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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 7/21/2007 7:27:41 PM   
NefertariReborn


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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

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ORIGINAL: substance78

2 Things will interupt my life

1. Work

2. Family

so yes i think your being unreasonable
as for his attitude, chia seems to be that sort of person. being angry at his personality is something it seems she had time to either change or accept.
others may not find it cute, she obviously finds some redeeming quality in it, so just one of those quirks of their relationship

other have sudgested unplugging for a bit of time, that is not unreasonable to ask

as for blameing him, you of course have every right, your the Domme, and Dommes get to place the blame elsewhere


substance78, ahhhh actually three things will interrupt your life,

work, family, and ya ta ta da, chia* (the pet)

While you're out there searching for starfish, see if you can find your way
back through this thread. Why you ask? i'll break it down for ya;

1. Nefertari's boy is referred to as "dream", (a hot sexy little number)

2. i am referred to as chia* (the pet), (a hot hairy little number)

3. Nefertari's boy "dream" left while the temple was in full bloom

4. chia* pet tilled the garden and planted the seed to encourage the bloom

5. As for attitude, claiming one has such without substance, is ignorance

6. chia* pet is the sort of person who loves to find the lighter side of all things

7. Be sure you know all the characters in the play before offering critique

8. Off to your left, there's a shark fin, GET OUT OF THE WATER!

9. chia* pet wouldn't warn you of such if he was "that kind of person"

chia* (the pet)  


ch-ch-ch-chia!!! LOL Hugs and smooches and such! you rock ...see what I mean about that jury thing?  I'd be swinging on the rope before I could say "Sadaam!"

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 7/21/2007 7:30:25 PM   
NefertariReborn


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Yes, actually, I believe yo are being unreasonable to be angry with him. IF you dont want to explain to everyone why he cant answer the phone while he is trying to get you off, thats your choice.


What is to explain?  I am really confused; do you explain to everyone why you don't answer a particular phone call?

Family obligations to me do not mean that I am at their beck and call.  The only person that I have to offer an explanation to for why I cannot answer a phone when it rings is my Lord.  Anyone else does not get an explanation and if they ask for one, will most likely only get that I was busy.  If they press for more details, I might just give them more than they bargained for and say I was masturbating.  *eg*

Knight's Kyra


Ummmm I forgot to add that I did use that same phraseology with him ....Only Jesus himself I think I said....butttttttttt see I'm growwwwwwwing, taking advice, setting parameters....there's hope for Me yet. 

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/15/2007 2:32:08 PM   
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imho, i agree with the 911 txt idea, especially since aforementioned "handy-man" stuff could have been handled later that day, WITHOUT interupting the action :)

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/16/2007 5:39:00 AM   
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Since he had your permission to answer family calls...he had to answer to see if there was a problem.  I don't think you should stay mad at him...afterall..you said you and he are about to make it r/l.  Don't let this situation ruin all the excitement.  When he gets there with you, you will have much more control over him so the problem should work itself out then.  Best of luck to you..

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/16/2007 6:23:38 AM   
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Bleeding or burning is an emergency.  Hammering in a nail.... probably not so vitally urgent.  I know he saw it as important, but it's really difficult to accept interruptions JUST at the wrong moment, and I can understand your frustration. 

I've had a lot of success with taking the phone off the hook during play, and turning off mobile phones.  (Nothing kills passion faster than a phone call from your mother just at THAT moment.) 

Talk about it in a quiet moment, and lay some ground rules.  And let him know how frustrated and disappointed you were.

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/16/2007 7:03:20 PM   
NefertariReborn


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Bleeding or burning is an emergency.  Hammering in a nail.... probably not so vitally urgent.  I know he saw it as important, but it's really difficult to accept interruptions JUST at the wrong moment, and I can understand your frustration. 

I've had a lot of success with taking the phone off the hook during play, and turning off mobile phones.  (Nothing kills passion faster than a phone call from your mother just at THAT moment.) 

Talk about it in a quiet moment, and lay some ground rules.  And let him know how frustrated and disappointed you were.


Thanks Guys! But this is an old thread! dream and I worked this out a month ago.  But thanks for sharing your ideas. 

Now everyone else ...one more time....case closed...the problem didn't even last 24 hours. 

