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ORIGINAL: auroraborealis

As some have said... there are goobers on every site. It just takes open eyes to see them. We all are hoping like hell people are real, and honest. Trust me when I tell you it could have been much much worse. I took everything a Dom said as the gospel, did his bidding.. was his girl. Dealt with his primary who hated me from step one. I ended up pregnant due to a swift one being pulled on me. Due to all the stress I miscarried and he utterly locked me out and dissapeared for months. Would not return phone calls, e-mails, nothing. I felt like everything was my fault, and I could not turn to the one person that I felt could make it all ok. A missed meeting is a blessing in disguise. If he is not sure enough to meet you... then he was not ready. Shake it off and move on. If I did not become bitter or scarred by what happened to me then surely others can move on and think positively. Everything happens for a reason.

Just as anyone who says right off they don't care what your prefferances are, or what your thoughts are.. you should high tail it. That is no way to begin a relationship.. even just a purely D/s one. It takes communication and a bond. If you don't give a fig about someone then what the hell are you doing playing with others? Buy a blow up doll, a whip, and a tape of someone moaning.. and excuse yourself from the room for a bit.

Just my 2 cents... but then I am technicaly a Switch.. so I know it from both sides of the whip.

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm a bad boy.  I'm officially warning all the girls.

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ORIGINAL: sexypet

So i had this whole reply typed out and got some weird "Admin You are not allowed to post in this area" bs message and now it is gone.

Abort, Retry.

Sexyred, i used to date those men from NY/NJ, (when i lived in CT) and i soooooooooooo know what you are talking about.  After meeting more than my fair share of men from the internet in person, and thinking i had the "process" down ( how to be smart, and safe with my heart and body), it happened to me again recently.  This RI Sir said and did all the right things, until W/we were a couple, that is, and then suddenly He had no honor and His word had no meaning, and i got shelved. 

So anyways, i just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, and i know and share in your disappointment.

Dating was supposed to be fun.

i use to use that xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx  website, but they recently removed the search by state feature, making the website virtually useless.

[Mod Note:  URL removed]

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

If you guys could write a list, we'd all be on it.

You're a fake to 99.9% of the people on here, and they're fakes to you.  Get over it.  Then you meet your match, who is a fake to everyone else, and he's on the blacklist too.  So you ditch him.

IT DOESN'T FUCKING WORK.

Yours,


benji

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed

... We live, love and learn and get up and do it all over again, because what is the alternative?

giggles. 

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed
ok, point taken. so what is the alternative?

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed
ok, point taken. so what is the alternative?

Ummmmmmmmmm....  make your own judgement?  And learn?  Maybe if we stop waiting for others to solve our problems, and trying to solve everyone else's, idiocy will evolve itself out.

Yours,


benji

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I would be willing to put my name on the top of the list....You dirty whores!......Is there such a thing as bad press?.....Some stupid twat would read the list and say to herself, "I bet I can change him." 

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Some stupid twat would read the list and say to herself, "I bet I can change him." 

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ORIGINAL: ModeratorEleven

Folks, please keep in mind that blacklists are not allowed here and links to such will be removed, along with the raft of flames that usually seem to spring up when this topic rears it's ugly head.

XI

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed
Who asked for anyone to solve anyone's problems? I made a judgement call, it was fucked up and life goes on. Apparently you feel that someone needs to be seriously maimed physically or emotionally to get a shoulder to lean on here. Thanks for your input.

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm a bad boy.  I'm officially warning all the girls.

nah...you are not so bad. you seem kinda sweet...really.

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

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ORIGINAL: SexyRed
Who asked for anyone to solve anyone's problems? I made a judgement call, it was fucked up and life goes on. Apparently you feel that someone needs to be seriously maimed physically or emotionally to get a shoulder to lean on here. Thanks for your input.

Nope.  I think that if someone gets seriously maimed from deciding to play with a wood chipper, they will hopefully learn from it, and, when asked about their lack of arm, come up with a story that doesn't make them look like someone who doesn't know the basic idea behind heavy machinery.

It's the internet.  People lie.  If you let that get to you, then the vacant, 30 second posts of sympathy from strangers will probably cheer you up.  And if those cheer you up, you have not understood the basic idea behind an anonymous network of people.

Yours,


benji

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ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28
with men being the way they are (and i am sure there are women like that too)