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RE: i don't want to seem like a needy submissive but...... - 7/22/2007 8:05:43 PM

daddyscherry

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ORIGINAL: subsweetkitty

It definitely does help to have some form of contact. I dont think its a female/male thing as some have said. Its more of a compatibility issue.

i wonder though about this, my Daddy was all super tex message Man and calling, like i said we would talk and talk...then once he was comfortable it slowed down.

As a woman, and someone who was conditioned to that constant and consistent contact with my Master it has been really difficult to adjust to.

This is where i think the male/female difference may come in....i continue to need/want it and my Daddy is totally comfortable talking to me and having less contact with me while he is out and about doing his thing.

i laughed last night because there was a commedian on and he was talking about how women need to talk and converse about their feelings and the like; just talking with the guy...something that is soooo different than alot of men....So many make fun of this type of thing in their stand up routines that it makes me wonder if there really is alot of truth to it....because even though comedy tends to exagerate the truth there is usually a lot of truth underneath it all...it is an exageration of something that is commonplace.

Just my opinion and observations.

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RE: i don't want to seem like a needy submissive but...... - 7/23/2007 9:16:09 AM

littleone35

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I am nor in a new relationship going on 17 months now. I still need to hear from Master every day. He usually calls early in the morning when i am asleep and leaves me a voice mail than he calls lunch time, then i see him later in the day. Since i need to hear from him i guess that make me one of those needy subs. Master understands i need that contact so he does it.

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RE: i don't want to seem like a needy submissive but...... - 7/23/2007 11:38:00 AM

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We're both into major contact. Back when we were ldr we would email twice a day, chat for an hour at night and call whenever we had a moment free. But that's us. I know a woman who's fine speaking to her dom on Thursdays for ten minutes just to confirm the weekend plans.

To me, they have a cold relationship. To her; we're codependent. The important thing here is that we both stated upfront what our needs were and decided ahead of time if we were compatible. The question here is why you got into a relationship with this man without bothering to ask about this? It's like sleeping with the window open or closed, you can work out differences but not if you don't know about them.

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RE: i don't want to seem like a needy submissive but...... - 7/23/2007 2:19:03 PM

slaveish

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I like contact but I don't ~need~ it. I have lots to keep me busy - lots of interests and activities, especially with UM's out of school for the summer.

I'm with windchymes, to a degree. Although I don't need or expect every day contact, when we are in touch I don't like to feel I have forced the communication, preferring that he seek me out because he wants my company.

If it is a direct order that I am to be the one in daily communication, then that is his wish and I am fine with it. We all want to feel wanted and needed but I don't particularly need this sort of acknowledgement (but I do have my own miscellaneous oddities).

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