cultures for a slave owner to actually be in financial difficulty in order to support a large number of slaves. Most farms were self sufficient and if they were lucky they might have extra to sell at market. Farms could focus on one trade good but then they had to get the necessities elsewhere cutting into any profit.

Things like mining were often done by criminals rather than traditional slaves in the Near East and ancient Europe. By and large it was a death sentence so a traditional slave finding himself in a mine was likely because he pissed off a previous owner too much. The salt trade in Africa used slaves and life was cheap there but again this was a minor number of slaves compared to other types of slaves on the continent.

But in the New World farm work was the primarily use of slaves and their economic value was of primary concern.

The percentage of slaves used in specific roles is very different between New World and other slave owning cultures.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 7:50:55 AM   
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***Off topic alert

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America slavery was decent compared to slavery southward in places like the Caribbean and Brazil.



I'm sure you didn't mean any offense by this. . . but slavery in America was pretty fucking bad. Maybe it wasn't the *worst* case scenario. . . .but I don't think that the word "decent" and "American slavery" really belong in the same sentence. That is kinda like saying: "Sally's rape was mild compared to Peggy's because Peggy got fucked up the ass and Sally was only fucked in the puss."


Did you notice the word "compared" above?

I wasn't making an objective statement about slavery in the USA only in comparison to Caribbean and Brazilian slavery.

We can argue morals if you want about slavery but I'm a historian and I look at the issue of historical slavery in comparison to other cultures and places. Applying modern ethics to the past only gets in our way of understanding the past.

IF I'm going to apply my modern ethics I'd say the worse part is the racial component of New World slavery. You can always find examples of horrible treatment of people throughout time but when it is combined with ideas of racial or gender/sex superiority I find that the negative consequences last for generations even after slavery is no longer legal. The negatives become part of "blood" or "nature" and are therefore very difficult to over come with education, political status, economic status, or even skill.



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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 7:53:54 AM   
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greetings

tammyjo how many books have you read on the american life pf slavery ? you have said the wildest thing i have ever heard (amercian slavery was decent) one story one old man was left to sit and ate as he sit by maggots decent oh yes so cool and woman who had babies after baby until their utuers fell out they die of either infection or heart broken for the childern she had taken from her. the lighter slave had i the worst the mistress who husband had sslept with the slave woman or girl . each time the wife would look at the childer she would see her husband face in each child, sometimes the mistress could not have childern. she was so bitter she would whip either or both to death. no tammyjo it was never decent. you should read up on some really good books , i know if you have no ideal what happen read and learn, it is misconception the ligther you were you were made more comfortable no they had it worse if the master and yes he was her father did not try to bed you the mistress was spitting in the pot so you could not have a drop of food i read alot . or when you fed the dog if he did not want it they made you eat it . there is a very good book call A SLAVE GIRL LIFE i do not know who wrote it i shoulc know that at least but that is one book i will never forget




mons


I've read a lot of books and taken quite few classes on slavery throughout the world.

Apparently you too didn't see the word "compare" in my sentence but just reacted on a gut level.

How many books have you read, Mons, about slavery in any other part of the world or in other time periods? Have they been only fiction or did you also look at primary documents?

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 7:55:00 AM   
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We can argue morals if you want about slavery but I'm a historian and I look at the issue of historical slavery in comparison to other cultures and places. Applying modern ethics to the past only gets in our way of understanding the past.



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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 7:56:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Caius

Why is it that in every thread I post in, I end up defending someone I first had to disagree with?

relevant. Thetammyjo was mistaken in some of the facts she orginally presented, but I see nothing in her remarks which suggests disrespect or a lack of appreciation for the fact that American slavery was beastly in nature and a blight in the country's history.


I would strongly disagree that I am mistaken in my facts. This is one of my fields of research and interest in history. I have studied it in Africa, Asia, the New East, the New World, and Europe across thousands of years.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:02:12 AM   
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I see the comment.  Rolls eyeballs, and wonders why some people are on this planet. 
I am in the same situation. My profile states what I am seeking. 
I have been approached by African American Subs refering to themselves in the context of racial slurs which I told them off for doing so.
I could not strike an African American Male.  I think it is because I was raised in a traditional Southern family where there was one particular ugly word I heard all my life.  
For the op, you may want to get to know the person you are going to scene with first.   Friends first in this case.  That is how I am going to proceed with it if I can ever find one.  
Wish you the best.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:20:34 AM   
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But, this seems to be different, or perhaps just more ingrained. Maybe one day I'll get to the point of 'fuck it', but I'd prefer it to happen sooner, rather than later...