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/17/2007 7:39:10 AM   
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Doh

< Message edited by ProlificNeeds -- 8/17/2007 7:40:07 AM >

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/17/2007 5:15:55 PM   
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I guess I would like to respond, but not to tell you how to handle it...but I can relate to both feelings..
recently, something very similar happened to Us...
this is how He handled it:
 
 first> Master has always made it clear to me that when my daughter calls while we are talking ( or are with one another )  ..no matter what, He wants to know its her calling and I am to excuse myself and answer the call..
so
similar situation and sensations going on that you describe...and
my phone rings...groan.. its daugther.. i tell Him...He says answer it and make sure that shes ok and find out where she is.
i do> everything is fine but she's insistant that she needs to inform me of her "day" right then and despite my encouragement that she tell me later> she persists...I listen.....its a relatively short conv  but shes very effectively popped me out of my head/zone.............i go back on the line with Master> tell him shes fine...He asks me if Im ok ( because ive become very silent and sniffly) i tell him that im ok but that i feel awful that this interrupted US and i tell him how sorry i am...he stops me and reminds me it is HIS idea and command and i did as i was told to do...i thank Him, still trying to resolve it in my head a little and trying my best to "move on from it" .....its about 5 mins and He has done his level best to re-set our brains...its working.............working well in fact ..........and HIS phone rings...its His mother................................He started laughing....I asked ummmm what?  He said > Its my mom> should I get it < He said to break the moments tension and just put it all in perspective......we both laughed and groaned...and He took the call....
made it short.....called me back after a bit  and we just chuckled and reminded ourselves that life happens...
He gave me an assignment ( for later ::weg::: ) and we had a cooling down time of talking and feeling close to one another that way ....
 
He didnt let me beat myself up (even tho i sure wanted to and felt badly )  over it all..and He didnt get all in a bunch either when it happened to Him...
I guess in His mind ( altho probably best to ask Him ) it was more important to Him that we both left the conversation and the night and went to bed> "holding " each other and focusing on what was positive about US..and not the moment that didnt/couldnt happen that time..
 
don't know if this has helped...
it just felt right to share that it happens : ) and that We can relate ... He made sure i knew i had done the right thing and that He wasn't upset at me or with me > dissappointed ? sure..but not in US..just in the moment that got away...
 
my assignment later was effective and all was well...is well ...
 
Our LDR is new ..relatively...I was/ and re-am  His collared submissive for 10 yrs while we lived in the same area..( did not live together then ) ...We know, to make LDR work, until i can get back to AZ, it will take some extra patience and lots of very good and open communication.. on BOTH of our parts...
The fastest way to undermine my sense of security about what we DO have > is for me to get caught up in the  " i should have done that better..i might have dissappointed him...i'm not enough to please Him " ....and for Him not to put my mind straight about that...immediately.
I cannot SEE His reactions and feelings....so  i have to trust and rely on His words and open expression of His feelings....and HE likewise mine...
 
do you know, yet, how that incident made him( your sub)  feel?
 



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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/17/2007 5:17:37 PM   
Cyntilating


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omg
all that for nothing...I reeeaaallly need to pay better attn to the dates on these posts...grrrrrr..
 
sorry I rambled..
glad you worked it all out....
 
sigh

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RE: When "real life" crashes in...or rings as... - 8/17/2007 5:36:10 PM   
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i think, while its still over the internet that you really cant expect him not to go about his daily life, despite being in the middle of a scene with you. in person, you could simply not let him pick up his phone, or pick it up yourself and say that hes busy; but while hes supposedly home alone, with no real good excuse not to, he should be able to answer the phone at any time, especially when its family. i dont know about him or you, but my family is the type to repeatedly call when i dont pick up the phone, and stick their nose into my business; "well, WHY cant you come over? whats the big deal? cant what ever youre doing wait a little while? are you with someone, no? then whats the problems!" etc. its not like he can say "hey sis, im with my gf/friend right now, can i call you back later?" because you arent actually there, and(at least in my family) there simply isnt any work important enough not to answer a call from family and/or talk, help them, go over, do something for them, walk the damn dead dog.....you get the idea.

you said he was going to be moving in with you soon? then who cares, he'll be yours 24/7 and his family wont be able to reach him so readily. then you can have all the fun in the world! ^_~

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