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ORIGINAL: salilus

How do you show your respect to your top/owner/dominant/master/mistress/insert-honorific-here? What things do you do or say that make it utterly clear that you respect them?

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ORIGINAL: LadyHeart
One of the things that shows respect is to be the best person you can be in order to show them they are valued. This includes acting with good manners at all times, and listening intently to everything they say, and putting it into action. One of the most disrespectful things we can do to another person is to listen with less than full attention. If we admire someone, we hang on their every word, and we try to be worthy of their respect in return. We dress the way they like, prepare the food they like, and eliminate any habit they find annoying. What it comes down to is finding out as much about them as you can, by active listening, and shaping your own behaviour accordingly. It is true in the outside world as well as the D/s world

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'll actually ask them questions and listen to the answers.

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

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ORIGINAL: LadyHeart
One of the things that shows respect is to be the best person you can be in order to show them they are valued. This includes acting with good manners at all times, and listening intently to everything they say, and putting it into action. One of the most disrespectful things we can do to another person is to listen with less than full attention. If we admire someone, we hang on their every word, and we try to be worthy of their respect in return. We dress the way they like, prepare the food they like, and eliminate any habit they find annoying. What it comes down to is finding out as much about them as you can, by active listening, and shaping your own behaviour accordingly. It is true in the outside world as well as the D/s world

Wow....what a great, thoughtful answer.  I "ditto" that.  I place Master's pillows exactly like He likes them.  I curl up with Him just as He likes even though it's not the most comfortable sleeping position for me and we listen to the music He chooses and not my favorite Seventies station as we drift off to sleep.  I get up at 4 am to get Him off to work when He has an early shift even though I'm dead tired myself and I start His shower, make His coffee, and pack His lunch all with a smile on my face and pleasant tone of voice.  I'm available when He calls at lunch and I do all the household chores like meals, laundry, etc. to the best of my ability.  I pay attention, make mental notes, and remember to do things just as He likes them without having to be told more than once.  I put on and take off His socks and shoes and lovingly massage His tired feet when He gets home.  I start His shower and dry Him off.  I read aloud to Him.  I serve as His efficient, organized secretary and remind Him (without nagging) of important things He needs to remember.  I listen to Him complain about the idiots at work and I listen to Him go on happily about all He got accomplished at work.  When He'd rather not drive, I do.  I trust Him enough to be open with Him about all things, not just what I think He wants to hear.  I do all these and a million other little things to show Him just how much He means to me.  I truly do admire, respect, and look up to Him and I tell Him so all the time.  I could not be owned by and/or obey One whom I did not genuinely feel respect for.  I put His happiness above mine at all times and you know what?  That makes my own happiness all the greater.  His happiness truly brings about mine.  I love Him more than anyone else in the world but, in addition, I respect Him and that makes our relationship so much deeper.  Sorry for rambling on but you asked, salilus..........luci 

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ORIGINAL: NefertariReborn
*wipes a tear* Gosh, that was beautiful.

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ORIGINAL: salilus

I went searching on the topic of respect in these forums and, for the most part, what I found was a lot of talk about how respect is earned and how we only give respect to such and such person with this, that, and the other qualities and so on and so forth.

However, lets pretend you are actually with someone you respect (skip the pretending, if you actually are with someone you respect, obviously); lets get past who deserves respect and when and why they should have it and get to the nitty gritty:

How do you show your respect to your top/owner/dominant/master/mistress/insert-honorific-here? What things do you do or say that make it utterly clear that you respect them?

I'm not talking about love, either - you don't have to love someone in order to respect them. I've cared about and loved a number of people in my life who I just can't find it in myself to respect. I honestly want to know what symbols, rituals, words, etc you use that show your respect.

Why am I asking? Because I am curious and because I've found that I have a rather skewed mentality on how I give respect to a person. Meaning, I honestly think I'm showing a person respect by doing X but they're used to someone doing Y to show them respect. I've never had the opportunity and inclination (at the same time) to ask the question, either.

PS: If your answer happens to be, "I get naked and bare my whole self," or something to that effect, it's not what I'm looking for. I get naked for my doctor. I don't do it because I respect her. If I were to call her 'ma'am' or something to that effect, that is because I respect her.

Thanks in advance!

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
There are times when I would like to give you a big wet kiss.....What a brilliant but simple fucking answer.

We live in a world full of shit heads....To actually listen to what someone is saying is one of the best ways that I could ever show that I respect that individual.....Everything else rather pales in comparison.

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I'll actually ask them questions and listen to the answers.

There are times when I would like to give you a big wet kiss.....What a brilliant but simple fucking answer.

We live in a world full of shit heads....To actually listen to what someone is saying is one of the best ways that I could ever show that I respect that individual.....Everything else rather pales in comparison.