Simple enough ... start low, go slow. One step at a time.

Find some way you can do something, even a single act, to a willing partner. Then find one that is willing to be on the receiving end of that. Wait until you feel ready to do it again. Repeat until it's comfortable. Step up one notch, but still inside what you can manage to do. Lather, rinse, repeat.

Making contact with a couple where there is a black sub may be a good idea. If you're uncomfortable with even others doing it, you will want to expose yourself, slowly. Don't move on to doing things until you're okay with being around the dynamic in the first place. Get to know them and get comfortable with them.

The trick is to always stay exactly one step outside your comfort zone, until that zone is where you want it to be. This one step should be a small one. Basically, you have a comfort zone, a discomfort zone, and an aversion zone, so to speak. Staying close to the boundary between the two first, barely on the discomfort side of it, moves the boundary slowly. The further in, the faster. But entering the aversion zone will put you back at least one step, sometimes back to square one, so you never want to go close to that second boundary.

Hope this helps.


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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:25:04 AM   
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Slavery as practiced in and around the era that led to the civil war bears no relations to slavery as it has existed from time immemorial.


Good point. For instance, "debt slavery" has been a literal term at many times.

quote:


Had the wanton waste and destruction of humans as it was practiced in those days never happened, I think slavery would be legal and widespread today.


~nod~

Pity the baby went out with the bathwater.


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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:29:36 AM   
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To the OP (I have GOT to stop just typing in that little box at the end of the page!!):

A question for you - please don't take this as an offense. Are you more worried about offending him or about appearing offensive? I think the differences between these two ideas is important to consider, and you might be surprised at what you find is the actual truth here (and it has nothing to do with D/s and your allotted role.)

But anyway, as far as how to get over this psychological block:

I'm going to take a different tact.

When you consider playing with someone whose skin tone is different than yours, especially given the historical and psychological implications of equating the slavery we're involved in with the slavery preceding the civil war, it might help to keep in your head, the comments of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. While he was commenting on jobs and housing and all sorts of other civil rights issues, I believe what he said is perfect for this situation.

" I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.."

The notion that a man should be judged by the content of his character and not by the color of his skin is pretty neat. When you're looking at the man standing before you, if you see him as a "black man" you are seeing the color of his skin, not the content of his character. When you can look at the man that offers himself to you in good faith, recognize the good in that and see his character before you see his skin, you'll be on your way to bridging that concern of yours.

Oh, and I don't think your dilemma is only found on the D-side. I had many of those same concerns when I first became involved with my Master. When I took the time to consider what was making things difficult though, I discovered that he wasn't in the least bit offended by the whole Master/slave thing. It was me who didn't want to appear offensive. When I realized I was looking at him as a "BLACK man," I didn't like what I saw in me very much at all. It was when I came to understand that the way I was raised was affecting how I was interacting with this wonderful person and I decided to think for myself. In that moment, he became a man who happened to be black, just as I was a woman who happened to be white.

Now days, I'm just plain, outright smitten with him, and I could care less if he or I were purple with pink polka dots.

juliet

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:34:35 AM   
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Ja, M---

That is the Vik in you talking.

For a little history for the rest of you concering the Scandinavians:

They were equal opportunity slavers,  didn't matter who the fuck you were, if they wanted you, they took you and enslaved you.

They named the Slavic people Slavic, just because of this.

They called black people Blaumenn (blue men) and were not racist, they owned them too.

They came up with the  idea in their religion of a  Svarth Alfheim to explain the phonecian slaves that they had working the mines, to the children.

good slaves were family, there were not the resources to abuse them, it was much work, and many  deaths to snag slaves.

This does not nullify the fact that if you were trouble, they would carve a deaths eagle on your back (split the backbone and pull your lungs out and spread them like wings) if you were big problems.  They held people in the highest honor who did not scream or moan as this was being done since you were quite alive as it happened.

Just a couple ditties, there is more.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:43:36 AM   
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This does not nullify the fact that if you were trouble, they would carve a deaths eagle on your back (split the backbone and pull your lungs out and spread them like wings) if you were big problems.  They held people in the highest honor who did not scream or moan as this was being done since you were quite alive as it happened.




ewww... just... ewwwww

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 8:45:27 AM   
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Well, they liked obedience, you see. Strong wishes call for strong measures.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 9:53:30 AM   
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Well, they liked obedience, you see. Strong wishes call for strong measures.


You can find harsh punishments and death in every slave owning society. In fact, I think it is necessarily part of these societies. Remember this isn't consensual so you must do things to enforce the authority of one group over another. The more harsh the punishment, especially if it can be public, the greater the theoretical impact on others who might be thinking of disobeying or rebelling.

Also given it is non-consensual there is a constant threat of rebellion and violence on both sides. Remember if slaves are making your food or watching your offspring they can fairly easily do you harm.

Fear is common in slave owning societies, I'd say that fear is common among all the people involved. I think that fear can be a very big negative for a society because it can urge us to behave in a manner that we might not if we lived without fear.

This is one of the big reasons why when people romanticize historical or institutional slavery I say "no thanks". I prefer the consensual myself for many reasons but no or low levels of fear is part of that preference.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 10:21:09 AM   
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thetammyjoe,

I agree for the most part word for word.  Adopted as family or not, at the end of the day they were slaves, and MUST obey and please.

It is indeed a sweet nectar when they just NEED and WANT to obey and please.

Ron

and of course that is the whole gamut of the game and all it should be.


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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 11:58:25 AM   
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I have had a similar problem myself but it only seems to arise when the man himself makes a deal out of being treated like he's on a southern plantation or even worse because he's black and I'm white so he MUST be a slave (shudder). That's the same problem I have when someone who is Jewish tells me he wants to be treated like he's in a concentration camp or being forced to convert by the inquisition (shudder).

I've had both requests, multiple times, and have successfully executed both scenes in a negotiated, consensual manner.  They were apparently very cathartic to the requestor, and it helped me gain alot of insight as to the reason why someone would request that.  There are times that we do play the role of the therapist or therapeutic practitioner. 

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 2:17:23 PM   
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I think MistressPandora has helped clear the air a bit here.
It seems we are trying to explain the racial issue itself and trying to cultivate it into the lifestyle relationship.
There are two separate issues in my opinion.
To Tammy JO:
We have had disagreements in the past, and I am not quite sure what you are trying to say to us.
I grew up in the deep south with Racial hatred.  It is very real.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 3:00:48 PM   
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Likewise, while you are correct that the systems used by European colonial powers in the Americas and elsewhere were highly racialized, this too was not without precedent (many other cultures formerly based systems of slavery upon phenotype),  though I will grant that modern systems exhibit more of these race-based features.   


I'll admit my history is not really up to the task, but it was my impression that historical slavery, with the notable exception of the negro slave trade, was not (in this respect) so much based on using skin color to justify things as it was on nationality, e.g. conquered nations.

Semi-related:
If anyone has good historical info on slavery in Japan, I'd appreciate a PM about sources, both books and web.


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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 3:28:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MissSCD

I think MistressPandora has helped clear the air a bit here.
It seems we are trying to explain the racial issue itself and trying to cultivate it into the lifestyle relationship.
There are two separate issues in my opinion.
To Tammy JO:
We have had disagreements in the past, and I am not quite sure what you are trying to say to us.
I grew up in the deep south with Racial hatred. It is very real.

Regards, MissSCD


Huh?

Where would you possibly get the idea that I don't think racism is real?

In fact I've said that is one of the unique things about New World slavery and if I step outside my historian's clothes and apply my own ethics it is the worse part about it in my opinion.

Did you read what I've said in this thread or only been reading into what I've said based on past things you've disagreed with?

I'm getting a bit pissed at folks not reading what I'm saying but instead ignoring the bulk of what I say.

Though to be honest I'm sure I do that as well from time to time or more often than that depending on how things touch my emotions.

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RE: Racial Issue...Any Advice? - 7/22/2007 3:32:34 PM   
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I have had a similar problem myself but it only seems to arise when the man himself makes a deal out of being treated like he's on a southern plantation or even worse because he's black and I'm white so he MUST be a slave (shudder). That's the same problem I have when someone who is Jewish tells me he wants to be treated like he's in a concentration camp or being forced to convert by the inquisition (shudder).

I've had both requests, multiple times, and have successfully executed both scenes in a negotiated, consensual manner. They were apparently very cathartic to the requestor, and it helped me gain alot of insight as to the reason why someone would request that. There are times that we do play the role of the therapist or therapeutic practitioner.


That's great that you are able to do this. For me, it is probably near a hard limit, especially if someone approached me with these needs early on.

Now if I've been with someone for a while and they say "You know I've always had this fantasy" that would be an entirely different dynamic, motivation and scenario to me.

Personally if I feel a scene is being used as any type of therapy I get uncomfortable. It's ok to blow off steam and process basic feelings with me, I encourage it, but anything deepr, well, I'm not a therapist. I'm not comfortable being seen as one.

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